Why do women think men have it easy in dating?.

[Necromancer]

Men get rejected constantly, i don't get it how women think men have it easy.

 

The only guys i know who have it easy are 7+ looking guys, while my less attractive friends get rejected like trash.

 

Women have so many options even if they are average looking, that if you are not James Bond on the white horse himself(best option they got), then you are as dead in the water as flies on a poop.

[ThaWholigan]

Who told you that women think we have it easy?

[SmileFace]

We don't.

Well I don't.

[Necromancer]

Who told you that women think we have it easy?

 

I have seen it posted on the internet and sometimes here.

[Necromancer]

We don't.

Well I don't.

 

Clap, clap, clap.

 

Good post, 10 points for grifindor.

[ThaWholigan]

I have seen it posted on the internet and sometimes here.

If I believed everything I read on the internet, I would be retarded.

[iiiii]

I don't think guys have it easy in dating, either.

 

Maybe some of the girls that think guys have it easy will post later on.

[Woggle]

People tend to think the grass is greener on the other side.

[Necromancer]

If I believed everything I read on the internet, I would be retarded.

 

From my experience, it wouldn't surprise me if they believed it to.

 

Women are masters at lying to themselves.

[Oxy Moronovich]

Women are masters at lying to themselves.

This is probably the only thing you've ever posted that I 100% agree with.

[fortyninethousand322]

For the most part men do have it "easier". That's because men have traditionally been the "hunters" or the pursuers, etc. It's in our genes, well, those of us with healthy genes.

 

Also, women have to worry about getting attacked, drugged, assaulted, etc. Men, for the most part don't.

 

If you're one of those guys who doesn't have it in him to be the pursuer, then yes, dating will be tough for you. Otherwise, being a guy should be a breeze.

[todreaminblue]

From my experience, it wouldn't surprise me if they believed it to.

 

Women are masters at lying to themselves.

 

 

Where did you read that women are masters at lying to themselves? On the internet?

 

Dating sux all round for both men and women because there is no masters degree that guarantees you get approved by the people you date or even that you are suited to them.I don't think it is easy for men and i don't think it is easy for women either.....we might have more options but those options come with more risk.....include alcohol and the risk is tripled for women to extract themselves from sticky dates....mmmm sticky date pudding ....damn diet.....deb

[samsungxoxo]

For the most part men do have it "easier". That's because men have traditionally been the "hunters" or the pursuers, etc. It's in our genes, well, those of us with healthy genes.

 

Also, women have to worry about getting attacked, drugged, assaulted, etc. Men, for the most part don't.

 

If you're one of those guys who doesn't have it in him to be the pursuer, then yes, dating will be tough for you. Otherwise, being a guy should be a breeze.

This.

 

Another thing is we do get rejected but at a deeper/emotional level. Our biggest rejection is spending years dating a man, only for him not to think I'm the one and keeping me at ''forever gf'' status. That to me (just like any women) is the worst insult possible.

 

When men get rejected, it's usually when the woman either doesn't want to date him or withholds sex but that's something can it's easier to recover from. Unlike in our above case, it can take another extra years to get over that and start again from zero.

[Woggle]

This.

 

Another thing is we do get rejected but at a deeper/emotional level. Our biggest rejection is spending years dating a man, only for him not to think I'm the one and keeping me at ''forever gf'' status. That to me (just like any women) is the worst insult possible.

 

When men get rejected, it's usually when the woman either doesn't want to date him or withholds sex but that's something can it's easier to recover from. Unlike in our above case, it can take another extra years to get over that and start again from zero.

 

It happens to men too. When a man's wife tells him she wants a divorce after years of marriage it is like getting his heart shredded in a blender.

[fortyninethousand322]

This.

 

Another thing is we do get rejected but at a deeper/emotional level. Our biggest rejection is spending years dating a man, only for him not to think I'm the one and keeping me at ''forever gf'' status. That to me (just like any women) is the worst insult possible.

 

When men get rejected, it's usually when the woman either doesn't want to date him or withholds sex but that's something can it's easier to recover from. Unlike in our above case, it can take another extra years to get over that and start again from zero.

 

Yeah. And again this is true for most men. There are men for whom rejection or even specific rejections take an immense toll that could take years to get over.

 

I am for example, one such man.

[Hawakai]

This.

 

Another thing is we do get rejected but at a deeper/emotional level. Our biggest rejection is spending years dating a man, only for him not to think I'm the one and keeping me at ''forever gf'' status. That to me (just like any women) is the worst insult possible.

 

When men get rejected, it's usually when the woman either doesn't want to date him or withholds sex but that's something can it's easier to recover from. Unlike in our above case, it can take another extra years to get over that and start again from zero.

 

I'm sure that when a guy is grinded by the divorce/family law court he feels pretty great. But hey, we're hunters. Funny how that goes. We're hunters when our pains are to be decreased(you can take it, you're a big hunter!) and we're equals when they want something from us.

 

The men most women dream of are far out of their league. The rich, handsome, successful, intelligent, tall men are less than 1% of men. But physically attractive women (average and higher) are at least 30% of the female population.

 

True. But during their teens and 20's women bang those guys from left to right, only to settle down with the average men(and I'm talking about all women) and a few years later the suckers are taken to the cleaners. The women receive alimony and child-support and can go back to dating older lotharios.

 

I don't see how women have it bad in dating? I know that Brad Pitt is not going to date the average woman, but why should he?

 

Let me see if I get this straight. Most average men have to work like Ancient Egyptian slaves to get A DATE. I'm not talking about sex. Just a date.

 

Most average/beautiful women can get sex from the attractive men, can form relationships with them(if they are good enough) and can do whatever the hell they please. You lot really have it worse than starving Indian Children.

Edited November 25, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[somedude81]

Here's the thing, just about every area that women have problems with in dating, men have too. Men don't have it any easier than women at all.

 

Now if women have it easier, that should be obvious.

 

In my observations on this forum, the women who have trouble getting into fulfilling relationships, are that way because of bad choices. And they keep on making bad choices.

[Woggle]

Both genders are able to feel hearbreak and betrayal so neither gender really has it easier. There are areas on both sides where I feel one has it tougher than the other but I don't think it is that much of a difference.

[maybealone]

Most average men have to work like Ancient Egyptian slaves to get A DATE. I'm not talking about sex. Just a date.

 

It would be interesting to know what you have done this week to get a date.

 

Or, if you do not consider yourself to be average, what an average male friend of your has done this week to get a date.

 

We might all be enlightened by what it is that men go through that equates to ancient Egyptian slave work.

[yongyong]

Getting through that door (we all know what it is) is hard for men obviously.

But women fears once they open the door how men will react.

 

I guess being used for sex is worse feeling than just getting rejected?

[Oxy Moronovich]

This.

 

Another thing is we do get rejected but at a deeper/emotional level. Our biggest rejection is spending years dating a man, only for him not to think I'm the one and keeping me at ''forever gf'' status. That to me (just like any women) is the worst insult possible.

 

When men get rejected, it's usually when the woman either doesn't want to date him or withholds sex but that's something can it's easier to recover from. Unlike in our above case, it can take another extra years to get over that and start again from zero.

 

It happens to men too. When a man's wife tells him she wants a divorce after years of marriage it is like getting his heart shredded in a blender.

The divorced male demographic is the one that seems to be given the least attention. I've met way too many guys whose wives rejected them and divorced them and then these guys are a former shell of themselves. Those guys all seem to say the same thing, "I can never understand why my wife wanted a divorce. She was always too vague to give me clear reasons. I'm sure she knows I would have done everything in order to save the marriage. What was so bad about me that she needed the divorce so much?"

 

Some of those divorced guys I met got married in their early 20s and divorced in their 40s, 50s, and even over 60. Of course those guys find it difficult to move on.

 

Some of these women say being "forever gf" is the worst possible insult. But having your wife divorce you for vague/unclear reasons is the worst possible insult too. That's a huge reason why I hesitate to get married. As long as I don't get married, I won't have to ever become a divorced man. I'd prefer to be a lifelong bachelor.

[Hawakai]

Women (if they are lucky enough to be born with above average looks) can only milk their physical beauty for a decade and a half or so. They peak around 18-24. After 33-35 most men don't even notice they exist.. at least on a sexual level. When I say "most men" I mean.. the men they would want to date.

 

Women have it easier for a short period of time in life and only if they are average looking or above. Otherwise, they are SOL.

 

ALSO.. at least men have some control. We can learn PUA skills, become famous, acquire money, etc. Women are either hot or not. If they are ugly, they are screwed for life. Nothing can help them. Look at Oprah. Rich and successful as hell, but most men wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot pole (me included).

 

Its all about perspective. Men can at least change their luck somewhat (even if they have to work like Egyptian slaves)

 

 

And? Alexander The Great only ruled for some 10 years and he's still considered one of the world's most successful conquerors, if not the Number 1 conqueror. These girls could marry football players. Movie stars. They can do whatever the hell they please, and 10 years of wealth(male attention, being desired for sex/relationships) is still far better than what the average guy has to deal with.

 

Beautiful women can move men to great things. Wars have been fought for women. Millions of men died to be able to marry a young, fertile woman. I don't see women fighting for men. Unless the guy is uber Alpha male and even then they aren't ready to go to the same extent the average man is(becoming a slave to the system) to have sex with the average woman/slightly above average woman.

 

PUaistry is retarded. Most of it doesn't work, and what does work works because the guy has something else going on for him. Besides, who's interested in bar girls? If so many women are infected with herpes and HPV: don't you think the women you find in venues more ''vulnerable'' to Game are colonies of stds?

 

Becoming rich? How exactly? Most guys don't have the physical talent to become another Michael Jordan. Write Poetry? Sorry, Shakespeare is one of a kind. What other ways can a man use to become rich? Go to college? Become a doctor? If it was that easy wouldn't more men go to college for it?

 

Some men can become attractive to women but the majority of men will never achieve the wealth nor the social status that women crave. Women are invisible from age 25 onwards? To the men they desire? At the very least they're still desirable by decent-looking guys. Can't say the same about the guys I see on a day to day basis or in college.

 

It would be interesting to know what you have done this week to get a date.

 

When a man is attractive he doesn't need to ask women on a date. When the guy is average, asking a woman on a date is pointless. He's either rejected or he's just gonna get used for a free meal. What's a guy supposed to do? Ask another woman on a date? This college has thousands of female students but word gets around, especially since women form social networks within colleges and what one guy tries to do, every girl finds out. I'd be considered ''desperate'' if I was to ask on a date every woman I am attracted to.

 

Or, if you do not consider yourself to be average what an average male friend of your has done this week to get a date.

 

I look a lot like JosephGordon-Levitt when I'm clean-shaved. But to European women that guy is average-looking and to American women, I'm too skinny and too feminine, I suppose. My average-looking friends are also without dates or any type of female attention.

We might all be enlightened by what it is that men go through that equates to ancient Egyptian slave work.

 

1)Flirting.

2)Risking being sued for sexual harrasment.

3)Risking getting punched in the teeth by the girl's boyfriend(if she has one, and we don't know about him).

4)Risking being shunned by our social groups because the women think we are ''creepy'' or whatever.

5)Wasting money on a date.

6)Being rejected(and if other women see or hear that you were rejected, most, if not all, will not want you.

7)Having to find out if the woman is attracted to you or if she's milking you for free attention.

8)having to risk the kiss. There's this very cute girl from Prague who looks to my lips when I'm talking to her, making me feel self-conscious and asking my friends if I have bad breath.

9)Not knowing if she's looking at my lips because she likes them/wants to kiss my lips.

10)If I do kiss her, will she kick me in the nuts?

 

etc etc.

Edited November 24, 2012 by Hawakai

[irc333]

It happens to men too. When a man's wife tells him she wants a divorce after years of marriage it is like getting his heart shredded in a blender.

 

Though, women are usually the genders initiating the divorce, and couldn't be happier when they do.

 

You rarely hear about the men approaching their wives saying, "I want a divorce".

[Revolver]

I don't understand it either. To me it comes down to this. Look at what men "complain" about in threads(and make threads about), then look at what women "complain" about in threads(and make threads about). It's 2 entirely different levels of problems.

[dreamerisland]

You have to remember women only see the men that they see as attractive. If you are not attractive-to her-you don't exist. That's why they think men have it easier cause they are literally throwing themselves at the men they find attractive.