arezidue Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 In a nutshell, I have been dating a guy for 5 months now and it is unclear if he is into me or not. I have known this individual for quite some time now, years. We went to school together before I have ever gave him the time of day. In 2008, he gave me his number and I never called him. I was involved with someone else. I would see him out and we would always catch up a little and embrace. Then, finally earlier this year I seen him again. We exchanged numbers and started talking. It fell off a little bit and I seen him at another party in the mid year and then things just took off from there. The first two months were hot in heavy. He had experienced a family emergency and he had pushed back a little. Now, I am only seeing him like 3 times a month and that is only to $%#. He texts me often, he compliments me, he hasn't asked me out on a date, he has asked me to go over his parents home, he forgot to wish me a happy birthday, but will be having a party soon and is unsure if he is going to show up to that. I do think he has multiple girls and because its been 5 months I know he is keeping me around for something. HELP, what is it?
dasein Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Welcome to the forum. Whatever it is, it isn't working for you, and that's really all that matters. You are right in that he isn't giving you his full attention. Have you confronted him with all these things? If so, what did he say?
Author arezidue Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 (edited) No, not yet. Before I say anything to him. I just wanted to make sure that my head is on straight. He is so confusing. I honestly don't think he wants a relationship right now, but I can't tell if he would be interested in that with me in the future or is he just stringing me along.], using me for sex etc. Edited November 23, 2012 by arezidue
dasein Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Well, I hope you get the answers you are seeking and that they aren't bad answers. But sorry to say, it doesn't look good. You have your head screwed on perfectly well, and have every right to expect better treatment.
Tara247 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 You already know the answer to this, or I hope you do. The answer is NO. He's not into you. Pay attention to a person's actions, not their words. Actions will tell you everything. Just lose the pretty boy player. Please. Find a man that's really into you. 1
Author arezidue Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 So, after all he did call and came through for my birthday and actually was apart of surprise b'day plans and basically hung out all weekend afterwards see this is what brings me to confusion.
Candle037 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I don't think he is interested in you but for sex. What happens when you withhold having sex will he hang out without sex?
er1n Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 It sounds like you both have been too flaky (maybe not by intention but still flaky) to the point of reaching the bored, "this isnt going anywhere" feeling. I cant speak for him or you but it seems like theres really nothing there I guess. You should ask what he wants with you or how he thinks of you to avoid making yourself a F&*%Buddy to him if you want to be take seriously by him.
spiderowl Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Sorry but I think he's just using you. He shows very little interest in you and you deserve better. Surely you must have met guys who did pay you lots of attention and wanted to be with you? You are accepting this occasional hook-up relationship. Is this what you want? I don't think this guy has any plans for the relationship with you. I wish I could say otherwise, but all the signs are that he is entirely selfish.
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