PreBoy Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 First of all, Greetings to all Loving humans in this forum There's this woman who's older than me by 4 years. We've been working together for almost a year, went through lots of thick and thin together through all the projects we worked. First of all, I've always regarded and respected her as an elder sister to me. However, 2 months back, I starts to realized I think of her more often than not.. And this is where all my **** starts.. Just 2 months ago.. Btw, she's in a LDR with a guy and they're VERY shaky. Besides knowing this, I started to flirt and cared for her more than I should without me realizing it. We hit off really well and she starts to reciprocate my feelings. She finally agreed to go out on a date with me and during the date, I've told her I do not regard her as a Sister anymore and I even told her I liked her. All she say to me "be careful of getting burned" and I told her I'm already Burned (LOL). So yeah, after the first date, I decided to stop my feelings going out of control and shall avoid her the best I could during work. However after the date, she talks to me more and got very touchy with me and will jump into every opportunity to talk to me, I tried avoiding her to control my feelings for her but hey, we see each other 5 times a week. I even told her do not put me into any of her projects since she's leaving the company in another 3 months time. Instead, she forces me into her remaining projects and when I rejected, she went up to my Group Leader and requested for me. Since she's not going to let me off, I thought it might be fun continue "playing" with her. We started going out on 2 more dates and were very touchy and whenever I starts to be serious with her, she will put it off by either stating "I'm like her bro" or "I'm too young" (I'm 23 while she's 27 btw). She stopped telling me about her bf ever since I confessed that I like her. But one thing I know for sure is that her bf is flying over to visit her for a week during her birthday. She even told me that she does not want him to come over and do not even know why she's still in a relationship with him (He cheated on her before). She took 7 days leave and yes.. this is the 4th day of me not talking and seeing her.. And I'm like missing her so badly now... I tried every method to keep myself as busy as possible and not to think of her and text her or call her (read all of the advise in this forum) but to no avail. I MISSED her very badly, knowing that she's spending time with her BF and all makes me feel even worst. I sent her a birthday text yesterday and her reply was cold and uninterested hence I did not reply further so as not to cause me to be hurt more. Okay guys, I know I'm stupid to develop feelings for her where I should not have. I felt I was being played by her all these time!! I'm so angry at myself and sad this happened. I thought I'm beef enough to discipline my emotions but yeah.. I wasn't mature enough. I'll need advise now as I still has 3 projects with her and will be seeing her 2 weeks later in office. 1) How can I stop my feelings for her to develop further so I can work professionally? 2) How should I avoid her so as not to make things awkward between us. I'm very sure that going back to being the close sister and brothers now is impossible between us now. I need to get back on track with my life! I hope my story doesn't bore you, and will appreciate every advise I could get to get her out of my head and to be able to perform in my work too. I doubt anyone will actually read all of what I wrote lol, but if you read it full, you have my thanks
Feelin Frisky Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I have been there--I met my g/f in my 20's on the job and she was 4 years older too. I had worked there for five years already since 18 and had developed really hard crushes on one or two girls before this one. But I was tired of working hard and not seeing anyone even though I had a little fling with someone that used to work there but moved on. I just knew this one liked me and she was pleasant about how she showed it--not overkill at all. I can't offer any advice because we threw ourselves into it. We didn't work "together" but on the same floor in a skyscraper in NYC. It depends on who everyone is and their trusts and tolerances. Although we loved each other and had some great times--best sex ever, it was a stupid unplanned relationship that had no future. But I was still young and capable when we moved on. The period after we broke up was sad but liberating and I took advantage of it and felt like I got younger somehow--with her went my childhood in many ways and it was full of cigarettes and beer. It's great to be 30 and single and free and on top of your image. After that, CHOOSE WISELY.
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