srmano Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 (edited) A girl and i have had a thing for 3 months or so and have kissed, gone on dates but arn't officially dating. She keeps telling me im hers and how she's mine etc but has told me she's not ready to start dating. I texted her the other night as she's on holidays with her friends for a week asked her after saying i didn't mind and for her to be honest if she'd kissed any guys, she said yes she had and said "i do know you care" I replied "we're not dating" and she replied 'you are angry arnt you". Question is should i see how things go with her or move on? Edited November 21, 2012 by srmano
dasein Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Would move onto someone on the same page with you re wanting to date. This girl isn't, and isn't likely to change. Almost all the women I've met are eager to date men they really like if they are willing to hang out with them and get physical. There is likely more going on with this girl than you know.
Author srmano Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 She says she would never cheat if we were dating, i guess i was mainly annoyed she seemed surprised that i was pissed off about it. Friends have told me i should give her a second chance as we weren't technically dating
SmileFace Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 How are you not officially dating? You mean you aren't in a relationship? And if you are not - why not and when will you be? Has this been discussed?
Author srmano Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 We go out for meals a couple of times a week, and talk virtually everyday. She wanted to wait till she got back from her holiday before we made it "official" and i was fine with it. She gave me the impression she didn't want me fooling around with other girls in the meantime so assumed she'd do likewise. I guess its nice she was honest about it and didn't lie
SmileFace Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Don't invest anymore - see where it goes when she comes back.
Magica Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 You're not technically dating because she's keeping her options open - she's having her cake with you and eating it with other guys too, apparently. I'd move on. dasein is right - when people are into each other, you're not left asking questions like, "Are we dating? Are we in a relationship? Why is she kissing other guys?"
Kelly15 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I have to agree with magica, get out now before you're hurt more.
Author srmano Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 yea she just said " i haven't been going around sleeping with heaps of guys" after i told her i wasn't exactly happy with it. I guess im more annoyed that she said she knew i cared yet got with a few guys when the way i see it if she actually cared about me she wouldn't have if that makes sense
Leigh 87 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I would never get with other guys once I was into a guy. She does not care about you that much, on a level deeper than friendship at least. There will, however, be other women who DO really want to be with you, and will not be able to just go and get with other guys. This women is not one of them, so let her go and find a guy she is actually into. And you do the same with a great women.
kyle77 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I would move on....any relationship that starts with a kind of blip like that isnt really worth pursuing long-term if you ask me.
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