When to break NC?

[Lone]

Hi guys, just looking for a bit of advice...

 

My gf ended things last Tuesday (5days ago). Back story can be found here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/356788-gf-assistance/new-post.html

 

Be warned its a long read.

 

I've been in NC for last 5days. This tues will be a week. Last night she text my friend saying she missed me so much but needs to keep busy. Immediately my heart jumped when I heard this.

 

I've spent countless hours reading online about strategies to get her back yada yada. And hence the no contact since the break up. I'm wondering if it would be wise to text her and just keep it might hearted saying that been thinking of her and hope everything's been going well and maybe crack a joke and say something we used to always joke about.

 

I'm not sure if this is a smart move or not. But plz keep in mind I want her back.

I could either text her and see how it goes or leave it and wait (pray) she contacts me.

 

Also she's having dinner with my friend this week where I'm sure this will all come up so I could wait to hear some feedback from that.

 

She hasn't cut the FB relationship status yet and hasn't asked to pick up her stuff or for me to pick up mine.

 

Any advice appreciated.

X

[Tmo2]

 

My gf ended things last Tuesday (5days ago).

I've been in NC for last 5days. This tues will be a week.

 

Take the time you have to think about this. Why did she ended things? Don't forget that she broke it off, you have to be strong at this time. Remember who you really are, what is your worth. Try to think how your life would be if you were single (you now are).

 

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I understand how shes feeling, we have been have been ignoring other things that should be important to both of us; friends, our own hobbies etc etc. She was left with the impression that I 100% want to make it work but if its not what she wants I will respect her decision and walk away.

 

- At the moment, I know I love her and want to fix it.

- She needs to know what life without me will be like.

- She will know I have some self worth at least and know I deserve better.

- The end goal of this is to get her back.

 

These are very good realisations. Now it is important that you follow thru. Start fixing yourself,;; this takes time. Do what you can to better yourself and do it for yourself. (For example ::This usually means cutting in bad habbits (smoking drinking video gaming gambling etc. etc. Cut the bad relationships (people that influence you in a bad way). Get serious about working out. Eat ealthy. Fill your time with things that will make you grow up.

 

Start thinking about your personnal future.

Have fun!