jayy23 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 So after 4months NC I sent her a msg just asking if she wanted to stay in contact or just leave it and not speak again. She msgd back saying that she is really stressed out with uni and is happy not talking and wanted to leave it at that. So I said that's fine thanks for letting me know and that was that. 2weeks later she sent me a msg saying.. I said I would come meet with you but I don't think it's such a good idea anymore. I thought that was random. So I just said it's ok if you don't want to I don't mind but out of curiosity how come it would be a bad idea? That was nearly 2weeks ago and she hasn't got back to me. All she did with that second msg is raise more questions but she's not answering them. What's that all about? I just seen a pic of her in her Halloween costume and Oooffft she looked good.
Samms22 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 She's toying with you. Why did you stop the NC? Continue it or you'll be back to square one. Also, don't facebook stalk her or look at old photos. It's going to make you want to contact her more. Delete everything if you can, it helps. Who cares if she looks good? It's over. Find someone you like and that person will look good to you.
Author jayy23 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 She's toying with you. Why did you stop the NC? Continue it or you'll be back to square one. Also, don't facebook stalk her or look at old photos. It's going to make you want to contact her more. Delete everything if you can, it helps. Who cares if she looks good? It's over. Find someone you like and that person will look good to you. Because before I started NC in the first place she said she wanted us not to talk for a few months so she had time to think and move on so I respected that and went NC for 4Months I basically just wanted to know what was happning if she wanted to stay in contact or not. I got my answer and that was fine. But I wasn't expecting that other msg from her. Im not contacting her and I don't fb stock her I'm past all that. Seeing that picture tho was kinda depressing. I dunno why she sent me that second msg tho after saying she was happy not talking. Then I get back to her and she doesn't msg me back hmm.
Samms22 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Jayy, she's moved on and it's over. The best thing to do is do No Contact, period, and lose the hope you have of ever getting back together with her. You still have some hope, and she's partly to blame for that. Females usually say "let me clear my head for awhile before we talk again" as a soft way of telling you that they don't want to talk anymore, period, and have a good life. The only way you're going to get over this is stop looking at pictures of her, and stop messaging her or hoping for a message. Delete her from your phone, all voicemails and texts, and her number, and if she texts you back, delete it without reading it. The above is how I got over my breakups and that's my advice to you good sir. Take it and you'll be over her soon. Be active, don't think about it, extrovert, and date other people. You'll start liking someone else and she won't look so good. 1
Author jayy23 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 It looks like there is a piece missing here. Obviously she was under the impression she'd agreed to meet with you at some point, but has rethought the decision. I think you need to get it into your head that this girl really doesn't want to be involved with you. Both of her messages say as much, and the silence since then confirms it. She's not actually messaging you from the sound of this post. She's responding to your attempts to contact her and it's in a rather negative fashion. Your pretty much spot on. She did agree to meet me just before I started NC but obviously that's not happnin. Awell not much a can do about it.
Hopeful714 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I hate the "random" text too. They make no sense. I'm guessing she did want to see you but after thinking about it figured it was not a good idea because she didn't want to stir the emotional pot anymore and make things more painful. She is moving on. Or at least trying to. I don't fully agree with the poster who said "clearing the head" is way of telling someone goodbye. To me, clearing the head is exactly what it means...clearing the head, taking some time to think. It is what occurs after the thinking period that matters. In my own situation, my last contact was when I sent a text offering to meet so I could make "peace" with some things in my head. Althought I was the dumper do to cheating, I guess I wanted closure, answers, and/or maybe a chance to work things out. I received a text back saying I would receive a call back "in a bit" that never came. 2 weeks later I got another text saying "I'm sorry!!!" I never responded to it because I never knew exactly what the "sorry" meant or what it was for. Sorry he didn't call that day? Sorry for everything he did leading to the BU? Or sorry, there are just no feelings and I never want to talk again. Figure that one out. I remained NC thinking if he REALLY cared, he would contact again. He hasn't. So I suppose I have my answer and know I just need to move on....and most likely you do too. I'm sorry...no pun intended:mad: 1
Author jayy23 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 I hate the "random" text too. They make no sense. I'm guessing she did want to see you but after thinking about it figured it was not a good idea because she didn't want to stir the emotional pot anymore and make things more painful. She is moving on. Or at least trying to. I don't fully agree with the poster who said "clearing the head" is way of telling someone goodbye. To me, clearing the head is exactly what it means...clearing the head, taking some time to think. It is what occurs after the thinking period that matters. In my own situation, my last contact was when I sent a text offering to meet so I could make "peace" with some things in my head. Althought I was the dumper do to cheating, I guess I wanted closure, answers, and/or maybe a chance to work things out. I received a text back saying I would receive a call back "in a bit" that never came. 2 weeks later I got another text saying "I'm sorry!!!" I never responded to it because I never knew exactly what the "sorry" meant or what it was for. Sorry he didn't call that day? Sorry for everything he did leading to the BU? Or sorry, there are just no feelings and I never want to talk again. Figure that one out. I remained NC thinking if he REALLY cared, he would contact again. He hasn't. So I suppose I have my answer and know I just need to move on....and most likely you do too. I'm sorry...no pun intended:mad: Yeh I think that's wats happend cause we were ment to meet but she's changed her mind. She's defo moving on with her life. It's all good if that's what she wants thats fine no point chasing someone that doesn't want me.
GetHerBack Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Yeh I think that's wats happend cause we were ment to meet but she's changed her mind. She's defo moving on with her life. It's all good if that's what she wants thats fine no point chasing someone that doesn't want me. Exactly. You're just setting yourself up for constant heartbreak chasing after someone who doesn't love you anymore (sorry if that came off a bit harsh:(). The best thing to do would be take some time to yourself and reflect. I wouldn't recommend going for the rebound and trying to find someone else right away, because you may not end up liking whoever it is you decide to be with on such a hasty decision.
Author jayy23 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 Exactly. You're just setting yourself up for constant heartbreak chasing after someone who doesn't love you anymore (sorry if that came off a bit harsh:(). The best thing to do would be take some time to yourself and reflect. I wouldn't recommend going for the rebound and trying to find someone else right away, because you may not end up liking whoever it is you decide to be with on such a hasty decision. I'm defo not looking to be in a relationship any time soon. I've slept with 2 other girls since my ex left but that was cause I was really drunk and felt sorry for myself it didn't help lol.
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