If you look at someone, you should realize you're own physical attributes as well

[irc333]

I had randomly come along this woman's profile. Honestly, I would say this woman is a 9 or 10 when it comes to looks.

 

To describe the scene, she had taken some recent, naughty "Sugar plum fairy" photos in front of a Christmas tree...I think it was a Halloween party/Christmas themes "mix" to it. Because others were wearing customs as well. Very busty, blonde , barbie type. A scene out of "Sex in the City" if you will.

 

I am just setting the scene here, because at the bottom she wrote this.

 

I don't mean to sound shallow, but please do NOT CONTACT me, or waste my time or yours unless you've taken a good look at my profile and pictures and sincerely feel we are compatible, this includes physically. We obviously need to match at all levels.

 

==If you think I'm a 7, 8, 9 or 10..you should consider yourself one too!!==

 

So, that being said, is there some TRUTH to that last statement?

 

If you consider yourself a certain "level" when it comes to looks, and you look at a man/woman....you better be able to see yourself at the same level.

 

I'm sure it's another way of saying, "If you look at me, and I appear to be OUT of your league, do not contact me!"

 

Yes or no?

[iris219]

Yes, she is saying don't contact me unless you are of a certain attractiveness level. She just has a poorly worded sentence.

 

I do think we need to understand who will mostly likely be into us, not just when it comes to how someone looks. I know a hot, 25 year old recent Harvard law school grad is not going to be into me. Therefore, I would never consider flirting with him. It's helpful to realize when you are going after someone who you have virtually no chance with. I like to maximize my chance for success, so I would avoid situations where I would be rejected.

[charlietheginger]

She means if your a shy ugly

Nerd that never gets laid

Dont contact her

[irc333]

Yes, she is saying don't contact me unless you are of a certain attractiveness level. She just has a poorly worded sentence.

 

I do think we need to understand who will mostly likely be into us, not just when it comes to how someone looks. I know a hot, 25 year old recent Harvard law school grad is not going to be into me. Therefore, I would never consider flirting with him. It's helpful to realize when you are going after someone who you have virtually no chance with. I like to maximize my chance for success, so I would avoid situations where I would be rejected.

 

 

Actually, this post is a segway (spelling?) into confidence. It's funny how women love a man with confidence, but also should realize who he should NOT approach.

 

Doesn't that contradict the values of confidence?

 

A man should be able to approach ANY women (regardless of her own looks), is a confident man, right?

[iris219]

Actually, this post is a segway (spelling?) into confidence. It's funny how women love a man with confidence, but also should realize who he should NOT approach.

 

Doesn't that contradict the values of confidence?

 

A man should be able to approach ANY women (regardless of her own looks), is a confident man, right?

 

There's confidence and there's being realistic and there's being appropriate.

 

No, I don't think a man should approach any woman. There would be lots of reasons why it would be foolish, and I don't just mean when it comes to attractiveness levels.

[irc333]

There's confidence and there's being realistic.

 

No, I don't think a man should approach any woman. There would be lots of reasons why it would be foolish, and I don't just mean when it comes to attractiveness levels.

 

Are you referring to "classes"? (Upper, middle, lower)?

[Emilia]

Actually, this post is a segway (spelling?) into confidence. It's funny how women love a man with confidence, but also should realize who he should NOT approach.

 

Doesn't that contradict the values of confidence?

 

A man should be able to approach ANY women (regardless of her own looks), is a confident man, right?

 

You have a valid point. Also, attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder.

[iris219]

Are you referring to "classes"? (Upper, middle, lower)?

 

I'm referring to several things: different lifestyles, different ages, different values, etc.

 

If it's clear that you wouldn't be compatible with someone (because they are 20 years younger and taking shots at the bar), there's no reason to approach them.

[MrCastle]

I have the sudden urge to find the ugliest picture of a man I possibily can, make a fake profile, and message her "Hey there fellow 6!"

 

Just to completely mind f*** the s*** out of her.

[irc333]

I'm referring to several things: different lifestyles, different ages, different values, etc.

 

If it's clear that you wouldn't be compatible with someone (because they are 20 years younger and taking shots at the bar), there's no reason to approach them.

 

Well, this particular woman is in her late 30's early 40's. But from her looks, she is keen on fashion, and probably into superficial relationships considering how she probably would not set foot in a Target or only shops at "Sharper Image" for electronics.

[charlietheginger]

I have the sudden urge to find the ugliest picture of a man I possibily can, make a fake profile, and message her "Hey there fellow 6!"

 

Just to completely mind f*** the s*** out of her.

 

Email ...

 

Hey i see your a solid 5 1/2 ...

im a 8 but ill drop down a few notches

And date a women on your level

Just to see what its like to settle

[iris219]

Well, this particular woman is in her late 30's early 40's. But from her looks, she is keen on fashion, and probably into superficial relationships considering how she probably would not set foot in a Target or only shops at "Sharper Image" for electronics.

 

I don't know how you got likes expensive clothes=into superficial relationships, but if that's your opinion of her then it doesn't sound like she's someone you'd be interested in.

[LittlePrince]

I had randomly come along this woman's profile. Honestly, I would say this woman is a 9 or 10 when it comes to looks.

 

To describe the scene, she had taken some recent, naughty "Sugar plum fairy" photos in front of a Christmas tree...I think it was a Halloween party/Christmas themes "mix" to it. Because others were wearing customs as well. Very busty, blonde , barbie type. A scene out of "Sex in the City" if you will.

 

I am just setting the scene here, because at the bottom she wrote this.

 

I don't mean to sound shallow, but please do NOT CONTACT me, or waste my time or yours unless you've taken a good look at my profile and pictures and sincerely feel we are compatible, this includes physically. We obviously need to match at all levels.

 

==If you think I'm a 7, 8, 9 or 10..you should consider yourself one too!!==

 

So, that being said, is there some TRUTH to that last statement?

 

If you consider yourself a certain "level" when it comes to looks, and you look at a man/woman....you better be able to see yourself at the same level.

 

I'm sure it's another way of saying, "If you look at me, and I appear to be OUT of your league, do not contact me!"

 

Yes or no?

She just wants a male model type and thinks by hinting at it like this she will get only underwear models. Problem is most men don't look that way and most men consider themselves in the # range given. She'll still have to sort through a lot of responses to find her completely superficial pairing which will last as long as a freshly crumpled up, cummed in tissue since that's what she is. A woman who is nothing more than a good looking masturbation aid and cum dumpster in one. Funny how sex is the only value women have now and they know it.

[xxoo]

Yes, a truly confident man will approach any woman, regardless of her level of attractiveness, because he considers himself to be her equal.

 

But this woman doesn't want a confident man. She wants a physically attractive man, and she's being approached by a lot of unattractive (to her), confident men

 

Oh, well!

[LittlePrince]

I have the sudden urge to find the ugliest picture of a man I possibily can, make a fake profile, and message her "Hey there fellow 6!"

 

Just to completely mind f*** the s*** out of her.

You should lower it down to a 3.

[USMCHokie]

Woo her with some fake pictures and some witty banter...then when you meet, surprise her with your ugly mug...

[LittlePrince]

Woo her with some fake pictures and some witty banter...then when you meet, surprise her with your ugly mug...

Didn't know you wanted to be on an episode of catfish so much.

[IT Geek]

==If you think I'm a 7, 8, 9 or 10..you should consider yourself one too!!==

 

So, that being said, is there some TRUTH to that last statement?

 

If you consider yourself a certain "level" when it comes to looks, and you look at a man/woman....you better be able to see yourself at the same level.

 

Yes or no?

 

Absolutely.

 

I'm probably a "4" at max, so I don't waste my time (or hers) even bothering with trying to date someone out of my league. Hell, I can't even get anyone IN my league to talk to me.

[USMCHokie]

People tend to rate their own attractiveness based on who they can attract. If you attract good looking people, then you must be good looking yourself, right? So when women get loads of messages from lots of guys, she figures that she must be very attractive. Hence, her standards go up based on her artificially inflated sense of her own attractiveness.

 

Unfortunately, most of these guys aren't necessarily interested in her, they're interested that she's a girl. It's an unfortunate dynamic.

[LittlePrince]

People tend to rate their own attractiveness based on who they can attract. If you attract good looking people, then you must be good looking yourself, right? So when women get loads of messages from lots of guys, she figures that she must be very attractive. Hence, her standards go up based on her artificially inflated sense of her own attractiveness.

 

Unfortunately, most of these guys aren't necessarily interested in her, they're interested that she's a girl. It's an unfortunate dynamic.

Be sure to explain that to her.

[iris219]

People tend to rate their own attractiveness based on who they can attract. If you attract good looking people, then you must be good looking yourself, right? So when women get loads of messages from lots of guys, she figures that she must be very attractive. Hence, her standards go up based on her artificially inflated sense of her own attractiveness.

 

Unfortunately, most of these guys aren't necessarily interested in her, they're interested that she's a girl. It's an unfortunate dynamic.

 

Right, because women are blind and/or don't own mirrors.

 

I know my attractiveness level because I can see. I can tell when a man is more or less attractive than me. It wouldn't matter how many ugly guys or how many hot guys hit on me. My attractiveness level doesn't change.

[EasyHeart]

Why is it odd that an attractive woman would want to date an attractive man? If men want to date attractive women, why shouldn't women want to date attractive men?

 

I'm a pretty confident person, but I know my limits. If I play football with other middle-aged men, I'm pretty good; if you put me on a field with NFL players, I would get killed (literally). If I were made CEO of my company, I think I could do a great job; if I were made CEO of GE, I would be clueless. The same goes for women. I meet women all the time who I don't think would be interested in me, either for objective reasons (they really are better than me) or subjective reasons (they think they're better than me), so I don't waste my time chasing them.

 

There's a difference between being confident and being arrogant. Confidence is thinking you can win; arrogance is thinking you can't lose.

[irc333]

Why would you want to contact someone who says these things? .

 

She may be one one of the VERY few that actually states this in their profile, but it makes me wonder how many are actually THINKING this.

 

Like for instance, an average guy approaches a woman a house party, very attractive woman, figured he'd give it a shot.

 

But she is short with him, and he says, "okay, have a good time at the party"

 

Then "cluck cluck cluck cluck" the chicken cackle go with her other female friends, "Did you get a load of that guy , he thinks he can get with ME?"

 

Though, I have known very attractive women, who would admire such an approach. There had been women, so attractive, that men rarely approach them, because men were intimidated by her.

 

Then finally someone gets the gumption to approach, and she is attracted to him based on THAT action.

 

The "Take charge" kind of guy, believe me, I approached women who had given me a date, even though they were pretty attractive. Perhaps they were taking a break from the usual musclehead jocks.

[irc333]

So, to answer your question, no you shouldn't be assessing your looks in response to a post like that. You should be asking yourself why the hell you'd want to be involved with a woman who posts a profile like this.

 

So true, though , I sometimes wonder if women are "thinking" this. I've actually seen women post "Plenty of fish? More like Plenty of MIDGETS!" in her headliner.

 

Apparently, she's wanting a certain height of men to contact her, only to be contacted by men that don't meet her height criteria.

 

She's swimming in a sea of short guys apparently, so of course, she's still single, still on the site.

 

There's just perhaps a short population of women that actually VOICE what they're thinking, but of those, how many are keeping it to themselves?

 

All in all, I think it's quite presumptuous to be coined an "Idiot" if you approach or contact a woman that you should no better NOT to contact based her looks. As if she thinks you're stupid for contact her because "sheesh, this dude contacted, look how ugly he is!! What an idiot for even approaching!"

[irc333]

Yes, a truly confident man will approach any woman, regardless of her level of attractiveness, because he considers himself to be her equal.

 

But this woman doesn't want a confident man. She wants a physically attractive man, and she's being approached by a lot of unattractive (to her), confident men

 

Oh, well!

 

 

Exactly, and that being said, is it REALLY true that women who keep repetitively saying, "I just LOVE a man with confidence!"

 

Is just a farse?