michael21 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 So after we broke up almost a month ago, we have had contact and seen each other a couple of times. Today would have been our anniversary, today out of nowhere she sends me a text saying Happy Anniversary, and that its been tough for her and she hopes its not weird that she sent that text. I am so confused as to what to do, half of me says to call her.. the other half says that I should not reply because it was her choice to end our 10 year relationship. I don't understand what's going on, part of me hopes that if I went and saw her today we would get back together somehow but I don't think that will happen. Any advice on how to proceed?
CarrieT Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Stay no contact... You don't think you will get back together so why reopen the wound?
Author michael21 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 Stay no contact... You don't think you will get back together so why reopen the wound? That's true, I mean I really do want to get back together with her. But I think that she would shoot me down again (I already did the whole asking for a second chance thing) It's so weird because I feel if though I don't reply she will be hurt and think of me differently, but then again she really really hurt me.
puzzled1 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 There is no anniversary. You guys are broken up! I wouldn't even respond back to that.
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I think you should not reply and stay in NC. The same thing has happened to me a couple of times. My ex would text something that I read into that she wants to get back together. When I called her it was the same crap over again. Ironically for the moment that I spoke to her I felt good. After our conversation I went back to square one. After that I swore to myself never to go through that again. Here is how I see it. If she wanted you back she will come out and say it. If not then she will make multiple attempts to reach out to you. Until then, I would not read to much into ANYTHING and not try to over analyze the situation. Besides it will say more if you do not reply back. Let her stew in that. She hurt you...so let it go. Only my 2 cents. GL.
denxnis Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I think you should not reply and stay in NC. The same thing has happened to me a couple of times. My ex would text something that I read into that she wants to get back together. When I called her it was the same crap over again. Ironically for the moment that I spoke to her I felt good. After our conversation I went back to square one. After that I swore to myself never to go through that again. Here is how I see it. If she wanted you back she will come out and say it. If not then she will make multiple attempts to reach out to you. Until then, I would not read to much into ANYTHING and not try to over analyze the situation. Besides it will say more if you do not reply back. Let her stew in that. She hurt you...so let it go. Only my 2 cents. GL. I COMPLETELY agree. I'm going through a similar situation, please take my advice it will save you a lot of trouble. She is CRAVING your attention. Do not respond!!! The only time I had regrets during my breakup is when I responded or called my ex... a few hours later I would bang my head on the wall. Until she leaves you a long apology or email stating how she messed up etc etc do not respond. These one line messages are just her trying to keep you at arms length until she fully moves on.
Author michael21 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 I haven't used NC at all since we broke up, and we are supposed to go to a movie next week. I guess it is best to NC in this situation... Thanks for the input everyone
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