Jambalayer Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Hi - I just want to share my story I'm 30 and I have a 3-year-old son from a previous relationship - I have visitation 2 days per week. About a year ago I started dating a beautiful, smart charming woman who is 5 years younger than me. We work together - literally sit next to each other every day. Up until a fortnight ago, we were dating for nearly the whole year. On one of our first dates she said to me that she was very uneasy about dating a guy with a kid. I said to her that I wasn't looking for anything serious and we agreed to see where it went. Initially, she seemed ok with my son - we hung out as a three a couple of times. I never got her too involved in my son's life, because I didn't know what would happen. As things got more serious she started to talk about moving in with me - and she seemed to be growing ok with the concept of my son being in her life. I think she was evaluating whether she could fully give herself to me - at 25, she is unencumbered and doesn't even know if she wants kids. We had an incredible year - we saw each other every couple of days, dated like crazy and we had an incredible connection. I fell in love with her, and she me. Then, we had a couple of weird fights - stemming from some of my worries that I was falling in too deep with her. I tested her, I asked for commitment - she got scared and started to pull away. I stopped freaking out, started acting normally - and we got closer. Then I just asked her whether she could see a future with us one last time - and I knew the answer would be no. We parted with a kiss and I told her I would always love her. Now, everyday, we sit next to each other - It's hard, but we're coping. I still love her intensely and sometimes I just want to reach out and touch her - but she made a decision that was hard for her and really hope she ends up happy with someone who can give her the life she wants. I'm so happy I took a risk this year. She was a beautiful amazing person - and I will always love her.
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