ccxc910 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 We were living together for about 7 months dated for about 8. He had to move to a nearby state (3 hours away) for work and we were going to do long-distance. He said he wanted to break up because he wants a "challenge" and someone who knows what they want in life. I have a great career going for me and an amazing job in the industry I want to work in. About 9 months ago I decided that the Mormon religion is not true and left it so I've been discovering things along the way. (Sex, drugs, other people who aren't Mormon, etc.) So I am learning about myself everyday. Sometimes I really don't know myself because I am not being told what to do anymore. Well he broke up with me on the phone the day after he moved to the new place. When before he had hopes of us sticking it out and being together. He says he needs to "explore and life his life not on a romantic level but just be young while he is still young." I somewhat understand but I am very hurt too. He is 23 I am 21. He has to keep getting his things at my house and his mail comes here I feel like I can never get away from him. Those things just set off emotional triggers and make it so damn hard to move on as much as I want to. He has it easy in his new apartment that I was only in once when he said I could visit every weekend... dangit. I actually want to be friends with him. He said that it is not out of the question that we can be together as a couple again one day. He is not guaranteeing it but it is not impossible. I am not holding on to that I will move on from him but I am not going to forget that he said that either. He says he cares very much for me and hates to see me hurt but he has to do what he needs to do for himself. I blocked him off facebook, deleted his number, I am trying my best not to contact him. I feel so sad and angry and y'know... dumped. :/ But I have to keep calling/texting about him getting his things out of my house during this emotional time and I really really want to say some mean or stupid things I will regret later. I need to CHEER UP. I don't have many friends but I am trying I really am to reach out to people and be busy. Just nothing makes me feel as fulfilled and happy as he made me feel sometimes. Any advice on how to move on? I've only been through a breakup once before and it was much worse than this. I love this guy so so so so much I loved him with all my heart. My parents are still Mormon and are not happy with me now that I have told them we lived together. They don't like talking to me. Any advice, comments, stories, help, resources for my broken heart? How to move on the best way? Feel like I have a fulfilled life? Where do I start? People still ask about him, I still get his mail, he is so damn happy and living a perfect life (great family, no health problems, amazing job) and here I am dumped, I have multiple food allergies, 2 diseases, and not as many friends. :/
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