SpiralOut Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 I'm looking for the right word to describe her. She has this habit of focusing on someone's flaws. If she likes them, she'll think it's great that that person says stupid things, or says things to others that are mean. She'll laugh and tell everyone around her about it. She'll quote ignorant things the other person has said, or describe mean things they said to others. When she does that, she's actually making the other person look bad. People (not just me) don't react to it very well. So far she has made her friend look stupid, and the way she describes her boyfriend makes him sound like a tool. If she's annoyed with someone or doesn't like them, she'll just complain about how they did this wrong or how they did that wrong. She has actually said "they're stupid" about two other people so far. These are people who yes, can be really obnoxious, but still have good hearts. So that bothered me. Or sometimes if she likes someone but doesn't want to admit it she'll focus on their flaws again and complain about how they always say this or do that. There are very few people she has spoken favourably about. Both myself and someone else have called her out a little bit on this. I'm just wondering though, what word would you use to describe this? Negative? Condescending?
Nanuk Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 What do I call a person like this? The best word I can think of is "bitch". 2
elena86 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 you sound very frank! can you check my question too? No one has answered my question. I'm wondering your opinion about it.
bentnotbroken Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 What do I call a person like this? The best word I can think of is "bitch". Maybe queen of.... 2
Author SpiralOut Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 Thanks. I thought so too. I just haven't encountered anyone who acts so gleeful about someone's negative qualities. She talks about how "great" they are and then spews out all of these stupid things they say and do! "Isn't she so great?" she asks, and nobody says anything. I just don't understand.
todreaminblue Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 what do you call a thread thatfocuses on a flaw from someone who has difficulty expressing herself in a socially agreeable context and receives mostly negative replies That would probably be the same word you are looking for...the word eludes me when i think of it ill post it.....best wishes....deb
Author SpiralOut Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 (edited) what do you call a thread thatfocuses on a flaw from someone who has difficulty expressing herself in a socially agreeable context and receives mostly negative replies That would probably be the same word you are looking for...the word eludes me when i think of it ill post it.....best wishes....deb Hmm no I don't think it's the same thing. Looking forward to your response. Edited November 26, 2012 by SpiralOut
MissBee Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I'm looking for the right word to describe her. She has this habit of focusing on someone's flaws. If she likes them, she'll think it's great that that person says stupid things, or says things to others that are mean. She'll laugh and tell everyone around her about it. She'll quote ignorant things the other person has said, or describe mean things they said to others. When she does that, she's actually making the other person look bad. People (not just me) don't react to it very well. So far she has made her friend look stupid, and the way she describes her boyfriend makes him sound like a tool. If she's annoyed with someone or doesn't like them, she'll just complain about how they did this wrong or how they did that wrong. She has actually said "they're stupid" about two other people so far. These are people who yes, can be really obnoxious, but still have good hearts. So that bothered me. Or sometimes if she likes someone but doesn't want to admit it she'll focus on their flaws again and complain about how they always say this or do that. There are very few people she has spoken favourably about. Both myself and someone else have called her out a little bit on this. I'm just wondering though, what word would you use to describe this? Negative? Condescending? Miserable? I know exactly this kind of person....the only thing I can think of is to call her miserable. As she doesn't seem like a very happy person at all. Someone who takes joy in negativity to the point that what makes other people "great" are the bad stuff about them and who cannot show any positive emotion (like liking someone) without turning it into negativity seems like someone who is miserable and inauthentic. I feel sad for her. She clearly has some kind of issues which is why she acts like that.
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