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Ok, so i've gotta problem here :confused: i met this cute little thing at my sisters birthday party. It was one guy [me] and 4 girls, of course it was inevitable that I would hook up with one of them for the evening. Everyone got drunk, we were talking and hit it off really well with this one girl. Afterwards came bars and clubbing, we touched n kissed a lot. In the morning we all spit up cuz we live in opposite places in the city. Then after having a good sleep I looked her up on facebook and turns out she is pretty damn hot even for sober-me. Actually the hottest girl i've been with so far (not very lucky with girls, my previous awkward relationship was like 5 years ago or sth). So yeah, we started some small talk in fb chat and eventually i asked her out, she seemed really happy and agreed. But the finals in school are coming so they got in our way and we didnt go anywhere for approx 2 weeks, just occasional skype chat.

 

Yesterday we were going out drinking again with my sis and her friends, and as sister told me, this cute girl was asking whether I am gonna be there and was really excited when she found it out. At least thats what sis told me. So yeah, again alcohol, cuddling and kissing, making some cute pics of us ''she was gonna post on fb''. Kinda hitting it off really well once again, we talked, she suggested that next week we must meet for sure (finally, lol), like go on a dinner, a movie or sth. Of course I was happy to hear that.

 

But now comes the problem which pretty much messed up my whole evening... so we finished our beers and decided to go to another club which is like 30 minutes walk. On our way there two random guys showed up (completely wasted) and, too bad for me, girls knew them, including ''mine'' girl. They talked n stuff, i was kinda trying to get her away from there cuz i saw where this was leading. Eventually they got into a cab and left to those guys apartment, leaving me alone on the streets with ''wtf'' all over my face. Of course everyone knows what happened there... a while later on my walk home (being extremely angry at myself and wanting to kill someone on the streets) i texted her saying something like ''wtf, why did you do this, i thought we were gonna spend the evening together'' to which she replied ''im sorry, please forgive me.''

 

now im just confused what to do. I guess I should just forget about her because of this and move on; but the thing is i havent had any relationship for such a long time and she seems to be really interested in me, but does such mindblowing BS in the meantime... any useful advices on how should i handle this?

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Not saying it shouldn't hurt yr feelings but you weren't a couple. It wasn't a very nice way for her to act, but she owes you nothing. I'd be a bit embarrassed, but I'd get over it.

 

Also, sometimes when pickings have been a bit slim slim we feel like we are at the last chance saloon with a new person we meet. Its actually a time when you are most likely to make a bad choices since u feel under pressure to make it work - like trying to go back with a cheater, a liar, being with someone who is not really right for us or committed to us etc.

 

Keep yr eyes open bro, the right one will come along.

 

I wouldn't accept this girls behaviour and certainly wouldn't peruse her further. I set a higher standard. Chalk it up to a bad night out and move on.

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She is interested in you and yet she slept with some other guys right in-front of you...I would consider that a prelude to what to expect. Don't complain if you end up together and she cheats on you (blame it on the alcohol...)

 

Also as your sisters friend if things go sour between the two of you your sister will face some backlash, tread carefully.

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...and now she is chatting me up on fb saying sorry, sorry, i didnt want to leave my friend alone and blah blah... stupid women :sick:

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too early to be making or accepting apologies, personally...

 

im not gonna do that for sure. Plus she is still drunk from yesterday, so pretty much everything she says is just some drunktalk. Argh, why does this happen to me where most of the people can have normal relationships with others. I get such chance like once a year and its all ****ed up always

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This chick is done. She blatantly disrespected you. I personally wouldn't tolerate it. I probably also would not have gone off on her since it's too early in our situation. I would have just said to myself "Hmm, ok; I know who I'm dealing with now," and never contacted her again.

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you didn't even get to the relationship, she blew it (In my [and a lot of people's] eyes) before it even started. It would take a very big gesture to erase such a bone-head move . A girl/woman certainly wouldn't be giving second chances like that. No excuse.

 

Agreed. And to make things clear, i said ''chance'' which was meant as a chance to have a relationship not actually having it

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It is too early to expect fidelity of any kind. Certainly she did owe her friend more fidelity than she did to you.

 

Your right for your feelings to be hurt. Personally if and only if she asked for a one on one date I would give her another chance. Don't pursue her unless you get something like that.

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She's not that into you & the guy she left with knows she's only good for sex.

Otherwise he'd be dating her.

So she needs some chump to treat her like a BF while she bangs the other guy.

 

Don't be that chump.

 

To summarize:

 

She bailed on you to sleep with another guy.

 

Period.

 

Personally if she kept bugging me i'd just invite her over for a movie then try to sex her.

 

She'd be good for fun but that's it because if you did start to seriously date her, she'd end up bailing on you again.

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Get over her. She sounds like a slut.

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She is a drunk ....

Next please...

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It was better to get this out of the way now than to encounter it 6 months from now when it actually be cheating. I tend to stay away from bar girls now. Alcohol loosens legs. I'd suggest you make use of this character flaw of hers, but it would probably result in you falling for her even more. So don't do that.

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What do you mean by "Of course everyone knows what happened there..."? What happened and how do you know?

 

You aren't dating and the girl owes nothing to you. You can act all hurt and whiny and cry "Why did you do this to me?!?" like a little ***** or you can brush it off, ask her out and see what happens.

 

Quit feeling sorry for yourself and man-up.

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Not quality, regardless of what she ended up doing with the other guys, they left you for other guys right in your face? Write them all off.

 

Were genders reversed, good luck with making out with a girl who obviously likes you, and then leaving that girl in the street while you get in a cab and take off with another girl. The first girl would never speak to you again and rightly so.

 

This isn't about some claim on her or lack of one, it's about plain rudeness and crap that low quality people do. And she's still drunk today? Don't trip over yourself running out to buy a ring for this one.

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thank you all for the replies, it's pretty clear that nothings gonna happen next, imma just gonna move on

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I'm sorry, but it sounds like the girl that you like is a whore. Thank God I don't have any daughters. Move on and find you a nice girl.

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OP, I have been left like that by a girl before. Hell, the guy she left with was a married guy to top it off. I think most if not all women are horny little creatures. Some of them to the point that they have to have sex (not masturbate) like you'd have to pee if you just downed 2 gallons of water on the 9th hour of a 10 hour car ride.

 

She has guys that she has already ****ed and guys that are just better than you at getting girls to have sex, as well as not trying to date her that are trying to **** her, that will make her horny and want to **** now. You weren't going to be that guy for her that night and she bumped into a guy that would. She left with him. However you cut it (oh, she owed you nothing....how about respect????????????), she didn't even respect you enough to wait till her time with you was done to leave with another guy to suck on his cock. That is how horny she is, how little control she has, how you should think of her and what you should do with her. The guy she left with knows and you can bet he'll only ever treat her in that manner.

 

She probably didn't consider you at all. You were an after thought later when she was done getting ****ed by him. When she was telling you sorry on the phone, her breath probably didn't just smell of alcohol, but penis and cum as well.

 

I know if I were interested in a girl and didn't just see her as a potential ****, I would not let some chick that I was banging occasionally take my attention away from her, ESPECIALLY if we are just getting to know each other. I sure as **** would not disrespect her and leave her alone to go **** the other girl.

 

OP, she is not your girl. Be thankful for that. I am sure she is looking for some chump to be that guy and when she finds him, it doesn't mean that guy will be the only guy ****ing her. Be nice to her. Don't blow up on her. You can get your dick sucked by her, probably won't be that difficult and she is probably really good at it.

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What do you mean by "Of course everyone knows what happened there..."? What happened and how do you know?

 

You aren't dating and the girl owes nothing to you. You can act all hurt and whiny and cry "Why did you do this to me?!?" like a little ***** or you can brush it off, ask her out and see what happens.

 

Quit feeling sorry for yourself and man-up.

 

If some dude left me standing on the street to take off with other girls there is no WAY I'd be seeing him again. I think "manning up" would be forgetting this chick. A doormat might be cool with her behavior but OP should have some respect, she left him standing on the street to go hang out with another guy, that's not cool period.

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Yeah dude, that was pretty damn rude. Time to cut your losses and move on. Block her on FB and if you're going to hang with your sister, find out if the sl*t bucket is going to be there first. If she is, hang with your sister some other time.

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Just forget about her and thank she showed her true colors early on.

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Don't blow up on her. You can get your dick sucked by her, probably won't be that difficult and she is probably really good at it.

 

this actually sounds as a pretty good idea, probably could work this out as fwb

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this actually sounds as a pretty good idea

 

It's not a good idea. Just erase her from your main thought process.

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It's not a good idea. Just erase her from your main thought process.

 

why its not a good idea? if i haven't had so much experience with women as some other guys out there, then i could ..possibly.. use her for my own good if you know what i mean

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If some dude left me standing on the street to take off with other girls there is no WAY I'd be seeing him again. I think "manning up" would be forgetting this chick. A doormat might be cool with her behavior but OP should have some respect, she left him standing on the street to go hang out with another guy, that's not cool period.
Because there is obviously more to this story that the OP isn't telling us. He's posted a slanted story in order to get sympathy and stroke his ego. It doesn't help to feed this sort of nonsense.
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Because there is obviously more to this story that the OP isn't telling us. He's posted a slanted story in order to get sympathy and stroke his ego. It doesn't help to feed this sort of nonsense.

 

if thats what you are saying, then this is a true event and nothing has been made up. yes, im not telling a few details, but there is a reason im not willing to do it

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