1slobalt12 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Okay so after being out of the dating game for about 4 years due to a past relationship and taking some time off to focus on myself i have started dating again. I have talked to/got numbers from a few different woman but i didnt have much interest in them so it didnt go anywhere besides meeting up for coffee The exception is this past wednesday night (thanksgiving eve) I met up with my friends gf and a bunch of her friends who i have all met before since we went to Highschool together years ago. By about halfway through the night i started to talk and dance with one of the girls who i least expected myself too be doing that with and at the end of the night we kissed and she gave me her number. Now I texted her today asking if she was free either tuesday or wednesday to get a bite to eat and some drinks and playfully added in that this time she couldnt take advantage of me. She said she couldnt either of those days because she is busy with work and classes. So i just told her im free after 2 during the week to let me know a day that works for her. She said that sounded good and that she would let me know. after that she continued to text me asking how many thanksgiving went,etc. We talked a little about that then i told her i had to get since i have a crossfit class to go to (which i do ofcourse). and that we would talk again soon. She replied saying Yes im sure we will!. if she doesnt bring up a date that works for her by next weekend, should i try again or just figure that she isnt that interested. Its been a long time since i last whent through the dating process and back then i was younger and feel like it worked very differently. thanks for reading my long essay.
dasein Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Never leave the ball in their court during the early ask out phase. You have done nothing wrong here, though, and sounds like potential. Call her, not text, in a few days, and ask her out again for a specific day and time to do a specific thing (not 'hang out on tues or wed'). If goes to VM, do not ask out on the VM, just leave a simple message for her to call you. If she calls back, then ask her out. If she says no without a specific alternate time and place, or doesn't respond to the VM if it goes there, move on. THEN, after that process she knows where to find you and leave her be otherwise. 1
Author 1slobalt12 Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 thanks for the advice, i will do that later in the week. I had no intentions of asking her to hang out, i was planing on having her meet up with me at a nice quiet local bar that i know of for a few drinks and a bite to eat then if that went well maybe something else
dasein Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 If you can find something active to do, with a drink and an appetizer not taking up much of the date, you can get back into that physical groove you had dancing with her much faster and easier. I always avoid dinner, movie, sitting somewhere dates in favor of anything moving, a walk in a park, museum, up and down the street, even people watching. When you are walking and moving around, making jokes and such and having fun that way, it keeps the heart and adrenaline flowing, gives her a chance to touch, you to respond and you will be making out again before you know it. If you go with the food/bar, make sure to sit next to each other in a booth or at the bar so you can touch each other. Good luck.
Author 1slobalt12 Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 Very True, the past few dates i took all of them into the town i live in since its right on the water and we would grab coffee and walk around. It always worked and went well, so i might as well do the same thing. Just a little more nervous then usual since i feel more of a connection to this date then the past few
Author 1slobalt12 Posted December 1, 2012 Author Posted December 1, 2012 Just thought i would follow up. I talked to this girl again inviting her out in the afternoon on saturday to grab a drink and check out a festival going on in town. Again she told me she was busy saying its the only day she is able to go christmas shopping with her mom and they had made plans too. I told her that it isnt a problem and asked if next weekend is good for her, she told me that she wont know her work schedule till thursday. So in response i just told her to contact me thursday and let me know so we can plan something. I dont plan to contact her again unless she contacts me, ive tried twice and now its on her.
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