Karmic79 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 (edited) He seemed to like and care about me (even told me this himself) but we only saw each other once a week. Pursued me, always rang me first and sent texts first to me most the time. We dated as well as being intimate and hung out in public also but had never met his friends or family or anything like that while seeing each other. Just do not understand why he would keep it going like for an extra month and a half, even though I told him I was not looking for a casual thing a month into it. Till I was more upfront about things a month and a half later. After that he ends it. I am still confused when I think about it. Why did he not end it when I said I did not want casual a month into it. Only to end it a month and a half later after I was more upfront about not wanting friends with benefits? Not wanting casual is not that hard to understand. He kept pursuing me during two and a half months after I had said I don't want casual. Only to end it when I was more upfront about not wanting friends with benefits! I never pressured him into anything so I do not know what I did wrong! I just stated what I wanted. I was not even directly asking for a relationship but did want to get some kind of idea that it was going to lead somewhere. We were enjoying each other's company. Even he admitted he enjoyed my company. Also, went on about how great the sex was. Just confused by what happened that is all. I am glad that I did speak up though. When I saw a few red flags. I was not going to let this keep happening and waste my time. Still. The confusing part is why he kept it going for another month and a half fully aware that casual was not what I wanted. Edited November 25, 2012 by Karmic79
MyPoutine Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Did you have sex before the "I want something serious" talk? If not, then that's why.
Yookie Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 We were enjoying each other's company. Even he admitted he enjoyed my company. Also, went on about how great the sex was. Just confused by what happened that is all. I am glad that I did speak up though. When I saw a few red flags. I was not going to let this keep happening and waste my time. Still. The confusing part is why he kept it going for another month and a half fully aware that casual was not what I wanted. This is why he kept it going. You allowed it to keep going and he was having a great time enjoying the sex. If you really don't want to have a casual fling, then you will need to stop having casual flings! Actions speak louder than words. You should have let him know that you don't do casual flings and then backed up your assertion by keeping your legs closed. If he was just interested in sex then he would not have stuck around for the next 2 months. Spend enough time to get to know him before you jump into bed. You will find out what kind of person he is and it will give you both time to find out if you're interested in seeing each other exclusively.
SmileFace Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Because you allowed it. There isn't much to understand.
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