Meetvirginia Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 A dad who's kids go to the same daycare as my children was asking daycare provider about me,she eventually introduced us. We have alot in common-both single parents to 2 kids who are same ages,going thru divorce from our alcoholic spouses,enjoy the same things,same dry sense of humor...the list goes on. So we started to spend time and get to know each other and eventually slept together. He was very attentive,initiated contact daily. Took me out a few times,met some of his friends. I rarely initiated contact,just once in awhile so he would know the interest was mutual. Always responded to his texts in atimely fashion,eventually he began to call instead of text,everything seemed to be going well. After a couple of months,he began to ignore me. A few weeks after the fade started i found out i was pregnant. I wasnt gonna tell him as i assumed he had lost interest,but i ran into him twice in one day which struck me as odd since i never ran into him before around town and its a small town. I contacted him and informed him that i was pregnant and that i planned to deal with it on my own,just thought he had a right to know. He became very romantic,persistent and pursuing me like he did in the beginning. I suspected it was out of guilt and or obligation and kept my guard up. Several weeks later,i miscarried. I took this as a blessing in disguise. After this,he slowly began the fade again. Throughout all of this i never asked what we were or where we stood, i figured that things would progress naturally but after the fade started the second time i decided to ask him what the deal was. He said he was "confused,bear with me". I backed off assuming that was code for im not into you. I genuinely liked him still do. However,i found out from the daycare lady/matchmaker roughly a month after the im confused comment that he is in a relationship with another woman and was back when he first wanted to meet me. I became hotheaded and sent him a text stating that the jig was up,felt sorry for his girl,hes an ******* and that i would be deleting his info as soon as i sent the text. Now,several weks later i regret this and i miss him and so i need opinions- my gut says that its not over between us and that he feels the same but his pride wont let him contact me. He told mutual friends that he thinks he has issues becausehe has since pulled the fade on other girl too. Should i take a shot in the dark or maintain my silence and take his silence as my answer that hes over it and tell my gut instinct to shut up?
Balzac Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Welcome to LS. W0W on the angry texting. Lots of helpful experienced folks here who have kids and alcoholic exes. 1
Author Meetvirginia Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 Yes,i agree. Angry texting is never good. Im feeling like more of an ass-ole than i thought he was. I should clarify that from the beginning,we never discussed what it was we were doing- friends with benefits as much as i hate that term-dating,what have you. Ugh,regret and shame on my part bigtime for such childish and impulsive behavior.
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