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''After a month of mourning I finally realize that you left me overnight, after two and a half years together, without telling me there were problems between us, without telling me that your 'love was fading away for months, without notice, without a second chance. The least you could have done is to say'' HEY! THERE ARE THINGS I DO NOT LIKE ANYMORE'' or '' HEY WAKE UP YOUR NOT LIKE BEFORE, YOU ARE CHANGING'' You don't even contact me but you say you wanna remain friends?

I Have to figure out everything by myself.

You seem not to give a ****''

 

This e-mail has been translated btw

Anyway, Last time we spoke we were on good terms (Last saturday) I tried to show that I was moving on. We were LDR. I used to be a very caring boyfriend. I was her first actually. She wants to ''try something new'' WTF I had problems, yeah, ok, (I was getting very dependant and needy the last year**+ I started smoking pot and it killed my ambitions and my normal attitude) BUt she never mentionned it. Averything was sailing fine, but she had different motives. I never confronted her after the breakup about the fact that she SUCKS... I feel like sending her this e-mail. I did love the girl tho, she has alot of what I want in a women. Apart from her immaturity in relationships (Did I mention I was her first?)'"

I just needed to man up. Now am.

 

I'm not sure what it will ''accomplish''... except that she might stop thinking that I want her back...

 

SHould I just wait till she calls me? I have been contacting her ever since the breakup, Only once she called me on her terms and this was before I confronted her to know if there was any hope left (to wich she said no)

 

VEnting here is making me feel better "" :)

 

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Do girls fall again for their first love once they man up? - LoveShack.org Community Forums

CptSaveAho Established Member

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Nope - Man up and move on

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gaudi Established Member

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definitely not, not if you're gonna man up anyway

 

DO NOT SEND

ItxWillxGetxBetter Established Member

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I think you should let her go and move on. Don't send the email. It will not serve any purpose and its more for your benefit. She's already made up her mind so the best thing you can do for yourself is let her go. As tough as it is you need to initiate NC and let her be.

Eddie Edirol Established Member

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What would work better than the email is for you to not say anything. let her think you dont care anymore. Dont contact her ever again. Once you dissappear she might come looking for you, because her ego boost of you looking for her will not be there. She will wonder if you found someone new, especially if the guy she is seeing now doesnt work out.

 

So dont send it, dont say anything .There is a venting forum on this board, use that to blow off steam instead.

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Thanks for the replies, I was still thinking about it when waking up. You are right saying it will have more impact if i simply dissapear. This shi is torture

cavalier99 Established Member

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SHould I just wait till she calls me? I have been contacting her ever since the breakup, Only once she called me on her terms and this was before I confronted her to know if there was any hope left (to wich she said no]

 

 

Obviously don't send the email. But the main point is why the f-k are you still contacting her. She said NO. Now it is your turn! This is sh-t is going to eat you alive. CUT ALL CONTACT NOW. NC NC NC.

 

That is all you should be doing or you will continue to suffer. Don't be a pussy. Self respect is all you have right now. Get it back and you will feel 100 percent better.

cavalier99 Established Member

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I was thinking. Recovering from a breakup is like a BLACK OP mission (complete and total NC.... Disappear.)

 

MISSION OBJECTIVE: RECOVER BALLS AT ALL COST!!!!!

 

I mean hey...go ahead and cry... but then continue mission. Dont stop for anything.

 

This is the hunt for the Holy Grail and your balls are waiting inside :eek:. It is suffering ect. but you know your obejective. Your mission. DONT FAIL!! And NO you are not manning up so she will see this.

 

About the closest you should come to communicating with her is in your own mind when you tell her how There is NO WAY you are getting back together ect. how much better off you are, how great you feel being free and indifferent about her (this should never happen in real life of course).

 

How does all this communication make you feel? Waiting for a relpy. What to send. Reading old loving emails. I can just feel my testicules shriveling up right now. (detete everthing, do a search for her name email address and name and hit delete. Then permanetly delete from the trash folder. Do this for all email accounts, texts, delete her contact info. This is all standard stuff on this site. Just do it.

 

You will succeed! GOOD LUCK SOLDIER!!

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MISSION OBJECTIVE: RECOVER BALLS AT ALL COST!!!!!

 

I mean hey...go ahead and cry... but then continue mission. Dont stop for anything.

 

This is the hunt for the Holy Grail and your balls are waiting inside :eek:. It is suffering ect. but you know your obejective. Your mission. DONT FAIL!!

 

You will succeed! GOOD LUCK SOLDIER!!

 

HAHAHAH ALRIGHT!!!! This is what I needed in my life... I'M happy this is happening, even if its hard most of the time. I have been taking major steps in rehabilitating myself.

 

In the last two weeks I called her once last weekend to talk and meet'. She turned me down (With a good excuse I admit but I was kinda pissed)...

 

She actually wrote me back JUST NOW. Saying that she knows she has dissapointed me last week and wants me to know that she wasnt lying that she had no time (End-terme+work) Je said she stopped working out/ stopped cooking/ stopped cleaning up and her brother is getting on her balls about it (they live together) ... She said she didnt want to justify herself since I seemed pissed. HAHAHAH SHE IS CALLING NOW""" (Not awnsering) ((Feels good)) She endend the e-mail saying she will give me news when it will all be over, wich is in two weeks, and told me good luck in my projects (School)

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HAHAHAH ALRIGHT!!!! This is what I needed in my life... I'M happy this is happening, even if its hard most of the time. I have been taking major steps in rehabilitating myself.

 

In the last two weeks I called her once last weekend to talk and meet'. She turned me down (With a good excuse I admit but I was kinda pissed)...

 

She actually wrote me back JUST NOW. Saying that she knows she has dissapointed me last week and wants me to know that she wasnt lying that she had no time (End-terme+work) Je said she stopped working out/ stopped cooking/ stopped cleaning up and her brother is getting on her balls (they live together about it) ... She said she didnt want to justify herself since I seemed pissed. HAHAHAH SHE IS CALLING NOW""" (Not awnsering) ((Feels good)) She endend the e-mail saying she will give me news when it will all be over, wich is in two weeks, and told me good luck in my projects (School)

 

Don't be surprised if she is seeing another guy. Just brace yourself for the worst.

 

This is why as soon a girl dumps me, I cut off all contact. None of this friendship business. They want to go screw around with other guys, that's fine. But I will NEVER EVER be someones back when things don't work with other guys.

 

Keep no contact man. She broke it up with you. Plenty of fish in the sea blah blah blah blah

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I'M happy this is happening, even if its hard most of the time. I have been taking major steps in rehabilitating myself. I stopped many bad habbits that I had. Started working out again. Started meeting new people. Hell I even started dating this girl I had eyes on before :: (climbing with her tonight)

 

In the last 14days I called the ex once last weekend to talk and meet'. She turned me down (With a good excuse I admit but I was kinda pissed)... I Initiated no contact since and I blocked her off facebook this week

 

I think I got 1 ball back so far---

cavalier99 Established Member

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COLD TURKEY (Great day to start eating this!!!)

 

One contact. A one WORD text is WAY WAY WAY to much to give her EVEN if she initiates She is not deserving of anything from you.

 

You have been thrown out, disregarded, she isnt being nice talking with you. Even though she think she is. Right now for you must treat her in your mind like "No Foolin" said in his NC Guide ..like a serial killer...she must be avoided at all cost.

 

I myself adhere to the 2 Ball philosophy. Never give then both away in any realtionship. (I did this in my early realtionships, and even in a latter one with regret) Maybe give one to the one you love but 2 is way to much!!!

 

Try this excecise:

 

If you are doing something that makes you feel like balls are shrinking it is bad. EVEN if you are enjoying if for the moment. If you feel more confident/ testicules in place...it is good.

 

Imagine all the good times you had with her. Really feel them. Werent they great?? It was true love. It was one of the best moments/experiences of your life. .....NOW check your ball size. See what I mean?

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Eddie Edirol Established Member

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I think I got 1 ball back so far---

 

The more you ignore her, and the more she calls you, the more you will feel your confidence coming back. Just wait...

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With a ball back I was able to bring a girl (friend) home to spend the night. It's the second time she slept here and it is also the second time that I feel like **** the day after... I get high's when dating and totally forget about the ex, but as time passes I get a huge sting in the heart again. :sick:

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Yeah...well look at the bright side..at least you know that you are still capable to going out and putting on your game.. even if it is a mask that you put on at this point. ;)

 

Whenever I hooked up after prior relationships and this one I was fine with just once however if I was with a girl for more than a few times I started comparing and also felt like sh-t.

 

I even had a girl say to me that I was acting weird ect. (I wanted to do things that my EX liked ecetera and the way I spoke to her) and it seemed like I was with someone else in my mind. (OWCH) This was BAD for my confidence.

 

Keep it all fun for now. Go for the one night stands or dont do anything if you dont want to. All depends on if it feels like too much effort or not. There is the conquest aspect (awesome)...then the hollow empty feeling of what is gone after.

 

This is all normal, and at times hooking up can feel empty. Makes you realize what you had and how hard it was to get special connection. Doesnt matter if the girl is even better looking ecetera. There isnt that magic sprak.

 

Take it slow with the women. But I wouldnt say it is a bad thing. Just depends. Remeber it is all about getting your confidence back.

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