Emmy86 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 So as you know me and my ex ended around 7-8 weeks ago. Things have been up and down since, friends/not friends etc. So I'm meeting up with a 'friend' tonight, I say 'friend' because he is an ex from around 10 years ago. We remained friends as its always worked out for us, we have had our one nights together since but its never gone further and we've been fine with that. So hes coming over tonight and I just know something will happen though I'm thinking its too soon for any of this, its just going to be a night of fun, no strings. I still feel a little like I'm cheating on my ex which sounds weird. He ended it with me, he doesn't want me. Why do I feel bad about doing this with my friend? I am still in love with my ex, is that the problem? How long will I feel like this
Gottabestrong Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I have no idea how long it will feel this way, but I hope you will be able to enjoy your date tonight anyway. Like you said, your ex doesn't want you anymore, he ended things with you. You owe him nothing. Good luck!
NoneoftheAbove Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 So as you know me and my ex ended around 7-8 weeks ago. Things have been up and down since, friends/not friends etc. So I'm meeting up with a 'friend' tonight, I say 'friend' because he is an ex from around 10 years ago. We remained friends as its always worked out for us, we have had our one nights together since but its never gone further and we've been fine with that. So hes coming over tonight and I just know something will happen though I'm thinking its too soon for any of this, its just going to be a night of fun, no strings. I still feel a little like I'm cheating on my ex which sounds weird. He ended it with me, he doesn't want me. Why do I feel bad about doing this with my friend? I am still in love with my ex, is that the problem? How long will I feel like this How can you give up so easily? have you tried everything in your power to show him that youre worth taking back? you cant just go around sticking things in your holes when you know you love this guy..just because of that you wont be able to move on...
movingon12 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 You're still not over your ex, so it's natural that you'll feel a bit strange when you start something new. Just make sure you're comfortable with whatever you decide to do or not do with your previous ex (or anyone else for that matter). It's normal to want physical comfort/intimacy with someone, but make sure you're not rushing into things too fast. You will know when you're ready.
moveONorStay Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I think it's a bad idea to get physical with someone when you still aren't ready. From my experience, you'll feel a bit cheap and regret it later.
Author Emmy86 Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 How can you give up so easily? have you tried everything in your power to show him that youre worth taking back? you cant just go around sticking things in your holes when you know you love this guy..just because of that you wont be able to move on... How can I give up so easily?? He was the one that gave up. I have spent weeks and weeks going over it with him why we broke up and how we can fix things and try again. He doesnt want to. I cant force the guy. I didnt go on the date, I didnt see the guy. I couldnt do it. I do still love my ex and I'm far from ready, even for just some fun. Me and my ex are back to talking again and its going well. 8 weeks now we have been broken up, he told me hes far from over me and still loves me. I'm just going to wait it out and give it time, who knows what could happen. We're going to spend new years together. New year, new start maybe. 1
Gottabestrong Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Good luck Emmy, hope everything turns out the way you hope!
KatZee Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 How can you give up so easily? have you tried everything in your power to show him that youre worth taking back? you cant just go around sticking things in your holes when you know you love this guy..just because of that you wont be able to move on... Her ex gave up. NOT her. And it's NOT her job to make him see what he's missing. It's HIS JOB if he wants to be with her, to show HER that he's committed to making it work out. "have you tried everything in your power to show him you're worth taking back?"--- are you kidding me with this? Where I'm from, in a land called Dignity and Respect for oneself--- we DON'T go chasing after people who don't want us. We DON'T try to convince others that we're worth being with. And frankly, she's single. She can do whatever the f.uck she wants to do from this point forward. I think it was rather crude of you to put it so bluntly. Whether or not she loves her ex is a MOOT POINT. Her ex doesn't want HER. 2
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