ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 So I am thinking of trying POF one more time.. I always say it will be the last time and then I do it again. I know that I am looking for a relationship and not just sex, I KNOW that I can have the self control to say no if I want to and I know I can avoid sex until I am in a relationship. Part of me just doesn't want to bother with the whole OLD thing again, it just feels pathetic like "oh I met my SO on a dating website" ew... How would I tell me friends that I met my bf on a dating website? That is like beyond embarrassing, I am in college I should be meeting tons of guys! I'm not, but I should be. I feel like the only good thing about POF is I can go on dates A LOT which is always fun, and it is a confidence boost which is great, and I can choose who I want to talk to like if he meets my criteria or not. I don't know if I should make the profile or not? 2
olivec Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 I dont know. Personnally i've had very limited success meeting quality women on pof or match.com. The last girl i dated was from match and was extremely dissappointed because she met my criteria including the site saying we were a 98% match before i messaged her. Well guess what it didnt last long like only a month. I find people think online dating is better because you get to read his/her profile and decide if your compatible. I'm not saying it doesnt work for some. My friend met his wife on pof so anything is possible. However overal i find match, pof eharmony are all pretty much the same with a majority of men and women wanting to hook up or play games. For myself i can tell ya i've been hurt a few times via online dating and probably will not do it again because of that. Just be careful if you do decide to go back online. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 I just don't know if I can handle joining meeting someone then being stressed out about if they will delete their profile or how many other girls they are talking to etc.. And there are so many other really beautiful girls on POF it's just so hard. 1
olivec Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 I just don't know if I can handle joining meeting someone then being stressed out about if they will delete their profile or how many other girls they are talking to etc.. And there are so many other really beautiful girls on POF it's just so hard. Your right it is hard to meet someone good from online dating. Just tread easy and really focus on someone who shares the same qualitys as you and dont commit to anyone too soon. I made that mistake with the last girl and unfortunately she grew tired of me i'm assuming because i never did get a straight answer as to why things ended. Then she had the nerve to say online dating wasn't for her and she was gunna delete her profile. i checked match a few weeks after the breakup and she was still on there and i checked again shortly after and still on. People dont care when it comes to online dating because theres a unlimited supply of people to talk to or hook up with.
Oxy Moronovich Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 OLD is a waste of time. When will people learn this? 2
truth_seeker Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I've been burned on OLD. I took one woman's profile seriously, only to get played. OLD is a spider's web; don't get caught up in it. Part of me just doesn't want to bother with the whole OLD thing again, it just feels pathetic like "oh I met my SO on a dating website" ew... How would I tell me friends that I met my bf on a dating website? That is like beyond embarrassing, I am in college I should be meeting tons of guys! On another note: you shouldn't do it because you're very insecure. Re-read what you wrote above. Instead of OLD how about doing more activities so you're around different people, which could lead to meeting a guy or someone who can introduce you to a guy. 1
MyPoutine Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I met my ex on POF and we had a good relationship all things considered (had I not moved away for 2 years we would still be together). Just be careful though, a lot of guys on there lie (the are married/in a relationship etc) and seem to only be after sex...if you want a serious relationship tread carefully. I think if you are shy it's one of the easiest ways to interact with men without feeling pressure and with some common sense most of the "liars/bootycalls" are easy to see. 1
Tara247 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Well, I feel sorry for you because POF is a site full of sharks and trash. Can't you consider a better site than that? I know it's free, but you get what you pay for.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 Well, I feel sorry for you because POF is a site full of sharks and trash. Can't you consider a better site than that? I know it's free, but you get what you pay for. I don't think I am going to do it, just not ready to be out there like that again
charlietheginger Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Some people abusing themselves pof is like saying " hey pump me dump me and Let me bitch about it "
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 Some people abusing themselves pof is like saying " hey pump me dump me and Let me bitch about it " A friend met her now husband on there so thats why I hold out hope for it. 1
charlietheginger Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 A friend met her now husband on there so thats why I hold out hope for it. Your chances of love on pof is like winning the lottery Sure it happens... Are you willing to hump 25 50 100 or 1000 Men till you meet the right one even then you Might not meet him... But then again you might.. A girl i know is like that she has had sex with prob 200 Men in the last 10yrs... She says its like finding a pair of shoes you like that fit You often have to try on 20pair to get the right Style size and fit.. You wear um and then end up shopping for a new pair trying on 20more pair.. She is not afraid to spread her legs she knows its part Of dating and has accepted it
SmileFace Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Your chances of love on pof is like winning the lottery Sure it happens... Are you willing to hump 25 50 100 or 1000 Men till you meet the right one even then you Might not meet him... But then again you might.. A girl i know is like that she has had sex with prob 200 Men in the last 10yrs... She says its like finding a pair of shoes you like that fit You often have to try on 20pair to get the right Style size and fit.. You wear um and then end up shopping for a new pair trying on 20more pair.. She is not afraid to spread her legs she knows its part Of dating and has accepted it Spreading your legs isn't a part of dating. That girl would have spread her legs either way - that has nothing to do with POF. Next... 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 Your chances of love on pof is like winning the lottery Sure it happens... Are you willing to hump 25 50 100 or 1000 Men till you meet the right one even then you Might not meet him... But then again you might.. A girl i know is like that she has had sex with prob 200 Men in the last 10yrs... She says its like finding a pair of shoes you like that fit You often have to try on 20pair to get the right Style size and fit.. You wear um and then end up shopping for a new pair trying on 20more pair.. She is not afraid to spread her legs she knows its part Of dating and has accepted it Well lucky for me I don't have a hard time finding shoes like that girl. I am being very strict about not having sex until I am officially with someone 2
charlietheginger Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Well lucky for me I don't have a hard time finding shoes like that girl. I am being very strict about not having sex until I am officially with someone Thats why your with no one...
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 Thats why your with no one... But at least I feel good about myself instead of like trash 2
charlietheginger Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 But at least I feel good about myself instead of like trash Your very right... Better to feel good then bad About yourself... Imo why would women run a rat race in dating Rat race would be rush 3dates have sex ether Be serious or move on... Some women are like that no break no wait Just date the next guy they see
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 Your very right... Better to feel good then bad About yourself... Imo why would women run a rat race in dating Rat race would be rush 3dates have sex ether Be serious or move on... Some women are like that no break no wait Just date the next guy they see I'm trying to not be that girl 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I met 75 men online and only "spread my legs" for very few. Meeting up with people doesn't equal sex 3
MyPoutine Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I met 75 men online and only "spread my legs" for very few. Meeting up with people doesn't equal sex Exactly. I have had several dates but only slept with my ex. If you go slow you can figure out most "incompatible" matches and move on before any physical contact is made. 1
Sith Apprentice Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 POF is like digging through a trash can to get a half eaten muffin with bird **** on it. 4
irc333 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I actually took a break from POF and returned. Still seeing the same faces in my area that are chronically picky and single. One added to he profile how it' hard to meet people her age that are single where she lives. With that added, I attempted to follow-up with another email to see if this "ah-ha" moment of hers made he take down her strict dating criteria down a notch. Because sometimes, geographically, when women start to realize their options are dwindling....they start being flexible....others wont' of course...and will start becoming the "crazy cat lady" lol So I am thinking of trying POF one more time.. I always say it will be the last time and then I do it again. I know that I am looking for a relationship and not just sex, I KNOW that I can have the self control to say no if I want to and I know I can avoid sex until I am in a relationship. Part of me just doesn't want to bother with the whole OLD thing again, it just feels pathetic like "oh I met my SO on a dating website" ew... How would I tell me friends that I met my bf on a dating website? That is like beyond embarrassing, I am in college I should be meeting tons of guys! I'm not, but I should be. I feel like the only good thing about POF is I can go on dates A LOT which is always fun, and it is a confidence boost which is great, and I can choose who I want to talk to like if he meets my criteria or not. I don't know if I should make the profile or not?
phineas Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 POF is like digging through a trash can to get a half eaten muffin with bird **** on it. POF, OKcupid, Match.com, REAL FRICKEN LIFE. I'm almost convinced that a small portion of the single population (both men & women) aren't certified POS's. I mean seriously, almost every woman I meet is shady as hell, plays games & thinks she's doing me a favor by "allowing" me to spend time with her or desperate as hell & is mentioning "our future" & considering us together after a first meet in a bar. WTF?!?! 1
truth_seeker Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I mean seriously, almost every woman I meet is shady as hell, plays games & thinks she's doing me a favor by "allowing" me to spend time with her or desperate as hell & is mentioning "our future" & considering us together after a first meet in a bar. WTF?!?! I double this ^^^ What's more crazy is that if you call out a chick on her shadiness and games, they'll make you miserable.
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I met good guys on POF; one in particular. I met at least two really concerning creepers, and a few neutral. I met my husband on Match.com. Yes, I had to wade through a LOT of … the bad and the ugly, and so did he. 1
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