Kevin30 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Hey guys, I thought I come on here and ask for some advice... I've been with my (ex) girlfriend for the last 11 or 12 months,we've been knowing each other for 5 or 6 years but started dating last year..times have been good and bad for us... From the beginning on we kept breaking up because of little stupid things,we're both to blame.. Two weeks ago she broke up with me again and this time I am not sure if it's over or not,not sure if to move on.. What happened was her birthday was coming up,we were meant to go for dinner 2 days before her birthday and the following day she was meant to go out to town with friends,so I got jealous because I wanted to spend more time with her so I cancelled the dinner,she still had the party the following day but was hurt.I told her all I wanted was to be with her and I thought I should of been with her having dinner or something instead her going out with friends.. Anyways..the next day I apologized via text messaging and she didn't reply,that went on for 4 or 5 days,then I went up to her house where we talked..I could tell she was pissed of she said she was done with me but I wasn't sure if she was just saying that because she was angry.. The last few days I kept messaging and messaging she hardly replied..she did once or twice but wasn't her usual self..so I got angry and sent her a few messages which were rather "not nice" and quite offending..I mentioned her past and mentioned the guy she used to date before just to bring her down because I was angry because she didn't reply. So yea 2 nights ago I messaged her again and she told me to stop messaging her and that she HATES ME ...I didn't message her for the last 2 days and don't plan to do so...but to be honest I don't think this is the way for us to break up,I still have feelings for her and she might have feelings for me not sure anymore,two weeks ago she loved me now she hates me..I'm not sure if to move on,apologize again or just have one last proper conversation with her.. What do you guys think?,thanks. Btw I'm31..she's 24.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I think at the very least you need to take some time off and stop texting her. When I say time off I say at least a month. If she texts you, then reply if you want (though don't be angry and don't be a sad bastard) but do not initiate any sort of communication at all.
Author Kevin30 Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 I think at the very least you need to take some time off and stop texting her. When I say time off I say at least a month. If she texts you, then reply if you want (though don't be angry and don't be a sad bastard) but do not initiate any sort of communication at all. Ye I agree with you,before when we used to fight I left her alone for 2 weeks she talked to me again but this time she said she hates me which is a very strong word..not sure if she's gonna keep feeling that way or not..but time will tell I guess..
Simon Phoenix Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Ye I agree with you,before when we used to fight I left her alone for 2 weeks she talked to me again but this time she said she hates me which is a very strong word..not sure if she's gonna keep feeling that way or not..but time will tell I guess.. Yeah, she probably doesn't hate you now, but she'll get to that point if you continue to press the issue.
veggirl Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Leave her alone! You cancel a birthday dinner because you are so jealous she is gonna spend the next day with friends? Get a grip. That is ridiculous and I thought you were gonna say you guys were teenagers. The whole make up and break up thing...geez multiple times in less than a month? Does that sound like a relationship that is "working out" or worth saving? No. Just move on and try to mature a bit, sending rude messages about her ex and whatnot? Good lord.
beyond Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Yeah, I totally agree with Monica and Veggirl here. You threw your toys out of the pram because she was going out with her friends even though she was going to have dinner with you the day before?? How childish. I would be cross too! Then to 'apologise' via text is not great. To then get cross when she doesn't reply and bring up her ex bf is extremely immature. Just leave her alone now
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