jcrew11 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I'm just curious as to what lengths women will go to, to meet single men? Do women join Male-dominated activities for the primary purpose of meeting a boyfriend? This can be: -Going to Sports bars, joining a sports team, going to games and watching sports -Going to comic book conventions, WoW gaming, RPG games and live-action -Going to Republican events, joining a gun club, business club What other male-dominated clubs have women joined to meet men? I ask this question, because a lot of Men will join Female Hobbies to meet women - like cooking, wine classes, yoga, etc.
plainjane79 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 To some extent, sure. For example, I would not have started going to sports bars and watching football if it were not for a few of my exes being really into it, and realizing that it was a good way to meet, or bond with, guys. But I also found that I really enjoy watching football, and the general vibe of sports bars. I wouldn't do something just to meet single guys if I didn't really enjoy it, though. For example, I just can't get into watching baseball, and I avoid office softball leagues like the plague.
iiiii Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Depends on the girl and the activity. I've joined some guy dominated clubs because I just liked the activities, with no intention of attracting guys (e.g. Thai boxing). But some other girls joined the club because of the guys that were there. They didn't tend to stick around, though. 1
todreaminblue Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 i joined the ses male dominated, to be a part of something that was good and allowed me to grow and learn and that i enjoyed it immensely....i would not join a club or group with the specific intention of picking up a guy i would have to believe in the club or group i joined and have total interest in it has nothing to do with male dominated or not, it doesnt matter as long as i like or believe in what i join.....deb
iris219 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I would never join something I have absolutely no interest in (gun/hunting anything), no knowledge of (comics/video games), or might be offended by (conservative groups). I would have nothing in common with any man attending these functions, so it wouldn’t matter anyway. I could see if it was a mainstream interest, like sports. I kinda wish I was better at sports and more competitive, so that I could play on a sports team with some of my friends, not because I like the sport (though I do like being active and getting a workout) but because there might be single men there. I don’t have much interest in sports, but I’m not turned off by a man being into them (well, actually, if he’s a sports fanatic, I would be turned off.) I do yoga and wine tastings a lot. There are never single men there.
GirlontheLam Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 No, I already like going to sports. I did join a professional group, that has a higher percentage of men, on a topic I am interested in, in the aims of expanding my social circle. But it has multiple purposes: networking and socializing. It was a good plan, I am on my way to some new friends. 1
Author jcrew11 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 I would never join something I have absolutely no interest in (gun/hunting anything), no knowledge of (comics/video games), or might be offended by (conservative groups). I would have nothing in common with any man attending these functions, so it wouldn’t matter anyway. I could see if it was a mainstream interest, like sports. I kinda wish I was better at sports and more competitive, so that I could play on a sports team with some of my friends, not because I like the sport (though I do like being active and getting a workout) but because there might be single men there. I don’t have much interest in sports, but I’m not turned off by a man being into them (well, actually, if he’s a sports fanatic, I would be turned off.) I do yoga and wine tastings a lot. There are never single men there. The reason I brought up this question is that in the present-day Modern Society, perhaps because of commercialization - Men and Women can lead completely separate lives without interacting with the opposite gender. There are many Single Women that work in Female-dominated industries, like teaching, nursing, or fashion; and have almost no exposure to single men. There are also a lot of women who have zero interest in "male hobbies" like video games and sports. Women can lead very happy, content, and fulfilled lives with little male interaction at all; if physical intimacy wasn't necessary. You mentioned yoga and wine as hobbies, but do most "jock" men participate in those hobbies? Its mostly the desperate single men that resort to "female hobbies" to meet women. Likewise, I know a few women who put down "I love watching football and sports" on online dating profiles, when what they really mean is that "they like how handsome Derek jeter and Tom Brady are" rather than the actual game mechanics. Its good to be supportive, but I don't want a woman to become a "sports poser" just to meet guys, and pretend she knows anything about sports rules. I think a lot of women would find it odd that their boyfriend suddenly developed an obsession with fashion and fabrics. Men are also guilty of living in a world completely cut off from woman. Men can work in engineering jobs and have no reason to share any hobbies with single women. My point is that the modern industrialized society has separated the genders so much that its becoming increasingly difficult for men and women to have hobbies or interests in common.
irc333 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 You know, I have always wondered how it was that women had come to like sports? Back in the old days, women used to despise sports. The wives would be talking in the kitchen, while the men gathered around the TV for Sunday football. Have no idea how all of a sudden women became sports fanatics. I'm just curious as to what lengths women will go to, to meet single men? Do women join Male-dominated activities for the primary purpose of meeting a boyfriend? This can be: -Going to Sports bars, joining a sports team, going to games and watching sports -Going to comic book conventions, WoW gaming, RPG games and live-action -Going to Republican events, joining a gun club, business club What other male-dominated clubs have women joined to meet men? I ask this question, because a lot of Men will join Female Hobbies to meet women - like cooking, wine classes, yoga, etc.
lovebug1234 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 eh. no, but i do work with all men so perhaps that's why.
Yookie Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Sports - Joined a football club because my BF loves it. We have a group of friends that meet up at the sports bar on Sundays so it's very social and I have a good time even though I wasn't that into football before dating him. He's a sports fanatic and also watches baseball, basketball, boxing, cage fighting etc. He has fight parties all the time for the big ticket fights that you have to pay for on pay-per-view. I enjoy those parties too. Gaming - I love World of Warcraft! (I have 3 accounts LOL) I'm a long time fan of RPG's though. The first RPG that got me hooked was Chrono Trigger. Played all the Nintendo RPGs then moved to online RPGs and finally MMORPGs like Asheron's Call, Everquest and now WoW. I blame my addiction to gaming on my son though. We used to play together all the time. Now he lives on his own but we still play WoW together when we can. My BF doesn't play at all. The only games he'll play are chess, scrabble, backgammon and card games. I can beat him in scrabble but he kicks my butt in all the others. If I was single - I would definitely join male dominated social groups for the increased likelihood of meeting men. I would make sure it's something I can genuinely enjoy because I think I would come off as desperate if I was only there to scope out men. When you are enjoying the activity, you tend to be more relaxed and your personality will be more easy going and confident. I would not join a gaming group though, because most gamers are around my son's age!!
maybealone Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 You know, I have always wondered how it was that women had come to like sports? Back in the old days, women used to despise sports. The wives would be talking in the kitchen, while the men gathered around the TV for Sunday football. Have no idea how all of a sudden women became sports fanatics. Eh, my mom has always been a sports fanatic (and she's in her 70s) so I grew up one. I had no idea it was traditionally a guy thing until I got to dating age and guys made a fuss over how much I knew about football. I also have other traditional guy interests -- golf and guns, for example. But I would not join something to meet men unless it was something I was already big into. I'm not interested in attracting someone under false pretenses. That said, if there was something I wanted to learn more about I would take class or something. And if I met a man, that would be a bonus.
somedude81 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Women don't go out of their way to find men.
iris219 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 Women don't go out of their way to find men. Do you go out of your way to find women?
Els Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 The reason I brought up this question is that in the present-day Modern Society, perhaps because of commercialization - Men and Women can lead completely separate lives without interacting with the opposite gender. There are many Single Women that work in Female-dominated industries, like teaching, nursing, or fashion; and have almost no exposure to single men. There are also a lot of women who have zero interest in "male hobbies" like video games and sports. Women can lead very happy, content, and fulfilled lives with little male interaction at all; if physical intimacy wasn't necessary. The majority of women I know who work in female-dominated professions and aren't into video games or sports, still do meet men through social events, bars, and yes, work. Nurses aren't the only people around in a hospital. Teachers aren't the only people around in a school. Fashion designers aren't the only people around in a fashion company office. I'm really not sure what world you live in? Men are also guilty of living in a world completely cut off from woman. Men can work in engineering jobs and have no reason to share any hobbies with single women. Ditto, here. Plenty of engineers make the effort to go to social events to meet women, and those guys also tend to be the ones who are more successful with women. Some are also dating female engineers. My point is that the modern industrialized society has separated the genders so much that its becoming increasingly difficult for men and women to have hobbies or interests in common. Modern society is actually way less segregated. Traditionally, women rarely even work, or if they do, not in the same professions as men at all. You don't necessarily need common hobbies to meet people. And even if you do, there are plenty of gender-neutral hobbies such as hiking, music, and reading. That being said, I personally have plenty of male-dominated hobbies, but I am not in them for the sole purpose of meeting men, especially as I already have a bf. Also, speaking from the perspective of a long-term female competitive gamer, do you know what the major hindrance towards women participating in male-dominated hobbies is? The attitudes of some of the men towards us. If I'd been in it just to meet men, I would have quit ages ago due to some of the crap that I've encountered from male gamers back in the day.
somedude81 Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) Do you go out of your way to find women? I take a couples dance class almost every semester for the soul purpose of meeting women. (Couples dance as you need a partner to dance with. It's not for couples, couldn't think of a better term) I went to a couple yoga and cardio classes to meet women because those classes are literally 90% female. On occasion I've been to a couple of bars and dance clubs to meet women. I don't like the environments or being out late at night by myself, so I was going pretty far out of my way for those. Edited November 22, 2012 by somedude81
El Brujo Posted November 22, 2012 Posted November 22, 2012 I've known women to go to car customizing shows to meet men, and these women are actually pretty cool if you're a car nut because you can talk to them without turning them off. In fact, that's how my mother met my Pop... all his buddies were hotrodders back in the early 60s. My aunts dated them and were high school friends with my mother. Also, I knew at least one woman who joined a gun club to meet men.
Author jcrew11 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 Oh come on. You didn't read what I wrote. I said its easier for men and women to have completely separate hobbies and not be other single men/women. Obviously if someone puts a lot of effort into being social and finding women at social events, bars, and work then they will be successful in dating. It also helps if the guy or girl is really Good-Looking as that will attract the random strangers at bars, parties, and store. But not many people enjoy the "bar scene" or "social mixers" A lot of people like sticking to their hobbies and interests and never getting out of their comfort zone. Girly girls are content with their lives, and maybe finding that one male to be their boyfriend, while having all female friends. Men also fall into the trap of having all male friends and never interacting with single females. The majority of women I know who work in female-dominated professions and aren't into video games or sports, still do meet men through social events, bars, and yes, work. Nurses aren't the only people around in a hospital. Teachers aren't the only people around in a school. Fashion designers aren't the only people around in a fashion company office. I'm really not sure what world you live in? Ditto, here. Plenty of engineers make the effort to go to social events to meet women, and those guys also tend to be the ones who are more successful with women. Some are also dating female engineers. Modern society is actually way less segregated. Traditionally, women rarely even work, or if they do, not in the same professions as men at all. You don't necessarily need common hobbies to meet people. And even if you do, there are plenty of gender-neutral hobbies such as hiking, music, and reading. That being said, I personally have plenty of male-dominated hobbies, but I am not in them for the sole purpose of meeting men, especially as I already have a bf. Also, speaking from the perspective of a long-term female competitive gamer, do you know what the major hindrance towards women participating in male-dominated hobbies is? The attitudes of some of the men towards us. If I'd been in it just to meet men, I would have quit ages ago due to some of the crap that I've encountered from male gamers back in the day.
Els Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 Oh come on. You didn't read what I wrote. I said its easier for men and women to have completely separate hobbies and not be other single men/women. Obviously if someone puts a lot of effort into being social and finding women at social events, bars, and work then they will be successful in dating. It also helps if the guy or girl is really Good-Looking as that will attract the random strangers at bars, parties, and store. But not many people enjoy the "bar scene" or "social mixers" Au contraire, YOU did not read what I wrote. I said that many hobbies are gender neutral and there are many places to meet people of the opposite sex, even if one is not into bars and EVEN if one works as an engineer or nurse or whatever. There is no such separation of the genders in daily life as you seem to believe. A lot of people like sticking to their hobbies and interests and never getting out of their comfort zone. Girly girls are content with their lives, and maybe finding that one male to be their boyfriend, while having all female friends. Men also fall into the trap of having all male friends and never interacting with single females. I'm really puzzled how you arrive at this conclusion. Are you in college now, or working? Do you ever go out of the house? Because it's a VERY rare person who ONLY talks to people of one gender. The vast majority of people at least have friends of the opposite gender. Of course, whether or not they meet people of the opposite gender whom they can form romantic relationships with is an entirely different thing.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 I'm really puzzled how you arrive at this conclusion. Are you in college now, or working? Do you ever go out of the house? Because it's a VERY rare person who ONLY talks to people of one gender. The vast majority of people at least have friends of the opposite gender. Of course, whether or not they meet people of the opposite gender whom they can form romantic relationships with is an entirely different thing. I don't know, it depends. Are we talking about "friends" or "friend-like acquaintances". It's probably pretty common to have enough of the latter, but not so common to have plenty of the former.
Els Posted November 23, 2012 Posted November 23, 2012 I don't know, it depends. Are we talking about "friends" or "friend-like acquaintances". It's probably pretty common to have enough of the latter, but not so common to have plenty of the former. 'People whom you spend time with and hang out with in groups', as per the premise of the thread. The OP says 'never interacting with', so anything that involves personal interaction counts for the purpose of my response.
GirlontheLam Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 You know, I have always wondered how it was that women had come to like sports? Back in the old days, women used to despise sports. The wives would be talking in the kitchen, while the men gathered around the TV for Sunday football. Have no idea how all of a sudden women became sports fanatics. I randomly became interested in sports around age 13 or 14. I started with women's college sports, and then added the male versions. Not to attract men at all. But through different phases of sports fanaticism, I have noticed how different the men I attract are.
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