How do you know there is someone better out there?

[Huzza]

First off I don't like saying better because ranking people on a scale is just absurd. However my ex girlfriend, the love of my life, was perfect for me. Everyone else I've met was so predictable. Most dudes put their girlfriend on a pedestal and disregard the flaws. I acknowledge she had flaws, numerous to be exact, but she was absolutely amazing, almost everything about her made my heart soar. The reason we broke up was at one point we were just crazy for each other and we became distractions to each other. We didnt take care of responsibilities and in the end she had to move because her mom was, and she was all about respect and not wanting to disappoint her, but she resented me for moving. We had a god long distance relationship for a while until she realized she couldn't really focus on her carer out there and then everything i did became irritable. She ended it saying she wanted to be alone. She was my best friend, the cliche Bonnie and Clide. She is gorgeous with a personality to impact your day in a positive way. SHe hates me now because I asked for closure by trying to get my clothes back, to be honest i still dont understand why. Ive talked to various women, the place i work i come across a good amount of beautiful women, but talking to, they lacked what she had, they were mere settling options in my opinion and i have a irrational fear of settling and conformity. She had this mindset that was just out of this world on another level, and she moved on with ease, nothing stops her. Shes not like regular girls where like if you show her your life is amazing and your moving on, she'll get jealous and want you back. She'll be happy for you and continue trucking on. She stops for no one and i honestly doubt that we'll be back together. Another factor to take in is shes moving to New York. She goes with life, and im the type of boyfriend who woulndt even dream of hindering her. I was the most supportive and loving guy who got distracted way to easily with her.Either way I have this feeling that she really was the only one for me, no woman out there could hold a flame to her, I know 3 billion women but so far what i've seen, there all to common and predictable. beautiful alike. (I know I'm starting to sound like an arrogant *******) I dont know, just who ever is reading this, tips would be amazing, and none of that time bs. Have you guys been through this and if so? Also i know you might find another women you like for different reasons because we all change, but she satisfied everything and at one point in tome i did for her. So tell me readers, whats your opinions. Thanks.

 

PS A list of some of her qualities, im still missing that something that made her so out of this world and i know some of these contradict but this was her: Confident, Driven, Humorous, Witty, Calm, Adventurous, Sweet, Twisted when she wanted, Loves to help people succeed and be the best, Flowed with life not a bad thing has happened to her because of her mentality that life is amazing no matter what, Independent, Logical, Opinionated, Blunt, Wild, Embodied freedom if you feel me, unpredictable, childish, creative, and amazing in bed

 

 

 

Thanks guys for helping or taking the time to read it

[Exit]

Uhm... maybe you should add "someone who will stay with me" to the list of things you want in a woman.

 

That's the very simple answer to your question about "how do you know there is someone better out there". You should know that there is, because even the most amazing person in the world, is not all that amazing if they see no problem going on with their life without you in it.

 

Isn't it kind of funny how we all overlook that? How can somebody be so amazing and perfect if they don't want to be with us? That would be like going shopping for a new car and saying you want one with an engine that will never start when you put the key in the ignition. So you're late for work, miss appointments, have to take public transportation, but damn, you sure do love the color of the paint and the wheels. The most important thing about the right car for you is that it should serve its purpose of getting you from point A to point B. And there's no way that the perfect woman, the one for you, is a woman who would ever want to choose living without you. I don't think you'd buy a car that would never work so why would you want a life partner who doesn't want to be on your team?

 

You can write your big long list of how many things are so great about her, but how can those things ever compensate for the fact that she moved away, tried a long distance relationship with you for a while, and then decided she felt fine to carry on her life without you. That should be a pretty big negative in the list of things you can describe about her. So, deny it as you might, you do still have her on a pedestal, because you're choosing to still drool over all the things you think are so great about her without acknowledging the fact that she can't possibly be the right one if she doesn't want to be with you.

[aussietigerwolf]

Because the right person would never leave...

[todreaminblue]

In love you can never be sure which way the road will go,

that's why there is a billion broken heart love songs you know,

some people never travel down that path and meet someone,

some people travel the path and don't realise until she/he is gone,

so left behind someone is saying damn man that was the one,

so on that path of desire to love or to ruin or to glory,

its another leap another step and another story,

none of us know if there is going to be another better,

none of us know if this time we'll get it right and to the letter,

you have to do the hop the skip and the jump,

or stay behind in the dust and be a rock or be a chump,

sometimes free spirits cant be caught for long and they don't stay,

that spirit you had was wrong for you anyway,

you will live to learn and love again some day.........deborah

Edited November 23, 2012 by todreaminblue

[goldengirl11]

Uhm... maybe you should add "someone who will stay with me" to the list of things you want in a woman.

 

That's the very simple answer to your question about "how do you know there is someone better out there". You should know that there is, because even the most amazing person in the world, is not all that amazing if they see no problem going on with their life without you in it.

 

Brilliant!!!

[Sugarkane]

You just have to as there's some great people out there. And this is coming from a cynic. You just do until you meet someone and realize how much better person they are compared your ex. that is what happened to me.

[Huzza]

Wow exit, you hit it right on the nail. It sucks though I have all these constant reminders of her which put me in that mindset. Im trying to find ways to distract myself but everytime I do i somehow connect it to her and ill forget that were through for a nano sec and think this would be great to share with her only coming back to reality realizing shes not there. Pathetic trust me i know. Something else thats pathetic i dont have the heart to delete her on fb because i still want her in my life.

[dhcp]

Wow exit, you hit it right on the nail. It sucks though I have all these constant reminders of her which put me in that mindset. Im trying to find ways to distract myself but everytime I do i somehow connect it to her and ill forget that were through for a nano sec and think this would be great to share with her only coming back to reality realizing shes not there. Pathetic trust me i know. Something else thats pathetic i dont have the heart to delete her on fb because i still want her in my life.

 

It's not pathetic, you are just going through the phases. Don't worry, you will hit some moment on some random Tuesday night when you just say "screw it" and you delete her and surprise yourself when you do it.

 

Hang in there, sounds like you had some great times together but try to live the life she would want you to live, I know her type and you know she would want only the best for you.

Edited November 26, 2012 by dhcp

[Huzza]

It's not pathetic, you are just going through the phases. Don't worry, you will hit some moment on some random Tuesday night when you just say "screw it" and you delete her and surprise yourself when you do it.

 

Hang in there, sounds like you had some great times together but try to live the life she would want you to live, I know her type and you know she would want only the best for you.

 

 

First off thanks mate second please tell me what is her type, its been racking my mind for hours, shouldn't i live life the way i want to live then from her ideals, and your right down to the end all she wanted was what was best for me. Im dreading the day i delete her form fb, i think that's my last connection towards her save her phone number embedded in my mind.

[Phanpooh]

My advise: " forgetting sarah marsall". After u watch tham movie, come back here and tell me how perfect ur ex WAS

[dhcp]

First off thanks mate second please tell me what is her type, its been racking my mind for hours, shouldn't i live life the way i want to live then from her ideals, and your right down to the end all she wanted was what was best for me. Im dreading the day i delete her form fb, i think that's my last connection towards her save her phone number embedded in my mind.

 

I went through something similar in my life, had an amazing free-spirited person who loved me deeply and loved life in general and wasn't afraid of her own shortcomings. Although I was the one that blew up the relationship due to my own issues and insecurities, looking back it was a wonder she ever went out with my in the first place, she was a rock star and I was a train wreck and she made me a better person. We were together two years, living together for half that. She was never afraid to ask difficult questions (in a tactful way) and broke me of the habit of sweeping problems under the rug, she wasn't afraid of bringing up difficult subjects with the sole intention of working through them. Completely emotionally mature.

 

I pined for that girl for several years afterwards and kept track of her as she moved through life. She was never afraid to show her emotions, never played games, was more than willing to accept that pain is a part of life and relationships and wore her heart on her sleeve. She moved through the ranks professionally and deserved every break she had, everyone loved her and while we were together she never strayed and made me feel like a rock star. It was like a halo effect just to be around her as she moved through the world. Everyone loved her and she was sincere and fun in every way. And yes, total star in bed, too. I could try to think of the list of "bad" things about her but there truly aren't many, she lived live with authenticity and not at other's expense. It was humbling to see her take on life and accept loss or pain as part of it when I would constantly question myself.

 

We are fb friends now after maybe 8 years and I see her with a guy that seems really great and they look happy and she looks as good as she did back then. I squirm a bit when I see pictures of her with another guy but I have no doubt that our time together was unique and special and she looks back at it fondly, even through we will never go to that place together again. I'm undoubtedly a better person and more in touch with myself because of her and I know that me doing well in life and being happy is something that will always be important to her, even if we never speak again.

 

Somehow knowing that someone I hold in such high esteem will always believe in me somehow makes me try a little harder in life, be a little more honest with myself and try to become a better partner in my own relationships.

 

You aren't there yet, but you will be one day, guaranteed. There is nothing wrong with missing a rock-star girlfriend and I don't think you have to think of a laundry list of bad things about her. Eventually your heart will let go and if she was that good, you will take the good things from it and maybe keep a dose of her positivity for life too.

[Huzza]

I watched forgetting Sara Marshall haha good movie and for DHCP sounds so familiar man, wow. Have you found someone to rock your world the way she did? Like wow that really sounds like her, which just blew a part of my theory away.

[Huzza]

I went through something similar in my life, had an amazing free-spirited person who loved me deeply and loved life in general and wasn't afraid of her own shortcomings. Although I was the one that blew up the relationship due to my own issues and insecurities, looking back it was a wonder she ever went out with my in the first place, she was a rock star and I was a train wreck and she made me a better person. We were together two years, living together for half that. She was never afraid to ask difficult questions (in a tactful way) and broke me of the habit of sweeping problems under the rug, she wasn't afraid of bringing up difficult subjects with the sole intention of working through them. Completely emotionally mature.

 

I pined for that girl for several years afterwards and kept track of her as she moved through life. She was never afraid to show her emotions, never played games, was more than willing to accept that pain is a part of life and relationships and wore her heart on her sleeve. She moved through the ranks professionally and deserved every break she had, everyone loved her and while we were together she never strayed and made me feel like a rock star. It was like a halo effect just to be around her as she moved through the world. Everyone loved her and she was sincere and fun in every way. And yes, total star in bed, too. I could try to think of the list of "bad" things about her but there truly aren't many, she lived live with authenticity and not at other's expense. It was humbling to see her take on life and accept loss or pain as part of it when I would constantly question myself.

 

We are fb friends now after maybe 8 years and I see her with a guy that seems really great and they look happy and she looks as good as she did back then. I squirm a bit when I see pictures of her with another guy but I have no doubt that our time together was unique and special and she looks back at it fondly, even through we will never go to that place together again. I'm undoubtedly a better person and more in touch with myself because of her and I know that me doing well in life and being happy is something that will always be important to her, even if we never

similarities are you still single, has anyone match her?

[Huzza]

Did anyone have a girlfriend like dchp and have they found someone that made them feel better than that which i would say is the limit. I mean what else could there possibly be anyones response will be greatly appreciated.