bubcake Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 For a decade, studies have shown that women decide within the first 7 seconds if they want to date a guy. I saw an episode of a show where the guy literally just asks women out within the first 7 seconds and it working. But, that's TV. What do you think about being asked out? Do you usually need a bit of feeler first, or would it work just as well to be asked out within the first 7 seconds?
rdb Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Maybe initial attraction can be formed in 7 seconds, but I really am not buying any study that tries to convince me this is fact. It almost sounds laughable really.
todreaminblue Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 For a decade, studies have shown that women decide within the first 7 seconds if they want to date a guy. I saw an episode of a show where the guy literally just asks women out within the first 7 seconds and it working. But, that's TV. What do you think about being asked out? Do you usually need a bit of feeler first, or would it work just as well to be asked out within the first 7 seconds? i havent heard of the seven second rule.....i have heard of the ten second rule where if you drop something on the floor you can eat it if it is there only in ten seconds and under.....i think asking out a date should be higher than the rule for food dropped on the floor....i dont know about the seven second rule i suppose it takes all kinds of situations and people to make up the dating pool....who stop watches though the asker or the asked..there would have to be an initial attraction or interest from the asked for the date to eventuate no matter how much time it takes to ask...deb
Mrlonelyone Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 That's BS. Personally I have found a man unattractive then after talking to him for a minute found him attractive and vice versa. The same for women in my life. I really don't think the way this works for me is that different. Instead of worrying about that rule just keep yourself neatly groomed and such so that you make a good first impression. It's hard but not impossible to overcome. 1
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 (edited) What?! Another silly rule? Women have decided after making their initial scan of the person in question. For some it takes a few seconds, others minutes, others, an hour or more. In dating, the first few minutes determine a lot, but there's no silly 7-second rule....jeez. In fact, based on experience, answering within seconds could mean indecision, uncertainty and confusion.... I asked a women once and she said yes within 5 seconds. Later that evening, she contacted me and expressed her confusion at the time, nervousness, etc. and wasn't certain why she said yes (thank goodness it didn't work out ). Edited November 24, 2012 by soccerrprp
GLDheart Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 If I'm not smiling, I typically look unapproachable/intimidating.... I just have a very serious "default" face. It is what it is.... BUT DAMN. If that 7-second thing was true, I would be screwed (or "not" screwed if you will).
IT Geek Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Maybe initial attraction can be formed in 7 seconds, but I really am not buying any study that tries to convince me this is fact. It almost sounds laughable really. Initial attraction is a huge factor in whether or not a woman continues a conversation to get to know the guy (maybe/yes I'd go out with him) or excuses herself (totally not attracted to him - no way).
ooglesnboogles Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 First impressions are very very hard to overcome, for both men and women. I don't know how many people actually make a decision in those 7 seconds. I know I don't when I meet people in general, but I'm not a woman; maybe those studies think somethin else is goin on? If I'm not smiling, I typically look unapproachable/intimidating.... I just have a very serious "default" face. It is what it is.... BUT DAMN. If that 7-second thing was true, I would be screwed (or "not" screwed if you will). Yeah, join the club, mate! My face is looks kind of intense, like I'm trying to figure out whether or not to punch the person in front of me... Not exactly a good thing when trying to get girls, eh? I've been making a fairly conscious effort to raise my eyebrows just a bit. There's an odd balance between looking weirdly surprised and looking a little less intimidating. For me, it was such an odd feeling, but I recognized it as the muscles not knowing how to hold that pose. So I put a mirror on my desk and point it at my face so I'm forced to check every now and then, and raise my eyebrows when the dude in the mirror looks like he wants to strangle me. Added bonus, raising my eyebrows requires me to relax my face a little to focus on those muscles, so I look and feel more relaxed and welcoming.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 How could you even get it together to ask a girl out within the first 7 seconds of seeing her? I mean … how would you know YOU wanted to go out with HER? Speaking for myself, it did not take me very long to know whether I felt the "attraction feeling" with any guy, but 7 seconds? No way. Also, if I spoke to a guy I was quickly attracted to and found him to be a bigot, sexist or any other kind of a**hole, my attraction would disappear instantaneously.
trevzilla Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Got me I've asked like 50 women out in the last couple of years and it's resulted in zero dates. Best I get is a number followed by them flaking and not answering. From what I hear from my fellow Vancouverites, if you're not a friend of a friend there's very little chance they will go out with you. As I have no available women in my social circles I'm pretty much boned. I'm also in an area that is very young and I'm 42, so the opportunities are not plentiful even though I look and act a lot younger.
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