Spring86 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Quick background...I have known this guy for 10 years, however we met over the internet and hung out a few times. We kept in touch with each others lives kind of in and out throughout the years and have really built a connection that way through our conversations. We live in different states so it makes it hard to hang out in person. Fast forward, I'm now 26 and he shows interest in me romantically and we have talked almost every day on the phone, changed e-mails, etc. for the past few months. He wants me to come visit him and asks me to get time off work and that he wants to pay for me to come visit him. I take the time off of work and he tells me that he booked me a plane ticket already. I'm excited to come and see him but when I ask him about information about the flight he makes up excuses and tells me to just not worry about it, but does give me information as to what airline it is. I have been patient in getting this information. It had been weeks of me asking and me being patient with him telling me he would. I message him like we normally do and ask him to send me the flight info when he gets a chance. This time he goes completely MIA. I call up the airline later that night after work because at this point i'm suspicious and there is no record of me on any of the flights flying into his city on that day. This was on Tuesday. I send him an e-mail on Wednesday stating that I hope that he's ok since I haven't talked to him since Tuesday morning (which is very unlike him. We e-mail and text throughout the whole day) kindly saying "don't worry about the flight and me coming out. Have a happy Thanksgiving with your family blah blah blah". I get an e-mail back last night (Wednesday) with him stating that he's sorry that he's been MIA and that he probably should have called me but that he got a call mid-Monday from him sister that the police informed him that his parents had been in a horrible car accident and that he has been dealing with that the past few days and spending time in X hospital and to keep his family in his prayers and that he loves me. I immediately feel horrible and send him a text telling him that I am so so sorry, etc. I get no response back. And I can understand that given what he's going through. However I wake up this morning and reread the e-mail and realize that he said the accident was on Monday and that he left work immediately. Thing was this...I was e-mailing and texting him on Monday throughout the day and at night and he didn't bring up anything. Not once. We also e-mailed Tuesday morning while he was at work. But he said he was at the hospital in his e-mail? Something isn't adding up. Maybe it was a typo? Who knows. So I call up the hospital that he said his parents are at to send flowers and the hospital told me that there is no one at that hospital with that last name. Now I feel that I'm being completely lied to. Is it that he didn't want to book the plane ticket? I don't want to bring up to him that I called the hospital or that the airline said I wasn't on any of the flights. I'm throughly confused and don't know where to go from here. Any advice would be greatly greatly appreciated.
Yookie Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 He's not being truthful. You already have the evidence. Trust your instincts and the information that you were able to verify. He's not even a good liar since he can't keep the days straight.
ja123 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 I'm sorry he lied to you. Now it's your turn to go MIA. Go no contact and move on.
truth_seeker Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 This guy is a complete scumbag. Then again, why in the hell are you taking a guy who lives out of state seriously to being with? He's more than likely playing you and other women all at once. You putting the pressure on him is making him scramble with terrible lies and disappearing into thin air. He's a loser. Drop him. Do not speak to him ever again.
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