SoonMyFriend Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Has anyone here tried it? I just did it for the first time last night and I actually found it really uncomfortable. I dunno... maybe because it was my first one I'm still a little thrown off by the whole thing! Has anyone had any success out of it? Crazy stories? I had one guy grill me on whether or not I lived alone, another one ranted about how most women at speed dating events don't give men a chance, and another went on about how women on OLD are just there to play games. But other than a couple weirdos, most were normal guys just testing the waters. Was curious to see how fellow LSers have done at these events.
El Brujo Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 The ones I used to get a kick out of, back when I did a few speed dating parties, were the ditzy women with sharklike grins who'd ask me straight out, "are you having fun?!?!" (To these people, fun is a destination, not a journey.)
Cutiepie1976 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Tried it for the first time two months ago. I've been trying to get over an ex, and I really needed something to make me stop wallowing in my tears. Had a great time! I've now gone to three events.The first time was overwhelming--you meet a lot of guys in a very short timeframe and have to keep everyone straight when you make your list. (Take notes!) I matched with two guys. Had one date with one (great date, no chemistry) and dated the other guy for a month. (Immature...ugh...so I moved on.) Second time I matched with three guys. One date with one and declined dates with the other two after we chatted on the phone. Matched with two guys at the third event. Those dates have been set up post-Thanksgiving. A few pointers: #1 Pick events where there are a lot of attendees. The three events I attended had 75 people, 20 people, and over a hundred people respectively. Much better experience and much broader range of choices at larger events. You can put anyone down on your list, not just your speed dates. #2 Get there a little early and mingle. Stick around afterwards and mingle. A number of my matches were guys I met while at the bar, on the check-in line, etc. I wasn't interested in the vast majority of the guys I was actually paired with for speed dates. #3 Relax and just have fun. There's no rejection in-person. Totally recommend trying it!
Cutiepie1976 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Yes. I did encounter a couple of guys who ranted on about their online dating horror stories, ex-wives, skeezy neighbors, etc. Most guys though seemed well-adjusted and relatively normal. Just single/separated/divorced and looking to meet someone to date, just like me. With some there was a click. With others, not so much! Just like anywhere else, except everyone at the event was available and looking to find a date. That was the beauty of an event like this.
truth_seeker Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I did it twice. First time felt like a job fair. I was bouncing from woman to woman. Some were nice. Some were idiots. Some were f-ing ugly as sin. Most, including myself were skeptics. I tried it again recently as OLD was not working for me and it was a disaster. Yes, I am guilty for sharing some OLD horror stories (sorry, I'm scarred) but the women had their horror stories, too, so it was kind of cathartic to swap stories. lol. The problem with it: it's forced as its too fast. I'm still a believer in the "look". You see someone and they immediately captivate you. There's an instant spark. You can sense it from the other person, too. It's just there. I wish I could have that feeling again.
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