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I just broke up with my gf after a 1.5year relationship and i cant help but ask myself if i made the right decision.

 

My (ex)gf is 31 and im 25. Although the age difference didnt bother me when we first started dating, it started to bother me as the relationship progressed, considering the fact that shes at an age where people typically want marriage/kids. The relationship was great... she stayed at my place almost everyday, we hardly fought, she took really good care of me, and she is someone i hope for in a future wife. Its just that im not ready for marriage YET.

 

When we broke up, we happened to be in a fight, and something clicked in my head, telling me that i cant keep making her wait until my perception of marriage changes. I didnt want to be pressured into marriage because of her age, and at the same time, i didnt want her to waste precious years of her life waiting for someone she may not have a future with, when she could be looking for someone thats available NOW.

 

When this thought "clicked" into my head, i explained this to her, and which eventually led to the break up, quite abruptly i may add. I myself did not foresee us breaking up that day, and i know she was devastated considering the relationship seemed near perfect up until that point. We did break up on peaceful terms though (aka we didnt end it hating eachother).

 

In all honestly, theres a part of me that still wants to explore the world, so to speak. I want to experience other relationships to see if there are more people out there that are just as great, if not better. I have this selfish desire, but i want her to be happy, and breaking up seemed like a good answer... opposed to cheating.

 

If i was older (for instance, the same age as her), i feel like i wouldnt be going through this thought process, and probably wouldve married her by now.

 

What do you guys think?

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It sounds like you made the right decision. You didn't string her along when you realized this or waste more years for her. Explore your own life. Stay strong!

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