Author tigressA Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 Here you go Jane, just in case you're having trouble seeing it...I think it's her best shot... TigressA Ha-ha
JamesM Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Thanks for sharing the pics. You are beautiful and radiant...he ain't bad either. 1
mickleb Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 God, I am such a woman! I was all ready to stay on the side of the cynics then that picture melted my heart! Really - I hope you continue to have a ball but I do think AMusing's advice is perfect. This is the best way to keep in control, IMO: just thinking 'if he's here forever, we don't have to do everything right now'. Thanks for warming my (sometimes) cold heart, though. 1
Author tigressA Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 God, I am such a woman! I was all ready to stay on the side of the cynics then that picture melted my heart! Really - I hope you continue to have a ball but I do think AMusing's advice is perfect. This is the best way to keep in control, IMO: just thinking 'if he's here forever, we don't have to do everything right now'. Thanks for warming my (sometimes) cold heart, though. Aw, you're welcome! And I like that quote. I will certainly keep it in mind.
Treasa Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 You're absolutely gorgeous and lovely, but he does have very pretty, kind-looking eyes. But you're still better looking. 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 You two look lovely and happy. I am here to testify from personal experience that this CAN and DOES happen and work. Of course, the "real" relationship has a lot of different aspects than the rush of new romance, but the two things are far from mutually exclusive. Congratulations, sincerely. Enjoy your good fortune. 1
kaylan Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) Actually you can. It's a biological response, dopamine and adrenaline. Lust isnt love. And Im not surprised that OP has had this reaction to a super hot guy. This has happened to a ton of people. Part of me wonders how much his physical attributes play into the love part and how much the rest of him plays into it Edited November 29, 2012 by kaylan
Art_Critic Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I have always been an "All In" kind of guy when it falls in my lap... Life is about living and learning and enjoying... Go T My signature is my signature for a reason.. because it happened to me and I learned.. now I'm enjoying.... 4
Author tigressA Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 All is well :love: I entertained him this past weekend in my town; I thoroughly impressed him with my culinary skills. Took him to a few of my favorite hangouts, took some pictures that were posted to FB--he definitely isn't shy about being tagged in pictures with me, etc, but neither of us are bothering with the relationship status stuff as of yet. I'll be in his neck of the woods again this weekend. He'll be with me again the following weekend and then we'll be apart for 2 weeks while he's seeing family for the holidays. Then he'll be with me for NYE and it'll be back to alternating weekends. My friends are excited to meet him, so I'll be making arrangements for that to happen over future weekends. He suffered an attempted break-in at his home in the middle of the night after getting home from his visit with me--just a few weeks after a fire in his bedroom that destroyed pretty much everything in it the night before we first met--so he's been stressed out dealing with all that. I'm working on a little care package for him that I'll make sure he gets before he flies out the weekend before Christmas. 4
Author tigressA Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 (edited) We wrapped up another weekend of him visiting me. It'll be the last weekend together for this year. Sunday we 'celebrated' one month by going on my rooftop terrace at midnight and lighting sparklers I hadn't used over the July 4th holiday. Even the kids my man works with at his job know he has a girlfriend now. A few weeks ago one of them sneaked a peek at his phone and saw my picture as his wallpaper; she asked if I was his girlfriend, he said yes, and he showed all the others because they wanted to see too. He told me another one of them, a little boy, still talks about it, telling his coworkers, "Hey did you know (BF's name) has a girlfriend?" Cute He works with pretty much all black/Hispanic kids and he said it seems like they like that he's with a black (mixed) woman. All our respective FB friends know we're together if they bother to look at any of the pics tagged of us, same goes for family. It's out there. Holidays will be busy, so not much time to miss each other over the next 2-3 weeks. Once they're done then we'll be seeing each other again. I put up a new pic of us from this weekend for my contacts to see. To Divasu: No, he isn't wearing eyeliner. He has naturally deep-set/shadowed eyes. Edited December 17, 2012 by tigressA 6
AMusing Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I'm happy for you tigressA. I hope he continues to impress you so much, it's a sweet story. 3
Drseussgrrl Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 So happy for you and hope I can share a similar story soon. 1
Author tigressA Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 So happy for you and hope I can share a similar story soon. You will!
Author tigressA Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 Just seven days to go until we see each other again--finally! It's been 11 days; we've been apart because of his established plans for the holidays. NYE together isn't happening either, so have to wait until next weekend. I've been sick and spent Christmas alone, and several other things I was looking forward to to keep me bustling didn't work out, so I was feeling rather distant from him since he was across the country and wasn't in contact as much. We had a talk about it last night (he came back early that morning); I told him I had considered ending our relationship because of the distance. It's so frustrating because it's only a couple of hours, but that couple of hours still makes it impossible for us to see each other outside of weekends because of our responsibilities. And we're not really at the point where we would spend every single weekend in a month together, either. We started out seeing each other whenever we could because the holiday season was coming up. Additionally, even though I like getting texts from him and talking on the phone and Skyping when we can't see each other (though I'm NOT the kind of person who needs or even wants to talk/text/etc all day), he told me last night he doesn't really feel his connection to me developing while doing those. He isn't as inclined toward those things, instead relying on when we are physically together. Because we're rarely physically together, he doesn't feel as connected to me as he would if distance wasn't an issue. He was surprised and seemed disappointed that I had thought of ending it, as he had never thought of that. He said he does miss me when we're apart and he hates not being able to do things and share things with me in the way he'd most like (the way I'd most like too!), but that he cares for me and what we have enough that he wants to build upon it; he doesn't want to give it up based on a geographical inconvenience. That made me feel a lot better. I did tell him that while he feels differently about it, I see calling/texting/Skyping as other ways of staying connected, and would prefer a little more effort on his part; he said he'll work on it. I got a super-cute text from him this morning that made me smile for hours. Things are overall quite well. A little bump in the road but after some honest talk and understanding, it's smoothed over.
veggirl Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Yeah, 2 hours would be a really inconvenient distance. Skyping and all that is good, but I'd figure out maybe a schedule for that if possible? I know that isn't romantic sounding, but I mean when my bf and I Facetime, I know it's going to be for at least an hour, so I have to set that time aside (not that I mind doing that, obvs, but I like to know in advance). Anyway, I think the holidays do throw people off, and once we get into the new year you will likely find yourselves settling into a more natural schedule that is sustainable. It's hard to kinda set a pattern at this time of year! 1
Author tigressA Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 Yeah, 2 hours would be a really inconvenient distance. Skyping and all that is good, but I'd figure out maybe a schedule for that if possible? I know that isn't romantic sounding, but I mean when my bf and I Facetime, I know it's going to be for at least an hour, so I have to set that time aside (not that I mind doing that, obvs, but I like to know in advance). Anyway, I think the holidays do throw people off, and once we get into the new year you will likely find yourselves settling into a more natural schedule that is sustainable. It's hard to kinda set a pattern at this time of year! It really is hard! We met at an incredibly inopportune time. Not only because of the holidays--the personal setbacks he's experienced since meeting me have preoccupied him too (house fire, break-in). I do like your idea of a schedule. It would be nice to have something to look forward to having with him while we're apart. But I'll see how things go after the holiday season is done--it could be that it's just the time of year that is throwing everything off. If it doesn't change much then I'll propose a schedule.
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