Shohane Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 (edited) Last month, he discovered a second Facebook profile of mine, and he borrowed a mutual friend's account to read my statuses, the statuses that said I loved and missed him. After reading it, I think he realized how much pain I went through, then he used a fake account to add me. At first I didn't accept his request, and he kept commenting normally on my public statuses, so I accepted it. He continues commenting on my statuses, but is still blocking me on his real account. I wasn't sure what his motive was, so I sent him a message where I poured my feelings, anger, frustrations out, I just hoped to let them all go, and concluded with a question why he added me on a fake account. I sent a copy of the msg. to his real account as well. I could tell he was angry upon receiving it. But no reply from his real acc. His fake account replied me. He's playing dumb: "I'm not sure i understand what you just said there, seems like a pretty disturbed series of thoughts. It feels like the message wasn't directed at me, and so i'm gonna assume so. In any way, i live a life in which every passing day i follow bliss and get away from instabilities of all kinds, for they are illusions and they gradually degrade everything we see and that we don't. That's all." Then he posted more comments on my statuses; it just seems like he is trying to remain a certain kind of contact. It kind of seems like he is trying to mentor or give me advice. But it's clear that he doesn't want reconciliation or anything to do with me at this point, as he's denying his identity and still blocking me on his real account. One reason I could think of is, he was talking about me to his friends, which made them dislike me, so if he contacted me on his real account, he'd risk "losing face"... I think he's contacting me out of pity, and that alone. I wrote a response which I haven't sent yet: "Oh, you insist on playing dumb which means you have no purpose of being here, which means you're here out of pity. So if you think you're "helping" me "move on," you're wrong. Either you use your real account or stop staying connected at all." How do you suggest I should procceed? Should I keep his fake acc. on my friendlist, or remove him? Edited November 23, 2012 by Shohane
movingon12 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Run a mile!!! Block him from every single account you have and thank your lucky stars you don't have to be in a relationship with such a manipulative, deceitful, pretentious, arrogant sod. Seriously, he sounds like an absolutely terrible person!
Author Shohane Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 Yes, I agree. Done! Removed that jackass. 1
moveONorStay Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Without doubt playing games with you and prolonging the hurt. He doesn't pity you...he is just seeing if you'll take the bait. Block him on both accounts. You don't deserve to deal with that kind of behavior!! How old is he by the way?
Author Shohane Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 He's 20. Hate to say it, this hurts me - his playing with my feelings. I really really wanna get back at him for this. Please tell me how to deal with this
Hulsey Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 For me the best way for you to get back at him is to block him, and go no contact with him. He sounds like a snake in the grass. Try anything/everything to get him out of your head, you will then eventually see if he wants you or he was actually doing it out of 'pity' as you say. For me I would run a mile, go out enjoy yourself and find the real you to move on with your life.
movingon12 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 He's 20. Hate to say it, this hurts me - his playing with my feelings. I really really wanna get back at him for this. Please tell me how to deal with this Yup it's going to be hell for a while but : it will get better! Promise! The 100% best way to get back at him is to block him and don't contact or reply to him. Anything nasty you do (bunny boiling etc) will just make him happy he dumped you - this you do not want. The problem with NC is you can't see how annoyed he will get. You just have to trust that he is. The fact that he has been contacting you and reading your posts means he likes to feel he still knows what's going on and he can still influence you. If you take that away he has nothing. He wants to know that you're not over him - it makes him feel important. Don't give him the satisfaction. If he doesn't 'know' what you're doing and how you're feeling, he'll imagine it. And what he imagines (as he is clearly very insecure deep down to be behaving like this) will be far far worse than the truth. Let him wallow in his own paranoid daydreams of the 18 new Olympic gymnast boyfriends you are now dating.... 1
Author Shohane Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 hahahha... I've blocked him on all accounts. I'm sure he will (if not done so already) make a third account to stalk me. lol
Author Shohane Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Hello, I'm back again because I'm confused... When he friend-requested me with his fake profile, he let me see these statuses on his fake profile, which confused me about whether or not he wanted reconciliation-- those "friendly statuses" read: "If you were given an opportunity to get rid of all your pain at once, without saying goodbye, without having to do anything else, would you want to?" and "Pascal's Wager, and what you can learn from it...could change your life. God is, or He is not A Game is being played... where heads or tails will turn up. According to reason, you can defend either of the propositions. You must wager. (It's not optional.) Let us weigh the gain and the loss in wagering that God is. Let us estimate these two chances. If you gain, you gain all; if you lose, you lose nothing. Wager, then, without hesitation that He is. (...) There is here an infinity of an infinitely happy life to gain, a chance of gain against a finite number of chances of loss, and what you stake is finite. And so our proposition is of infinite force, when there is the finite to stake in a game where there are equal risks of gain and of loss, and the infinite to gain." and Paradise Lost by John Milton and Gustav Doré and some songs that I liked. but he also posted these things: "I thought what I'd do was, I'd pretend I was one of those deaf-mutes. That way I wouldn't have to have any goddam stupid useless conversations with anybody. --Catcher in the Rye" "The girl ate the fish which ate the dish, which ate the table, which was forgotten..." and a meme that read: "wyz do i even hang out with uz dude?" Do you think he was just insecure & afraid of rejection, or wanted to toy with me?
livelife Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 This is the weirdest thing I have ever heard. How long ago was your breakup? how long was NC before you first heard from him? Just trying to get a basis down before I go into anything!
Author Shohane Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) Does "how long" matter? We had fights that had been going on since Christmas 2011, then we finally broke in June. Even though he has blocked me on one of my profiles, he's always used a fake profile to read my stuff so he's never gone NC, in a sense. But we've never spoken. Then in October, he discovered a 2nd profile of mine and borrowed his friend's acc. to read it (see my opening post in this thread)... After he used a fake acc. to connect with me, I was mad at him playing dumb, I followed the advice on this forum (which I believe is appropriate) and have all his accounts blocked now. I also sent him a final msg. that said he's not welcome anymore. However, at this point, I'm 100% sure that he's still able to see my profiles, either he has a third account or borrows his friend's again... Also it's worth noting that he's the Casanova-type of guy -- very insecure deep down. I made a public post on my profile about a psychological study of Casanova disorder, then HE made a status in response to that on his own profile, which means he's still following me, or rather, we're still following each other... Edited December 8, 2012 by Shohane
na49 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I seriously hope I don't find myself in your situation that long after my BU. I don't really have much advice, but it's normal for him to be stalking your life. Did you dump him or did he dump you? If you dumped him, he is just checking up on you to see how you're doing because he doesn't know what's been going on in your life. If he dumped you then he must be lonely and figure you're still an option as someone he can bother.
Author Shohane Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Nvm, I've decided that this jerk doesn't deserve any second thoughts..
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