girlfriend of almost a year has 'had enough'

[Hulsey]

Hi, after searching the internet for advice and readind peoples stories ive decided to put my own up and see the responses i get. All advice would be amazing!

 

This girl has been very special to me, it started when i had a small house party and we had a One night stand. We both had never had anything serious before this and i was her first lover. After this we met up a few times but felt it was going nowhere so we decided to give up. Though this happened we randomly met up 2months after and we both completely fell for each other and gave it a good go. For the first 6-8months of the relationship everything was amazing and we where never happier, talking about our amabitions for the future.

 

Then, i got a job about 1hr drive away but i had to live there as part of that job, knowing it was a sacrifice i had to make but knowing id still see my girlfriend on a weekend we decided it was good for me to move and her to stay and carry on with her life.

 

After i move away all .we seemed to do was argue and fight and me always saying i cant do this anymore and brekingup with her only to find the next day id.made a big mistake and make it up to her.

 

Anyway now finally 1month before christmas, 2months before nu birthday we had made so many plans and now shes telling me for the first ever time she wants space and she doesnt want the relationship anymore. I feel like ive let her down and keep nagging her telling her things will eventually go back to how they where but she doesnt listen saying thats all we ever say but it never does. I feel stupid for fighting a lost cause and just want to know if any women out there have felt the same way as my girlfriend does or any males out there have been in my position.

 

She always answers my calls but rarely replies to my texts, no matter how much i say it will be fine and different she doesnt believe and eventually tells me to leave her alone. I honestly think she doesnt want this anymore but do i still have any hope? Is there any point me trying or should i move on with my life with the other girl who has never stopped chasing me throuighout.

 

Thanks

[LostOne1]

Hi, after searching the internet for advice and readind peoples stories ive decided to put my own up and see the responses i get. All advice would be amazing!

 

This girl has been very special to me, it started when i had a small house party and we had a One night stand. We both had never had anything serious before this and i was her first lover. After this we met up a few times but felt it was going nowhere so we decided to give up. Though this happened we randomly met up 2months after and we both completely fell for each other and gave it a good go. For the first 6-8months of the relationship everything was amazing and we where never happier, talking about our amabitions for the future.

 

Then, i got a job about 1hr drive away but i had to live there as part of that job, knowing it was a sacrifice i had to make but knowing id still see my girlfriend on a weekend we decided it was good for me to move and her to stay and carry on with her life.

 

After i move away all .we seemed to do was argue and fight and me always saying i cant do this anymore and brekingup with her only to find the next day id.made a big mistake and make it up to her.

 

Anyway now finally 1month before christmas, 2months before nu birthday we had made so many plans and now shes telling me for the first ever time she wants space and she doesnt want the relationship anymore. I feel like ive let her down and keep nagging her telling her things will eventually go back to how they where but she doesnt listen saying thats all we ever say but it never does. I feel stupid for fighting a lost cause and just want to know if any women out there have felt the same way as my girlfriend does or any males out there have been in my position.

 

She always answers my calls but rarely replies to my texts, no matter how much i say it will be fine and different she doesnt believe and eventually tells me to leave her alone. I honestly think she doesnt want this anymore but do i still have any hope? Is there any point me trying or should i move on with my life with the other girl who has never stopped chasing me throuighout.

 

Thanks

 

my ex told me the same at one point. I think she really loved me still, but she didn't want the relationship the way it was anymore. My relationship was awesome as well and it changed over time with me changing for the worse as a person slowly.

 

My ex said she felt stuck with me and was feeling miserable over time. The problem was I think her heart still wanted me, but her mind kept telling her to end it and then never go back. Which is why she was always confused on working it out.

 

My story didn't go well man, but I made a HUGE mistake. I didn't give her space, I got scared thinking if I give her space I will lose her. Also there might have been another guy involved and maybe she wanted space also to give him a shot. Either way I should've given her space and told her I accept the breakup and will move on like she is... and I think overtime she would've gotten back into town and realized she still loves me. She did tell me that if we had not fought when she got back (me not giving her space), that she would've come back to me. Now is that true or is she saying it to make me feel bad... I don't know...

 

What I do know is I should've given her space, and I shoulda prepared myself to move on and gone NC from day 1 of the BU.

 

If your ex doesn't want to be with you. Let it be man... and either she will realize she wants you still and will reach out. Or she won't and in that case you have no choice but to move on.

[Hulsey]

HI mate,

Thanks for the reply, i feel exactly the same. I believe she still loves me but she says herself its for the best now and she isnt happy anymore. Her words were 20% of the time were fine im the happiest girl in the world and for the rest of the time i hate it.

When i spoke to her last night she said she just cant do it anymore but will probably regret her decision, i feel like shes leading me on and giving me false hope.

 

Because she is giving me false hope i doo keep believing that it will be fine and after a week or so we can sort it out.

 

I have somehow got myself in a situation though, to keep my mind away from it i have been speaking to One of her old mates and arranging to go out, she no longer has contact with this old friend though. Im soo confused to what im doing and whether i should wait in hope or just move on.