motionthedance Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Girls. First of all background info. Im as shy as hell with girls, but told im good looking so I get approached alot and never have to initate anything.(in my 30's and nevr asked a girl out on a date!) Girl at work giving me signals over the last few months, and I finally plucked up the courage to say hi because i really really like her.. problem is I think i spooked her and she looked but walked off. I kind of ambushed her a bit, felt like a clutz because i think shes a shy girl. Since then I have pretty much avoided her, because well im really embarrased and once again shy as hell but the eye contact happened again a couple of days ago (from a distance) and she did another random walk near where I sit.. Now she kind of walks by my desk (not withing hearing range) from time to time (its where the flirting happens) and i have been trying to bump into her but its a massive building but its really hard. so if you were this girl, walked by my desk and you saw me holding up a sign with a massive "HI!" on it would you (a) Think it was weird? (b) Think it was cool? Im trying to break the ice here after ambushing her!
Author motionthedance Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 (edited) LOL! Personally, I would love this. I think it's funny and cute...and cool. Then again, I prefer my romance served with a healthy dose of silliness/humour so I many not be the best person to weigh in on the matter. well its totally me. Im a bit random! And last encounter was awkward for both of us.. would be nice to fix that! Rather than the two of us being ridiculously shy around each other next time we actually physically bump into each other... im still too chicken to start following her around the building to randomly *bump* into her Edited November 21, 2012 by motionthedance
justsayn Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Seeing as you are "shy," I think this would be a good icebreaker. As a female, personally, I would think this was funny (and cute). Funny can go a long way with some girls. Good luck! 1
Mary Shadows Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Girls. First of all background info. Im as shy as hell with girls, but told im good looking so I get approached alot and never have to initate anything.(in my 30's and nevr asked a girl out on a date!) Girl at work giving me signals over the last few months, and I finally plucked up the courage to say hi because i really really like her.. problem is I think i spooked her and she looked but walked off. I kind of ambushed her a bit, felt like a clutz because i think shes a shy girl. Since then I have pretty much avoided her, because well im really embarrased and once again shy as hell but the eye contact happened again a couple of days ago (from a distance) and she did another random walk near where I sit.. Now she kind of walks by my desk (not withing hearing range) from time to time (its where the flirting happens) and i have been trying to bump into her but its a massive building but its really hard. so if you were this girl, walked by my desk and you saw me holding up a sign with a massive "HI!" on it would you (a) Think it was weird? (b) Think it was cool? Im trying to break the ice here after ambushing her! So cute! Talk to her. I'm into a shy guy too. He can't really make eye contact with me. I see him steal glances in a room full of people. Really though...just make small talk. 1
HeldbyGravity Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I would love it. I am the same way as all these women, and think it would earn some notice, and definitely a giggle. Depends on the woman. Just do what you need to do to get her attention- if that means holding up a sign, go for it!
SoonMyFriend Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I would also love this! I'm also very shy and would think this is a cute icebreaker. I am with everyone else here so far - humour goes a long way with me.
Author motionthedance Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 I held it up!! ... And she just walked past with her eyes firmly on the ground and didnt see it... 1
dasein Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I don't think this is the best kind of thing to be doing at work. If supervisors or coworkers were to see or get wind of it, they might draw unfair conclusions about you. Speak to people in person, not with signs, it's not that hard. Good luck.
Author motionthedance Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) I don't think this is the best kind of thing to be doing at work. If supervisors or coworkers were to see or get wind of it, they might draw unfair conclusions about you. Speak to people in person, not with signs, it's not that hard. Good luck. I would tend to agree but its all about context...and there is one here.. especially since she made a very big gesture a while ago. And I couldnt care less what supervisors or coworkers think. Thats their problem. And dont think Im not still walking around trying to bump into her to say hi too.. I am, but its hard Edited November 22, 2012 by motionthedance 1
Author motionthedance Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) I cant place it on the floor. Im starting to get worried shes given up on me though... I could try a paper aeroplane with hi on it! Hit her in the head with it (only joking) Edited November 22, 2012 by motionthedance
dasein Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 OP, things like what you are considering are far more likely to turn off normal, well-adjusted people than attract them. Also, a careless attitude about what people at work think about you will not benefit your career in the long run. If you are shy and have a hard time talking to people, work on that rather than doing workaround things that may get you branded as "creepy" or strange.
Author motionthedance Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) OP, things like what you are considering are far more likely to turn off normal, well-adjusted people than attract them. Also, a careless attitude about what people at work think about you will not benefit your career in the long run. If you are shy and have a hard time talking to people, work on that rather than doing workaround things that may get you branded as "creepy" or strange. Then I dont want a "normal, well adjusted person" if they are not into who I am. Dasein I'm a top performer at work because I'm considered creative and think different to most people here. Anyway I'm leaving the well paying job in 2 months to go make music for a while.. I dont want to be institutionalized and just think "career career career" all my life. Lifes so much more than that. I dont have a hard time talking to people at all.. I have a hard time talking to this girl because I like her so much, and I usually get girls coming up to me and its strange for the shoe to be on the other foot. I'm completely out of my comfort zone here. Edited November 22, 2012 by motionthedance 1
somedude81 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) When you were holding the sign as she was walking by you could have said, "Hey! Look at my sign." All you need to do is get her attention right? Edited November 22, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Author motionthedance Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) When you were holding the sign as she was walking by you could have said, "Hey! Look at my sign." All you need to do is get her attention right? Thats actually a great idea! Edited November 22, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Author motionthedance Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 Seeing as were are being compeletly off topic.. dunno if you can post youtube vids here.. but the girls should like this.
Author motionthedance Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 (edited) Well I did it. And i started chatting to her and was a complete ball of nerves. I even forgot to ask her her name. And pretty much just asked her if she was free this weekend.. she said no.. I bascially ran off before i knew if i was really getting knocked back or not... She was beaming a massive smile though. I hope She found it funny/cool Anyway I feel a bit upset, but much better for doing it.. its a weight of my shoulders.. I can relax now. But im well confused.. I like her alot, am i wouldnt have done it if i didnt think she felt the same. Edited November 23, 2012 by motionthedance
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