emma93 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 So my ex and I broke up about 4 months ago and I'm still feeling really sad over it. We went out for 2 years. It was a bad breakup and we haven't seen each other or spoken since except for a text here and there usually about getting stuff back. I'm heartbroken obviously because I was so wrapped up in our relationship and honestly saw myself with him forever. We obviously fought and there were trust problems and issues with the fact that he smoked weed all the time and stopped making an effort with us after a year, when he started college. To put it simply I was very naive and couldn't see us breaking up. I don't speak to him or anything now and I never even get urges to text or call I'm just so upset over the whole thing and feel like I was totally let down by someone who I thought cared. I don't want to get back together or be anywhere near him even because even hearing about him in anyway makes me feel like I've been punched in the stomach! It's like I'm scared of him? I want absolutely nothing to do with him and would be happy if he moved away. I wish I wasn't like this obviously because I know I probably will see him eventually I just hate feeling so miserable if my friends even mention his name. I've taken him and his friends off of my news feed on Facebook so I don't have to see photos of him or know anything about his life. It might seem drastic but cutting him out completely is the only way I can move on because having anything to do with him makes me so upset and feel terrible. So basically I'm just so sick and tired of feeling like this. I have good days and bad days and I'm keeping busy with friends. I go out and do things all the time since breaking up. I was even with a guy after him, that I brought to my debs ball/senior prom but, as it usually happens, it didn't work out (he said he felt bad on my ex getting involved) and I ended up feeling crap over that too because I started to really like him and it helped me feel better about the situation for a while. I just feel like my ex shouldn't bother me anymore and that I should be over it now :/ I don't want to feel sick whenever I hear something about him and would like to know that I will stop hurting and he won't have this effect on me forever... Thanks Emma
NewPerspective93 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Did you just take him off your news feed, but are still friends with him? I think you should block him so you don't find yourself going over their wall. It was hard for me, but it's helping me pick up the pieces one piece at a time. I'm sorry to hear your situation. Best of luck, and things will get better.
Pinky777 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 You were with him for 2 years, it's natural and normal to still be upset. You are young and he was probably your first love, first boyfriend, first heartbreak. I remember how heart-wrenching that can be. You will never forget him, but you will get over him. I can't remember how long it took but it gets a little better day by day. Give yourself some time. You're doing all the right things spending time with friends, trying to date, blocking all contact. It won't happen all at once, you won't wake up one day and be over him, but you will stop one day and realize that you haven't thought about him at all that day and that will be a little victory. It's so hard but you can't give him that power over you to care anymore. One thing that helped me to get over my ex of 15 years was to realize that while I was crying my eyes out over him, he simply did not care. It hurt to think that, but it pushed me forward. If I can do it, trust me, anyone can...good luck!
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