the worst experience in my life

[johnberkly]

I guess ill start when we first met i think about when we were 5 are parents were friends we used to play together after then i had never seen her again tell grade 7 in grade 7 we were best friends we both had huge crushes on eachother but we were young wed go to movies every weekened and talk everyday but then we had a falling out we started talking again in grade 9 and this time i was ready we texted all day we flirted before this point i had never kissed a girl because i believed in only kissing someone you really like we went out and she came out to me we kissed we talked she'd get drunk tell me she wanted to be with me and then the next day tell me no then shed would hook up with other guys this went on for about 4 months and happened 4 times eventually i had given up hope on love and did something sexual with a girl her friends were stereotypical heartless girls we started talking again and in a brief moment it all clicked there was nothing but feelings inbetween eachother we talked and it wasnt awkward it was perfect i put all those times behind me because we werent actually dating and i knew she wasnt being herself i really believed that i knew things would be different between us as months went on i really felt like she was being herself with me she started watching anime with me we would both play a game together almost every night online she was the most perfect girl ive ever meet in my life she was beautiful we had everything in common i didnt know i could love like this we grew together as people shes made such an impact on my life but after a year she started kind of going back to her old ways worrying about her weight every second of the day saying mean things and being selfish i still loved her anyways now its been 2 years that weve been dating and weve almost always been in eachothers lives and had a connection she broke up with me got back together with me and then broke up with me again and went to a party and kissed some guy she told me it was for 2 seconds and she was having a lapse in judgement she didnt realize i was perfect for her and she doesnt want to be like this she has been telling me for 3 weeks that she can change and be honest with me and love me the way i deserve but for these 3 weeks shes been lying to me she didnt just kiss him they went upstairs and madeout i know it doesnt sound like a big deal but it is a big deal to me and it just takes me back to grade 9 and things were soppose to be different after that i just feel betrayed i know she is the love of my life this hurts so much shes begging me to get back together with her but i just cant do it any advice

[GSB81]

Wow, I think I dated this girl about 8 years ago. She's not ready to commit, but you are. You being ready will probably have no influence on her stance on the issue. She obviously is weak and cannot be trusted as she has already cheated on you and lied about it. If you take her back, she will briefly change. Then as soon as another party is thrown, she will go back to being her self. I've been in your shoes. Lots of guys have. I think you know what needs done.

[johnberkly]

Yea thanks man your right i do know what has to be done its just i was so committed i really do believe she can change but she clearly wont glad to have some reinsurance though i appreciate it

[denxnis]

Somewhat similar situation here..

 

Ex wasn't getting much attention from me about 4 years ago because I was very busy starting college, she ended up kissing some other guy. After arguing and pleading for about a week I took her back in hopes she would understand her mistake.

 

Well 4 weeks ago we broke up again because she did the same exact thing, although this time I'm pretty sure she slept with this (different) guy.

 

Save yourself the grief in the future.

 

I would have gotten over her a lot faster if I would have broken up with her the first time she did it. Now it's been a little over a month and I'm still having difficulties getting over her.