Necromancer Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I had a male friend who i hung around with a year ago, i knew exactly how kind of a guy he was. All the girls where drooling over him, yet he has just average personality. Since i know for sure he isn't a charmer then this personality has nothing to do with how well he does with women. He is tall, good looking face and dresses like an average guy. Yet, i would get thrown in the trash for this guy even through i dress better and am more confident and much more muscular. Your looks are your worth to young women, i have experienced it with 1st hand since i have few good looking friends... It's day and night how we are treated by the same women. Only thing that attracts women is LMS (looks, money, status). Rest is mental masturbation.
Author Necromancer Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 Personality matters... just less than a lot of other stuff (like sex appeal). Women are just as shallow as men. Just like men want a hot girl... women want a hot guy. Not a "nice guy" a HOT guy. If he is also nice that is a plus.. but not a requirement. Yet, it is so hard for women to admit that. Looks are 1st, delusional people deny it. 2
charlietheginger Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Glad to see another thread Created by a man to tell us what women want And other men chimed in to verify what women want With guys knowing already what women want Who needs womens opinions... 6
mammasita Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Looks are always first, but personal taste and preference always prevail. Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Well it's true. You get thrown in the trash for your friend and all you list as reasons are physical attributes (aside from confidence which may border arrogance - but im just speculating)
KatZee Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Oh you're wrong with that. It depends what these girls are looking for. If they're young, they're naive and have no clue what it takes to keep a relationship going. I've been guilty of that in the past and that saw how the relationships never went anywhere. If a guy is not goofy like me, has no sense of humor, can't have an intellectual conversation, can't be fun, and is just a bland piece of cardboard, I really wouldn't care HOW hot he was. There's this guy I know who is constantly chasing me, numerous people tell me he's a good looking kid but I honestly can't see it because he is one of the DULLEST people I know. I can barely even have a conversation with him that's how boring he is. I get fed up after 5 seconds. I could never get with someone who had no personality. 1
suladas Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Oh you're wrong with that. It depends what these girls are looking for. If they're young, they're naive and have no clue what it takes to keep a relationship going. I've been guilty of that in the past and that saw how the relationships never went anywhere. If a guy is not goofy like me, has no sense of humor, can't have an intellectual conversation, can't be fun, and is just a bland piece of cardboard, I really wouldn't care HOW hot he was. There's this guy I know who is constantly chasing me, numerous people tell me he's a good looking kid but I honestly can't see it because he is one of the DULLEST people I know. I can barely even have a conversation with him that's how boring he is. I get fed up after 5 seconds. I could never get with someone who had no personality. Agreed. Looks might attract the person, but you need a personality to keep them and have a real relationship. 1
KatZee Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 is bland piece of cardboard someone who doesn't get drunk? No, because I'm not a huge drinker either. I don't think people should have to be wasted to have fun. My ex was like that and he was a disgrace. A huge embarrassment in public and he would embarrass me. A bland piece of cardboard is someone who has no sense of humor, who can't take jokes, doesn't understand jokes, doesn't smile, is very monotone in speech, no real opinions of their own, will just sit and agree with everything I say, someone who can't hold a conversation from their end, who answers with one words and doesn't try to keep it going, someone who doesn't or can't let loose to "play" (tickle fights, play wrestling, etc), someone who's stuck in their ways and makes no effort to try new things. 1
Hawakai Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 No, because I'm not a huge drinker either. I don't think people should have to be wasted to have fun. My ex was like that and he was a disgrace. A huge embarrassment in public and he would embarrass me. A bland piece of cardboard is someone who has no sense of humor, who can't take jokes, doesn't understand jokes, doesn't smile, is very monotone in speech, no real opinions of their own, will just sit and agree with everything I say, someone who can't hold a conversation from their end, who answers with one words and doesn't try to keep it going, someone who doesn't or can't let loose to "play" (tickle fights, play wrestling, etc), someone who's stuck in their ways and makes no effort to try new things. Yes, and the majority of the good-looking men are bland. I have a hard time figuring out how they went past elementary school. Look, it doesn't matter that you aren't particularly drawn to good-looks. The majority of women are. It also depends on how old the woman is. Before the age of 30 women are too busy drooling and sleeping with these guys to notice they're a bit on the boring side. Most of the guys I see are like you described and they get no play. I saw a good-looking, tall, well-dressed guy in the cantina today and every female was staring at him. 1
derspiegle Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I had a male friend who i hung around with a year ago, i knew exactly how kind of a guy he was. All the girls where drooling over him, yet he has just average personality. Since i know for sure he isn't a charmer then this personality has nothing to do with how well he does with women. He is tall, good looking face and dresses like an average guy. Yet, i would get thrown in the trash for this guy even through i dress better and am more confident and much more muscular. Your looks are your worth to young women, i have experienced it with 1st hand since i have few good looking friends... It's day and night how we are treated by the same women. Only thing that attracts women is LMS (looks, money, status). Rest is mental masturbation. You won't write the body if you're unable to read it's face.
yongyong Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Would I hire a fat or ugly girl for my business? No. why? because there are plenty of good looking girls who can do the work (takes couple hours to learn) Would I talk about this publicly? No. why? because it makes me look bad. (also I can get sued) That's how people are. You get the interview with your looks. To get hired, you need to have a personality. If you are ugly, yeah you won't even get the interview. With good looks, you can get lots of interview. that doesn't mean you will be hired. 1
Hawakai Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Would I hire a fat or ugly girl for my business? No. why? because there are plenty of good looking girls who can do the work (takes couple hours to learn) Would I talk about this publicly? No. why? because it makes me look bad. (also I can get sued) That's how people are. You get the interview with your looks. To get hired, you need to have a personality. If you are ugly, yeah you won't even get the interview. With good looks, you can get lots of interview. that doesn't mean you will be hired. You can still be put on trial. Basically sex without having to be in a relationship aka FWB/one-night stands. Seems pretty sweet to me.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I am young, I like looks, guys who are hot have screwed me over, I'll date ugly now. 1
KatZee Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Before the age of 30 women are too busy drooling and sleeping with these guys to notice they're a bit on the boring side. Really dude? I'm 28. Don't generalize. You're hanging out with the wrong people.
ScienceGal Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I've lost track of how many times I've had this conversation. Of course looks matter. The chemical surge one gets when they see someone that knocks their socks of feels like, well... their socks getting knocked off. It's unlike anything else. Some people care most about money/status and make dating choices based upon that. But some people are looking to settle down and realize that the long term connection with someone has little to do with any of those three things. You think any of that matters when you're 80? What about when you're dead? I've dated all over the spectrum and at this point in my life, I'd take an average guy that treats me well over a "hot guy" or rich guy that treated me less well. It all depends on what you're looking for though. I'm looking for the real deal. Not to say you can't get absolutely everything you want in one person... but I equate that with winning the lottery. It just isn't realistic. All anyone can do is determine what can and and can't be compromised, and then go for it.
KatZee Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Oh and you say personality doesn't matter, sure does, because I'm getting a feel for yours loud and clear. You're super negative, with a "woe is me, everyone is after my hot friend and not me," and have a clear vendetta against women. Not attractive. If this is what you're putting out, YOU'RE the reason for women not being interested. You need to change your attitude and views on people because they're extremely inaccurate. 3
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 We don't want you. Hahaha nice joke. Believe me I don't want you either.
KatZee Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 So Kat why don't you tell us how you really feel? I think OP is just here feeling sorry for himself because he can't get a girl. Change your way of life dude. No point sitting here whining how everyone else gets things and you don't. You're clearly doing something wrong. Figure it out and change it. Life's a game. Play it well. That's how I feel. These threads about how women are all idiots because all we do is "drool and sleep with hot guys before age 30" is ridiculous.
yongyong Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 He must be a F.O.B who doesn't understand American culture. All american girls will say 'I care about more what's inside' aka Bullsxit even though that's not what they actually do in real life. She brings a hot and rich guy. friends ask her what she likes about him. she will talk about his 'personality'. what's wrong with talking about how hot he is, how rich his family is? Dude, that's the culture here. Don't listen to what B.S people say. They are just like you. (do you see a damn ugly girl and think about making out with her just because she has good personality?)
Hawakai Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I think OP is just here feeling sorry for himself because he can't get a girl. Change your way of life dude. No point sitting here whining how everyone else gets things and you don't. You're clearly doing something wrong. Figure it out and change it. Life's a game. Play it well. That's how I feel. These threads about how women are all idiots because all we do is "drool and sleep with hot guys before age 30" is ridiculous. Facts>words. Check out the other poster's words.
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I always post in these threads, saying that: I do not go for the typically hot guy. I always shoot for men who are NOT the " hottest" I can get. I stay AWAY from the men who all the girls drool over and pay attention to! As much as he may be into me, I would not want to sate a guy who all the girls drool over, whenever he goes out without me! I would not worry about cheating if he was truly into me, but it would not be fun dealing with hotter girl than me routinely throwing themselves at him! Instead, I get to know the group, and go for the funny, awesome guy to be around. I am not really attractive enough to go for the hottest, most in demand guys out there, but I DO go for guys who less attractive than the guys who express interest in me. ......Attraction GROWS for me. If the guy does it for me, he can go from average, to super appealing, based on how our relationship progresses. 1
Hawakai Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 (edited) Oh and you say personality doesn't matter, sure does, because I'm getting a feel for yours loud and clear. You're super negative, with a "woe is me, everyone is after my hot friend and not me," and have a clear vendetta against women. Not attractive. If this is what you're putting out, YOU'RE the reason for women not being interested. You need to change your attitude and views on people because they're extremely inaccurate. What's ironic is that the posters are saying they did the whole bad boy and are now looking for a 'real relationship' but you insist that you are different. Here we go again. You're a special and unique snowflake, that's fine. But the majority are like this. As for my personality. Sure thing. I'm charming and friendlly and that allows me to get a feeling about what they're about. Lastly. I'd rather masturbate to porn than end up with a woman(I'd advice every man to stay away from women older than 25) who in her 30's can no longer attract the men she wants, but insists that she wants a real relationship. If a guy isn't good enough to be a woman's choice when she's in her prime, then he's not going to be dumb enough to bother with her in her 30's. Yes, yes, I'm a bitter old(?) man with a small penis living in my parents basement yadayada. Edited November 21, 2012 by Hawakai
dasein Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Personality, who can define that? Charisma, social value, poise, charm, seduction skills, all better more specific terms. And they do matter a great deal. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Ladies, we all need to chil the **** out. It's been explained 16 ways from Sunday what we want, what gets us going and what type of man we want. These guys don't listen. Period. They keep looking for confirmation bias in whatever crap they read or whatever their stupid friend Larry does around women and how they are blah blah blah and it just doesn't work for them, that one time they tried it in 2003. Seriously, the reason they aren't getting the girls they want is because they aren't listening for what girls (each of us individually) want. Guess what? That's a damn unattractive trait to ANYONE. These guys aren't going to bust out books on EQ or the Five Love Languages or Mars & Venus etc. They are going to read PUA and puck up whatever # of chicks they can with it. Honestly ladies, we've got to get off the defensive and find something much better to do with our time that keep explaining to men who aren't going to listen, how to get/attract women. Brick ****ing walls. The guys who actually want help will ask. The guys who clearly don't want it and just want to "prove" something to themselves and others will make blanket statements that "can't be" refuted because their friend Larry gets girls and he's "boring and hot." No, no we must all be the same because every single one of us is tripping over ourselves to get to Larry..... Oh wait, we're not. Sheesh, maybe Larry listens better..... 2
ThaWholigan Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Ladies, we all need to chil the **** out. It's been explained 16 ways from Sunday what we want, what gets us going and what type of man we want. These guys don't listen. Period. They keep looking for confirmation bias in whatever crap they read or whatever their stupid friend Larry does around women and how they are blah blah blah and it just doesn't work for them, that one time they tried it in 2003. Seriously, the reason they aren't getting the girls they want is because they aren't listening for what girls (each of us individually) want. Guess what? That's a damn unattractive trait to ANYONE. These guys aren't going to bust out books on EQ or the Five Love Languages or Mars & Venus etc. They are going to read PUA and puck up whatever # of chicks they can with it. Honestly ladies, we've got to get off the defensive and find something much better to do with our time that keep explaining to men who aren't going to listen, how to get/attract women. Brick ****ing walls. The guys who actually want help will ask. The guys who clearly don't want it and just want to "prove" something to themselves and others will make blanket statements that "can't be" refuted because their friend Larry gets girls and he's "boring and hot." No, no we must all be the same because every single one of us is tripping over ourselves to get to Larry..... Oh wait, we're not. Sheesh, maybe Larry listens better..... lol larry Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is a good book actually. 1
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Threads like this continue to be made, when it all just comes down to the same sh*t!!!!!!!! Yes, good looks get more people to look at you, and want to be around you and want to be your friend and sex partner. I first noticed this when I was WAY young! The girls with small pretty noses and good skin, got more friends than me, who had a long broken crooked nose, yellow messed up teeth, and pimples. The thing is: an ugly person can experience the SAME LEVEL of happiness that a beautiful person does! ..... What's more, ugly people find love with other ugly people. It sounds harsh, but it is true. You just have to LEARN to be positive about what you have, rather than dwell that better looking people have it easier' they do, but you can be as happy as they are....
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