BewitchedandBothered Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Hi, friends!!!! The regulars on here know my story. I have been doing great until the other day...I was informed by a mutual friend that he is going through is friends list on FB telling mutual friends he will have to delete them if they are friends with me. Needless to say, he deleted quite a few. He told one friend "call me when you've deleted her and I will add you again to my fb list"--she said, "that call will never come". He used to tell me how much he respected and held her in high esteem, too. What really gets my goat is I was moving on just fine. Then I hear stuff like that and, truthfully it bothers me that he is STILL going to lengths to poison people against me when HE was the abuser, in a horriffic way. My guess is that he still angry that I went to his ex wife when his abuse started to get really out of hand. She was kind enough to fill in the blanks for me. He hit the roof and since then, has loathed my existence. This past August, he emailed me asking how I was and said he hoped I was well. I did not respond. This man is all over the road. He blocked me and has the nerve to email me, and now this....We have mutual friends because he friended many of the women on my list---ladies with whom I went to school with. After the final breakup, he demanded that I delete all our mutual friends. Of course I ignored him. To this day---it is nearly 2 years after that final breakup, he is STILL trying to get people to delete/block me, telling them I am 'sinister and evil' and Lord only knows what else. Meanwhile, I have been living my life, doing my own thing, not saying a damn thing about him. I really don't get his behavior. I heard he's with someone else and it's going on a year for them, so what gives? Anyway, just felt like venting. I have pride and do take things very personally at times, so when this came about, it reinforced the nothingness that I was to him; that I wasted my time with him and what could have happened to me if I had stayed. Any takers on this?? Shaking my head.
PYTpisces Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 In my opinion when someone has hat much venom in their words and actions toward another its because they still have strong emotions toward them. If you we're nothing to him then he wouldn't need to be doing all this bullsh*t! He is an uber loser! 2
Author BewitchedandBothered Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 In my opinion when someone has hat much venom in their words and actions toward another its because they still have strong emotions toward them. If you we're nothing to him then he wouldn't need to be doing all this bullsh*t! He is an uber loser! Thank you, PYTpisces. It took a long time for me to heal and feel like myself again; he did a number on me--gaslighting is his specialty. He asks people constantly if they still associate with me; if so, why, etc. and then the bad mouthing commences. To think I wished him well at one point. All I can really do at this point is pity him, shrug and keep on going.
Recommended Posts