nicole1 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 so heres the deal. My ex and i were together for three years. we werent perfect but i do think he loved me. he was so affectionate. he broke up with me about a month ago because he said that i was to insecure and it caused to many problems. he was right. i was unhealthy. i realized my worth and i realize that im insanely beautiful and have a great personality and truthfully i can get a ton of guys. after a week of being broken up, i tried to tell him that i realized that but he said he just didnt want to work on it. to him, we werent worth fighting for. i went three weeks without talking to him hoping that he would miss me. i know that i can get a ton of guys but the simple fact of the matter is, i want him. he was my best friend and he said i was his. he told me days before we broke up how much he loved me and how i was his princess and stuff. quite frankly, i think physically i am out of his league but our personalities just really click. no one understood me like he did. i was asked so many times what i saw in him because im too pretty for him. but it doesnt change the fact that i still think we are perfect together. im still really in love with him. after three weeks of not talking to each other, i caved and texted him. we had a short, normal, casual conversation. it was nice. a week after our casual conversation, i asked if we could meet for coffee, to catch up. we did and again, it was really nice. it was like old times; talking, joking around, laughing. it wasnt awkward at all. i dont see why he cant see how perfect we are together. nothing physical happened, it was like two friends catching up. however, he clearly doesnt miss me if he isnt making any effort to talk to me. im making all the effort and im making barely any effort. i dont understand how he can just throw away 3 years like nothing. we are as compatible as ever and now is when he wants nothing to do with me? should i just give up and move on? a couple of guys have asked me out on dates since the break up but its just not the same as it was with my ex. i still miss my ex terribly. what should i do? do you guys think my ex is over me?
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Nobody here can answer your question, we are not psychic. Question for you though, why do you want someone who doesn't want you? Would you feel comfortable/confident in your relationship if you had to convince him you're perfect together and he came back? Let him go. Only he can decide to come back, to realize that he's made a mistake. However you can't wait around for someone who has decided to "not work at it", decided not to be with you. If you wait 1 day or 10 years for someone who doesn't want to be with you, either way, IT'S A WASTE OF TIME! All you're doing is depriving yourself of opportunities and life experiences for someone who's given up on you. 1
ReadMyThread Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 so heres the deal. My ex and i were together for three years. we werent perfect but i do think he loved me. he was so affectionate. he broke up with me about a month ago because he said that i was to insecure and it caused to many problems. he was right. i was unhealthy. i realized my worth and i realize that im insanely beautiful and have a great personality and truthfully i can get a ton of guys. after a week of being broken up, i tried to tell him that i realized that but he said he just didnt want to work on it. to him, we werent worth fighting for. i went three weeks without talking to him hoping that he would miss me. i know that i can get a ton of guys but the simple fact of the matter is, i want him. he was my best friend and he said i was his. he told me days before we broke up how much he loved me and how i was his princess and stuff. quite frankly, i think physically i am out of his league but our personalities just really click. no one understood me like he did. i was asked so many times what i saw in him because im too pretty for him. but it doesnt change the fact that i still think we are perfect together. im still really in love with him. after three weeks of not talking to each other, i caved and texted him. we had a short, normal, casual conversation. it was nice. a week after our casual conversation, i asked if we could meet for coffee, to catch up. we did and again, it was really nice. it was like old times; talking, joking around, laughing. it wasnt awkward at all. i dont see why he cant see how perfect we are together. nothing physical happened, it was like two friends catching up. however, he clearly doesnt miss me if he isnt making any effort to talk to me. im making all the effort and im making barely any effort. i dont understand how he can just throw away 3 years like nothing. we are as compatible as ever and now is when he wants nothing to do with me? should i just give up and move on? a couple of guys have asked me out on dates since the break up but its just not the same as it was with my ex. i still miss my ex terribly. what should i do? do you guys think my ex is over me? "quite frankly, I think I'm way out of his league" lol!!!! Really? So what your saying is you know there are way better looking guys out there than this guy but you want to be with him because your personalities click? Lol. You would end up cheating on this guy if you two were to stay together or you would leave him for someone else before you would do so. What would have happened if while you two were together, you notice that your personality clicks better with one of these way better looking guys out there that are in "your league" than this guy? He'd be toast lol. If you think your out of his league then in my opinion you should go find someone who is in your league because to be honest, he deserves someone who doesn't think like that. Not trying to be mean. Just my opinion. He's not the one for you is what I'm most likely getting at. Forget him.
sweetheart5381 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 "quite frankly, I think I'm way out of his league" lol!!!! Really? So what your saying is you know there are way better looking guys out there than this guy but you want to be with him because your personalities click? Lol. You would end up cheating on this guy if you two were to stay together or you would leave him for someone else before you would do so. What would have happened if while you two were together, you notice that your personality clicks better with one of these way better looking guys out there that are in "your league" than this guy? He'd be toast lol. If you think your out of his league then in my opinion you should go find someone who is in your league because to be honest, he deserves someone who doesn't think like that. Not trying to be mean. Just my opinion. He's not the one for you is what I'm most likely getting at. Forget him. Ya, I have always hate that phrase, "out of my league", however it's used. If I am with a man, he is clearly a match for me in lots of ways, physically, intellectually, emotionally... I could never think "league"-wise without insulting myself. I mean, I would never be with a man I didn't respect on all levels, otherwise I would be settling and ultimately unhappy. Looks are skin deep and I look a lot deeper than that. OP, if you think you are better than him "league-wise" you should just walk away and forget him. It would do far more harm for you two to attempt to stay together.
ReadMyThread Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Ya, I have always hate that phrase, "out of my league", however it's used. If I am with a man, he is clearly a match for me in lots of ways, physically, intellectually, emotionally... I could never think "league"-wise without insulting myself. I mean, I would never be with a man I didn't respect on all levels, otherwise I would be settling and ultimately unhappy. Looks are skin deep and I look a lot deeper than that. OP, if you think you are better than him "league-wise" you should just walk away and forget him. It would do far more harm for you two to attempt to stay together. Yeah see, the last part of what you said is what I was meaning from what I was saying. You said it better lol.
movingon12 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Basically you guys had a really great 'date' and it still wasn't enough for him. You've shown him what he is missing but he hasn't asked you to come back because your relationship clearly wasn't working for him, even if it was working for you. It really is time to move on, as much as that hurts.
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