apiman Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 I've known these two people since 3rd grade, and today I'm a week away from going to college. A few years ago they became a couple during high school, and they've at times seemed to be more in love than anyone I've ever seen. The girl is one of my best friends, and she's told me how she intends on living the rest of her life with him. I've noticed in the past how they would get into arguments and bad fights at times. The guy is kinda off kilter mentally because he has ADD, so sometimes he gets into bad mood swings. He's never hurt her physically, but I know how he's hurt her a lot emotionally. Still, she's said time and again how she has no intention of ever leaving him. But it really bothers me when I hear her talk about their relationship. She's told me how he never calls her, how he never wants to do anything because he refuses to spend money, and how he gets mad at her alot. He's calls her a bitch and gets mad when she's over at his house and they have nothing to do. This stuff bothers me so much because I've always thought that she and I would have been better off together. I just can't see how you'd want to be with someone who does that stuff because I could never imagine hurting her like that. I just feel like it's going to catch up with her some day when she finds out she made a mistake. Or maybe she won't, I can't say. All I know is that the way he acts toward her is ridiculous; if she was with me, she would be so much happier. I'm not stupid. I know that it would be bad to try and break them up, so I just keep to my sad self and wish I could meet someone like her. But I'm a week away from leaving this place, and I may not see her again for a while if ever. Basically, I just feel like I should tell her how I think she made a mistake, but I don't know how it would help... I don't know. Should I just shut up and not tell her how I can't imagine how she can be with someone who calls her a bitch? What should I do?
bluechocolate Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 What should I do? You should continue being her friend & a sympathetic ear & say nothing about her boyfriend. Your instincts are right. I would think that their relationship will fail, many high school sweethearts split up when they start college & discover a whole new world out there. And you may also come to realise that your feelings for her will change too. If you tell her now that you think that she made a mistake & then her relationship does fail you may just find that she feels she can no longer confide in you. Nobody likes to hear "I told you so". Leave that to her mother!
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