quess Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 (edited) i'm extremely confused at this point. i dated a guy - met him just a few times in a month. since it's very early, we don't know each other too well but we already had sex. all these dates have been pretty nice. he was very assertive in arranging these dates since we have mismatching schedules. now he's on a 3 week vacation out of country to see his siblings. on the first 2 dates he mentioned how he'll message me while he's there. however the last time i met him, there was no mention of messaging me. rather he told me he'll see me again when he returns and left it at that. now i may have made a slight mistake. we last met two days prior to his departure so we said our byes at that time. feeling that this was sufficient, i actually did not send him a "have a safe trip" text on the actual day of his leaving. in retrospect, i realized how this may have seemed rude to him as he is typically a man of proper etiquette. so i thought he may be upset over it. i have my reasons for this assumption since he brought up my pattern of sending out slow emails/texts often. this is a habit of mine in general but i did fix it for him. so i feel he cares about manners a lot. now here's the interesting thing. it's been a full week since he's been there. not a single word from him. i understand this is an early stage in dating so there is no obligation. but still, if you're truly interested, i feel like you'd at least send a single, small msg. so i actually sent him a brief email, wishing him a good thanksgiving. no reply. i will either assume that 1) he's pissed i didn't send him a last bye text before he left or 2) he's lost interest. maybe both. maybe i did something wrong? no clue. does he not check email over there? he tends to be prompt will digital communication. but then again, he's on a vacation.... i will try not to overthink this but it sure is bothering me. what do you think it may be? i get this feeling i will hear back from him when he returns but i'd like to think you're slightly thinking of me when away. am i expecting too much? well i don't know, i guess this indicates a lowered/no interest? sigh. he seemed like a good guy who wouldn't pull the disappearing act.... Edited November 23, 2012 by quess
ja123 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Yeah, it would have been nice of you to send a "Have a great trip text." However, don't jump to conclusions that he's mad at you either. He's probably quite busy with his family and in another headspace. Why don't you send him a text, instead of waiting for him to send you one? And when he gets back, if you're more a talk-on-the-phone person than a texter, just tell him so he can adjust his expectations.
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