Been there before, its happened again.

[SBalby]

Hello, this is my first post. I have only just come across this forum and have been reading it for the past half an hour.

 

Anyway, I have just recently this week just broken up with my girlfriend of 3 and a half years. This wasn't the first time, its the 2nd time we have broken up in the 3 and a half years. I will cut a very long story short.

 

I met her in college so we got together when we were at a very young age, I'm 20, almost 21 so I'm very young.

 

Its hard to write about it because I'm still upset about what happened but the relationship for large amounts of time was perfect, when we were with each-other it was just perfect. We have been through a lot together, she is diabetic and I think this made our relationship even stronger as I was eager to learn and know more about it and how it effected her as she got down about it a lot of the time but I was always there for her, got to know her family very, very well also. We have just been through a lot of stuff together and come out better as you will read about.

 

Within the first year of our relationship she cheated on me. It broke my heart because I never thought she would of do anything like that, she's not that kind of girl and it really came out of the blue. She was on holiday with her friends and she slept with a guy who she knew from back home. She claimed at the time that it wasn't a full on kind of thing and it was over within minutes. I could of cheated on her as I went on holiday with my friends but loved her too much to hurt her so this was a ****ed up situation but it sorted itself out eventually, It was probably the hardest thing to deal with in my life even though I had been with her for around a year it hurt, a lot because it was her. I look back on all that now it was back in 2010 and we just seemed so, so young.

 

You can imagine this changed the relationship for a long time. I decided to stick with her even with the advice from my friends not too because I loved the girl and I knew she was genuinely sorry and wanted to prove to me that it could work. She did, my friends took her back as did I, things soon got out of hand and I became very paranoid and she finished things about a year and a half ago now because it was getting too much for her, I understood. I was single for about a month and got with a few girls, it felt good being single and I was soon happy without her because I focused on all the bad things she had done to me, she came running back regretting what she had done, we got back together. It happened quick and it felt right.

 

Since then we have enjoyed holidays, all the things couples do - things were brilliant I never thought anything would happen again because things were just too good. It was a different relationship, completely different, it felt more mature, we didn't argue, nothing.

 

Just on Tuesday we had a little argument the night before so I just asked on Tuesday if we were OK, she said she wasn't sure and that her head was all over the place but she didnt think it was anything to worry about so I called her, she said that she thought the relationship was dead, and that she just wanted to be on her own with things getting her down like her health, us not seeing eachother (once a week), only recently with her always working and me being at uni. She said she felt selfish and it was all her, not me. This past week just before it finished we had hardly spoken but I just thought it was one of them things, it happens and I was due to see her on the Wednesday before it happened.

 

This came as a massive shock to me because seriously a week and a half ago we were fine, seriously we were perfect. Yeah we weren't seeing eachother much but I thought we could get through it as we have been through so much more and would surely be due to see eachother a lot more in the coming months with planning for our birthdays and Christmas.

 

I was struggling at first, the first few days because I couldn't see how I was going to do without her because, I swear to you the last time we split up so around a year and a half ago, since then the relationship has been perfect, never thought this would happen again. I've got good people round me and I feel a little happier recently, its only been a few days and I don't know whats going to happen, I really don't. I don't think we will get back together like we have in the past but a part of me feels like its just a massive waste because if its down to just not seeing eachother much im sure it can be fixed but i guess I will never know the reasons, the real ones. It hurts because I really do love the girl. But yeah, thought I would share this experience its a hard one for me.

[Indio Negrito]

Once respect is gone there is nothing left....

 

She disrespected you, let her undermine your confidence in yourself and now drags your heart through an emotional blender - bro, you're a good guy, there's a great girl out there for you.

 

Get busy in getting physically fit, spiritually sound, and mentally right - finding another is easy but letting go is the hardest with what's comfortably familiar....I know, Im going through it myself and realize its temporary.

 

Fortunately, there are wonderful people on here who will provide moral support.

 

Keep your head up dude you're alright....

[SBalby]

Thank you mate I appreciate that.