john_brown Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Hello, This girl I was hanging out with decided she wanted space and said could not be friends because she knew I liked her and she did not feel as strongly toward me. I guess she realized something and it made her feel guilty also. Fast forward a couple of weeks she starts texting me and stuff. I was very bored and wanted to see what would happen so I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime and she agreed. We are going to hang out this weekend, but I am confused as what I should be thinking. I feel like I should not even speak/hang out with her for the things she said and if we are going to hang out she needs to clarify or take back the things she said. Any ideas on what she might be thinking or what I should do? - Jbrown 1
iiiii Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Either she's changed her mind and is open to a romantic relationship now. OR she's hoping that the couple of weeks apart will have cooled you off so you can just hang out as platonic friends. I think you need to clarify. Be up front. Ask. Then you decide what to do.
Sameold Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 be warned some girls will just keep guys they know fancy them around as it makes them feel validated and wanted. Don't allow yourself to get friend zoned whilst all the while you think you are making progress. This is happening to a lad I know at work at the moment, he buys her bracelets and things and when she wears them he think he is making progress...in reality she just links the jewelery. 1
bobsmith76 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Hello, This girl I was hanging out with decided she wanted space and said could not be friends because she knew I liked her and she did not feel as strongly toward me. I guess she realized something and it made her feel guilty also. Fast forward a couple of weeks she starts texting me and stuff. I was very bored and wanted to see what would happen so I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime and she agreed. We are going to hang out this weekend, but I am confused as what I should be thinking. I feel like I should not even speak/hang out with her for the things she said and if we are going to hang out she needs to clarify or take back the things she said. Any ideas on what she might be thinking or what I should do? - Jbrown Nothing to worry about. Men and women change their emotions and feelings all the time. My advice is to stick with her. You're chances of finding true love are much higher with her then they are with a true stranger.
LittlePrince Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I guess she got tired of her time in space. Tell her you want to have sex with her because that's what love boils down to. If she won't have sex with you now then move on and cut her completely out of your life.
phineas Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I've been in this situation before & you have to be confident enough to ask them what they want with you. I can promise 100% if she decided she wanted to date you, she would say so because she won't want to risk losing you for good. If she gives you some crap tell her you are only interested in dating & wish her well. What I think happened is she met someone "better" & "better" didn't work out so she's calling you up. I can deal with that, but once a woman walks away & comes back then it's on my terms if they want my attention & those terms are "dates" with a kiss at the end of the first date (because we are not strangers) and if I don't see progression on each consecutive date I drop her. I also don't answer to her until we are intimate. I really wish I can say a woman who came back really wanted me vs just wanting my attention, but I can't. Well, not the first time they came back looking to waste my time. Eventually they were ready to prove to me they were serious but I really didn't want them anymore. LOL! 1
Author john_brown Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 i also forgot to say...prior to me asking her to hang out, she invited me to a formal event at her work. Thoughts?
Shaun-Dro Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Hello, This girl I was hanging out with decided she wanted space and said could not be friends because she knew I liked her and she did not feel as strongly toward me. I guess she realized something and it made her feel guilty also. Fast forward a couple of weeks she starts texting me and stuff. I was very bored and wanted to see what would happen so I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime and she agreed. We are going to hang out this weekend, but I am confused as what I should be thinking. I feel like I should not even speak/hang out with her for the things she said and if we are going to hang out she needs to clarify or take back the things she said. Any ideas on what she might be thinking or what I should do? - Jbrown No one knows what this dame is thinking, except that things didn't work out on the other end, which was why she put you on the back-burner. Just don't be surprised if she does it again.
Eddie Edirol Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 i also forgot to say...prior to me asking her to hang out, she invited me to a formal event at her work. Thoughts? That doesnt mean anything .She probably couldnt get the guy she really wanted to take to go with her. If she wants to hang with you, make her work for it. Thats the only way she might develop any feelings for you. But right now, as others have said, she is just calling you up because it didnt work out with the guy she really liked, and she cant be by herself. Dont be a sucker.
dasein Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 She needs a safe, presentable date to her Christmas party and the tuque wearing goatee hipsters named Uwe she is f-cking don't fit the bill for that. Move on.
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