rakel_aki Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 (edited) Hello everyone! This is my first time posting but I have come across something that is bugging me and I need some input. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years (we started dating young and are working on our careers before planning our marriage). So about a few months ago I found out he had dated another girl previous to me for about 2 months. I had always thought he had only one girlfriend prior to me, that he had told me about and they had dated for about a year. BTW he is my first. It bugged me that he hadn't told me about this girlfriend earlier. Not sure why he hid that. I am the kind of person who needs to know everything. I know some people would rather not know the past, but I am one that wants to know my partner from past to present. Well the other day I went and looked at the history(we have a shared computer, I have his pass to everything and he has mine. However I had never used it.) because I was looking to see if i could find a recipe I looked up and couldn't remember the site. I saw that his ex was very much looked up on his Facebook. They are not friends on Facebook. They don't talk on Facebook. But her profile was looked at quite a bit. I talked to him about it. He didn't give it much importance. Said he was just curious to see what she was up to. He said it wasn't nothing special to tell. That he was the one that left her because she was with him, but thinking of other guys. And cut the conversation there. I don't get it. After 6 years he wants to see what shes up to? Why? Can someone look up an EX and not have feeling for them? I know he loves me very much. It kinda bugs me that she lives close to us. That I know of he has no contact with her. But i feel like he still has feelings for her, since he thinks of her to look her up on Facebook quite a bit. I need insight! I don't have ex's so I am not sure how this works Thanks everyone! Edited November 24, 2012 by rakel_aki
Author rakel_aki Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 you're over analyzing. stop it. what if I told him it hurt what he did. and he said he wouldn't look it up anymore. and a week later he looked it up again?
movingon12 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 It would bother me if it happened to me. To still be checking on your ex after 6 years seems a bit obsessive. Checking once I could understand if something reminded him of her and he got curious - but repeatedly checking seems odd. If they're not fb friends I don't imagine there is much info on her page unless she has everything open to the public. If he's happy that you know his password I don't think he's doing anything he shouldn't but it seems unhealthy to be constantly looking at pictures of someone he stopped seeing 6 years earlier. If it was me I would raise it with him, but i doubt it will be a fun conversation.
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