Mana Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 I've been w/my bf for about 1 yr. He got a job at a sub shop as a driver where there is this 1 particular girl (25) I know he finds attractive even though she has a bf. This 1 girl had a birthday in August and after work he sent her multiple texts. He also got home late that day. I didn't find out till months later because he deleted the texts. He claims it was just happy birthday, nothing more, but didn't want me to freak out so deleted them. There have been a few occasions where she wanted something like an energy drink or KFC and he would run and get it for her. He also told me that whenever he would walk in from a delivery she would call his name, no reason, just say his name. I'm the same age so find it odd to repeatedly say someone's name. During the summer he received a text at 1:30 am from her saying "hey BFF I'm eating bad pizza, want some?". Recently I saw his contact list on his phone and her number was there hidden in an "unknown" folder. He claims he doesn't know how or why it's there other than maybe when he added it to text her back in August. He quit the job last week and on his last day, as she was leaving, another female coworker said to her "aren't you going to hug him goodbye?". She ran up to him and hugged him. I asked him if his coworkers think there's something going on between them and his response was "idk". All along he's denied really even talking to her, never encouraged anything with her, and has never done anything outside of work with her. He's lied in the past so it's hard to trust him. Am I making more out of this or do you find the little things I mentioned here a bit suspicious?
dasein Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Welcome to the forum. Same advice to you as to men. Be proactive and aware about your SO's social life. Involve yourself because people, even otherwise good people, are weak. If you are dating an attractive guy, women will come out of the woodwork and flirt with him. Plan for this. Of course there is flirtation going on here, maybe more. It's obvious. Tell him to stop it or you are gone. It's good that he quit in a way because now if they continue contact, you have grounds for telling him to shut it down entirely or walking. This guy is shady. Quality people don't keep secret folders on their phone when in an exclusive relationship, especially not after a year of dating.
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