DirtyDancing Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 (edited) First time this has happened to me, so not sure how to handle it... I met a man over a year ago and there was a very powerful chemistry, we waited some time before beginning to pursue something and long story short, other factors intervened and prevented us from pursuing what we had wanted to. I know that there was mutual feelings that lasted for some time, he was sincere with me, and he did care for me. In fact, he was completely head over heels about me. We continued to talk sporadically over the course of a year's time, but he made the choice that we should not have a personal relationship due to outside taboos, so to speak. Our last contact was several months ago now, he insisted that I let him know if he could ever help me in any way and to contact him. I still feel that there is something there, he just keeps a distance because I think he feels like I'm off-limits. (I'm single, it's just other factors). The problem is, I have true feelings for him, even though we never were able to pursue anything more than just one actual date. It's hard to understand how I could feel so strongly about someone I barely know, but I've acknowledged that he made a major impression on me. I've seen him recently walk by on the street... don't know if he can see me from inside where I sit sometimes, working. I feel like a lovesick idiot, never telling him how I still feel and not knowing how he still feels. We know what it was before, but now it may be unrequited. I've given up trying to forget him because I haven't been able to in all this time, after the handful of men I've dated recently, no one can hold a candle to what I felt between us. Since I can't forget him, how can I get him out of my heart? Edited November 25, 2012 by DirtyDancing
dasein Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Air it out here, and then create a plan to move on. Get out and cultivate some other options for yourself. Good luck.
Author DirtyDancing Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 (edited) I feel like I have tried to do that, but nothing seems to work. I've put myself out there, dated, but nothing has come close to comparing. At the end of the day, he's the one I want the most. I felt there was something special. To make matters worse, I see him walk by occasionally as we work close to each other. This has been bothering me for some time.. I wonder if it would be best to tell him how I still feel because he doesn't know! On the other hand, I'm too chicken to do that because he already told me that he felt we shouldn't pursue anything because of the circumstances. At the same time he told me that he hoped to hear from me and wanted to help me. So confused... Edited November 25, 2012 by DirtyDancing
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