MrCastle Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 If I ask for a PM'd pic of your body will I get an ifarction? Infraction. Myocardial infarction is what the mods get when you post something naughty. 2
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 FOR HEAVANS SAKE, I AM A CURVY WOMEN, with THE SAME freaking BMI as you, and I HAVE PLENTY OF MEN THAT ARE INTO MY BODY. Again, chubby women do find love, and have very fulfilling relation ships, as much and at the same level as thin pretty women do! They just do not have the pick of men who they are actually physically attracted to at first glance. Instead, they meet their mate through every day activities or through friends, and BUILD a relationship! People who are attractive, even 6/10, have the luxuary of meeting people and forming a relationship based on their looks; where as chubby people who are not physically attractive to many people, simply miss out on the whole " lust" thing, that comes with being physically attracted to someone.
Author verhrzn Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 FOR HEAVANS SAKE, I AM A CURVY WOMEN, with THE SAME freaking BMI as you, and I HAVE PLENTY OF MEN THAT ARE INTO MY BODY. Again, chubby women do find love, and have very fulfilling relation ships, as much and at the same level as thin pretty women do! They just do not have the pick of men who they are actually physically attracted to at first glance. Instead, they meet their mate through every day activities or through friends, and BUILD a relationship! People who are attractive, even 6/10, have the luxuary of meeting people and forming a relationship based on their looks; where as chubby people who are not physically attractive to many people, simply miss out on the whole " lust" thing, that comes with being physically attracted to someone. Which supports what was said earlier, that ugly/fat girls had better have a fantastic personality. And yeah, same BMI, but where you carry your fat and what shape your body is could be drastically different than me, as I pointed out to Ronin. I am not fat just because of my weight, I am fat because I carry it all in my middle. I'm like my mother: very thin arms and legs, small breasts, large stomach, fat butt. And no amount of exercise can change the general shape of someone's body. An hourglass is always an hourglass, an apple is always an apple.
MrCastle Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 fat butt Knew there was a reason I liked you. 2
Under The Radar Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Which supports what was said earlier, that ugly/fat girls had better have a fantastic personality. And yeah, same BMI, but where you carry your fat and what shape your body is could be drastically different than me, as I pointed out to Ronin. I am not fat just because of my weight, I am fat because I carry it all in my middle. I'm like my mother: very thin arms and legs, small breasts, large stomach, fat butt. And no amount of exercise can change the general shape of someone's body. An hourglass is always an hourglass, an apple is always an apple. Wrong. We can all change our body composition through exercise. Of course, strength training is going to be the most productive style of exercise for you to bring your physique into balance. You can design a program that would emphasize muscle gain in your "skinny" arms and legs while targeting hereditary depot fat for emulsification. While it is true we cannot change our overall somatotype, we can make changes within it. In other words, two apples are not always identical. What exercise and diet cannot change, unfortunately, is someone's facial features. Take the time to design and implement an intelligent nutritional and strength training program. I guarantee you will make meaningful improvements in your body regardless of genetics. Oh, and the most important aspect of building a nice body is the mind. Having a negative attitude will only take one so far . 3
ThaWholigan Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Wrong. We can all change our body composition through exercise. Of course, strength training is going to be the most productive style of exercise for you to bring your physique into balance. You can design a program that would emphasize muscle gain in your "skinny" arms and legs while targeting hereditary depot fat for emulsification. While it is true we cannot change our overall somatotype, we can make changes within it. In other words, two apples are not always identical. What exercise and diet cannot change, unfortunately, is someone's facial features. Take the time to design and implement an intelligent nutritional and strength training program. I guarantee you will make meaningful improvements in your body regardless of genetics. Oh, and the most important aspect of building a nice body is the mind. Having a negative attitude will only take one so far . To add, as always, if anyone needs any links to information, I'm the guy 1
somedude81 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Is it really possible to change where fat is stored in ones body? Like can I just move all the fat in my gut into my butt? Would some kind of massage do that? A sensual one is preferred.
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Is it really possible to change where fat is stored in ones body? Like can I just move all the fat in my gut into my butt? Would some kind of massage do that? A sensual one is preferred. hahaha! Wouldn't that be nice, just get a sensual massage that shifts the fat in your butt. I am sort of an apple, my arms and legs never have issue with fat, where as my butt breasts and stomach gain MOST of the weight.... I either do Pilates every day, or look mediocore.... Honestly, 20 mins of pilates daily is NOTHING, when you have a nice stomach for the remaining 23 hrs and 40 mins of the day..... Oh, not to mention I have to do cardio 5 days a week on top of pilates..
Ruby Slippers Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Knew there was a reason I liked you. Yes. Many men LOVE a healthy dose of fat on a woman. I'm pretty fit but have softened up a little lately due to working on my biz constantly. The first spots that show fat on me are my thighs and stomach, and in the past I might have been a little self-conscious about that. My boyfriend has grabbed, squeezed, and loved up those two fat spots quite a few times lately - during random moments of affection and groping, and during hot sex! He obviously LOVES the curves, and tells me I'd still look great if I gained 20 pounds. He said he'd love to see me with a big fat ass. lol He said he loves the softness, finds it sexy and feminine, and says it makes for much better lovemaking. This guy is hot, successful, and awesome, and he is not attracted to skinny women. Love your body, and I promise you many, many men will get in line for their chance to do the same. 6
bobsmith76 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 We see a lot of these forums that men don't like fat or ugly women, or women who are above a certain cut-off line in terms of age (though it seems healthier women who look younger are considered all right.) When is the appropriate time to give up on dating? Fellas, when would you advise an ugly/overweight girl to stop dating? Do you think she should stop dating until she magically gets hotter/thinner? If that never happens, should she remove herself from the dating pool entirely? Is it also better if all the women in the available dating pool are hot/thin/young, but that also means there are far less of them to go around? Is that preferable to the dating pool being filled with ugly women? If you're fat and ugly I would suggest dating someone else who is fat and ugly. There are plenty of fat and ugly men to go around. I don't see what the problem is. 1
Lobouspo Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 For women, the fatties and plain janes just need to join an OLD site. They are sure to get attention from desperate, jaded men who send out a 100 messages to "hot" and "average" looking women only to get 1 or 2 responses that never lead to anything
Anela Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 For women, the fatties and plain janes just need to join an OLD site. They are sure to get attention from desperate, jaded men who send out a 100 messages to "hot" and "average" looking women only to get 1 or 2 responses that never lead to anything Lucky us. This makes me feel so much better.
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 If you're fat and ugly I would suggest dating someone else who is fat and ugly. There are plenty of fat and ugly men to go around. I don't see what the problem is. She is not fat or ugly. She is just not universally attractive enough to get the attention of the hottest men out there. She does not have a very positive or up lifting personality that screams " I really like who I am and have a lot to offer" because she only believes she is average all around, with nothing that remarkable about her. And yes, if she were truly fat and ugly, she is best to date men who she is not that attracted to. Look: the ugly and fat people out there, who are fat even with eating healthily and normally, need to just accept that life can be just as happy, but with another ugly person. It is just the way it is! Most people match up with people of look similar, although there are a lot of exceptions.
MrCastle Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 This thread is dark. I hope people contemplating suicide don't find their way here. 2
PJKino Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 So... ugly/fat women should only stay in with the hope that men they are not attracted to settle for them, am I reading that right? But you claim you have little standards for men physically becasue you yourself are ugly its slowly starting to come out that you may be more shallow and picky then you let on
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 This thread is dark. I hope people contemplating suicide don't find their way here. It is only as bad as you make it. You can CHOOSE to look at things in a more positive way. Not being attractive is not the end of the world! WHY does it HAVE to be "dark" A truly mature and positive person would rather think of it like this: Yes, I am not physically that attractive. But I can still go on dates and find a loving partner. My life and relationships can be every bit as fullfilling and loving as a pretty, skinny women. I do not have as many options at the first meeting of someone, and I will not necessarily get someone that I am physically attracted to from the outset. Rather then be alone and not find a loving partner, truly unattractive people should probably learn to accept that their mate will NOT be attractive to them at first. Over time though, an average or unattractive person becomes beautiful in the eyes of their partner!
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 (edited) And no, ugly women do not have to wait out in the hope that some other ugly man will "settle" for them. They can find an amazing man who really loves and adores them, actually and this man WILL NOT feel like he is settling! They won't always, however, be attracted to the men they end up with from the outset, because they are ugly women themselves, and have to go for similar looking people. It does not have to be depressing: you are what you are, and you CAN choose to have a very happy life, if you forget about going for men you are attracted to initially. With a great guy, I can guarantee you will find an ugly guy where there IS chemistry, if you get to know and love them for who they are first. Love will feel great with the right person, even if they are not attractive! Ugly people go through the same joys as pretty loved up couples do! THE ADDED BONUS: hey, at leas there is less temptation, seeing as ugly people tend to form romantic feelings via social interaction, rather than being blown away with looks! Edited November 21, 2012 by Leigh 87
Els Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 You stop when you feel that you want to stop. Seriously, V, I don't understand the purpose of this thread. 978926386247682476424 people have told you that you're attractive. That they would date you if they knew you IRL. What's with the constant 'ugly' talk? I have a few friends who are actually overweight and/or ugly (no, not your definition of it, either) who are in happy Rs or marriages. They seem to be much happier than some of the hotter ones who either chose poorly or have certain unresolved issues. Celebrities are ALL stereotypically hot, and the majority of them are unsuccessful in LTRs and marriage, with many of them having been cheated on. It really is all about the attitude. 1
phineas Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 If you're fat and ugly I would suggest dating someone else who is fat and ugly. There are plenty of fat and ugly men to go around. I don't see what the problem is. Good point. One of my friends is fat. not sure about ugly but he'd look better if he wasn't fat. However he is also tall & has a good personality. Oh and he's hung like a Kodiak bear so he still somehow winds up with really hot women that are usually petit. ok, i'm not helping here am i? LOL! Verizon's problem isn't her looks. It's her attitude. I'm pretty sure she drives men off with her negativity or clingyness.
LittlePrince Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 We see a lot of these forums that men don't like fat or ugly women, or women who are above a certain cut-off line in terms of age (though it seems healthier women who look younger are considered all right.) When is the appropriate time to give up on dating? Fellas, when would you advise an ugly/overweight girl to stop dating? Do you think she should stop dating until she magically gets hotter/thinner? If that never happens, should she remove herself from the dating pool entirely? Is it also better if all the women in the available dating pool are hot/thin/young, but that also means there are far less of them to go around? Is that preferable to the dating pool being filled with ugly women? Good morning sunshine. The world says hello.
Els Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 My boyfriend has grabbed, squeezed, and loved up those two fat spots quite a few times lately - during random moments of affection and groping, and during hot sex! He obviously LOVES the curves, and tells me I'd still look great if I gained 20 pounds. He said he'd love to see me with a big fat ass. lol He said he loves the softness, finds it sexy and feminine, and says it makes for much better lovemaking. I know! I'm about 125 lbs, pretty much healthy, but due to my pear-shaped frame I do have a bit of a pouch on the belly, and a large butt. I used to find it weird that the bf would grope my belly sometimes, of all things. And the butt, WAY more often . My insecurity sometimes made me think, "Is he making fun of it?!?", but then I realized that my naked (and quite un-model-like) body had absolutely zero problems turning him on. So, I don't know why he grabs the belly (I do understand the butt) - but I really don't think it turns him off at the very least. And I do think that men have way more varied and forgiving tastes than they are given credit for online. 2
MrCastle Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Just for the record, pear shaped is a much more pleasing shape to me than hour glass. When all your weight is below the waist.... 1
Emilia Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Lucky us. This makes me feel so much better. How do you mean?
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 V - if all fat/ugly women took themselves out of the dating pool, hot women would feel average. We can't have that 2
iris219 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Getting in on this late, so I haven't read all the responses, but your OP assumes that all fat/ugly women have trouble dating. Do you not know unattractive women who are happily coupled up? I certainly do. Don't you know attractive women who struggle more than certain unattractive women? Maybe the question should be "Should any woman who's unsuccessful at dating just give up?" I'm not sure why you've limited it to ugly girls.
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