Long Distance relationship question

[shawncarterhimself]

I know i just asked this question. But i had some stuff to add. If youve seen this already, carry on.

 

My girlfriend of a year and I were in a long distance relationship. We both go to college, and are only about two hours apart.

In Sept, there were some problems. She has danced with other guys two times which i assume was grinding, but she said she stopped it soon after. This past saturday she said another guy came up to her and made out with her. She said she pushed him away and ran away. I feel like she was all over him, as she can be quite flirty when intoxicated. The guy jumped on the opportunity.

 

She has told me all of these things, and on all three occasions, she was drinking. Honestly, I wasn't too hurt, the first two, but after the third i was just frustrated. So i suggested we take a break the first week of October. We have been on break since, and we both have hooked up with others, although i know she has gone further than I have. She is distressed though. She screwed up and she knows it, and I think she wants to get back together. Honestly, i would love to, but i refuse to keep putting up with this if it doesnt change.

 

Am i being unreasonable/foolish for getting together. I really love this girl, but fear getting hurt again.

 

Side note - apparently there is this other guy, Total rebound. She says they are just friends and she doesnt want a relationship, and she says she told him this. I dont know what to make of that.

 

If i give her one last chance, is that fair? She was taken advantage of all three times. Is one more chance too much?

 

Any advice? thanks in advance

[flower26]

People have different personalities and different interests. Of course she will dance with other people when you are apart. I had this problem with my boyfriend last year. He got very jealous however I am a dancer. I explained this and we made a arrangement that when I dance I wouldn't drink. I had one alcoholic drink and then the rest non - alcoholic.

 

If I am honest after reading your post I think she likes attention and to go with another man shows that her love for you is not that strong. When in love I can not bare the thought of another man coming near me. You are meant to feel strong together as a couple. If my boyfriend was hurting because of me then I would change/ compromise because I love him.

 

You must not fill your head with doubt or make stories when there is no evidence to prove it. You must have trust. Focus your energy on the next time you see each other. I know you love her but my advice would be to give her some space as she has been with another guy, let her sort out her head. If she keeps regular contact with you then it shows she is interested. Take things slowly, see what happens.