Eliza_1234 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I was snooping through my bfs texts as he left his phone near me and I found a text with him and this woman... at first they were discussing business because he has a transportation business and he was telling her info about it.. Then he asked her " can we meet and go out?" And she responded " sorry I'm busy plus I think I'm a little too old for you." Then he replied, " I'm not 20 years old here, you don't have to worry about that." I started shaking and put the phone back and when he came back I told him I saw it. He got mad and said " I can't even leave my phone by you and feel safe about it..." And I said is that what your worried about more? Anyways we started fighting and it ended bad. he made me feel bad for snooping and now I wish I never looked... It's been 4 days and he hasn't contacted me to give an explanation ..... What do you guys think of all this? Should I break a 6 year relationship because of this? I'm so lost.. Depressed and I feel like I'm not good enough and he attempted to cheat.,.
KatZee Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Do you think you could have misinterpreted the texts? From personal experience, if a guy is chatting a woman and looking to cheat, or cheating already he will NEVER leave his phone unattended, and especially unattended with his girlfriend in the room. He asked if they could meet up and go out. I don't see much wrong with that. I truly believe people can be friends, and if it was a business related thing it makes sense. It seems as if SHE took it the wrong way and said, "I'm too old for you" and he responded with, "I'm not 20 years old here you don't have to worry about that." When I read that I think of what a 20 year old is, a horny kid looking to score with whatever he can get. I think he was telling her, "I'm not trying to get a piece, you don't have to worry about me hitting on you." I don't really see flirtation going on there. But I DO agree if you feel the need to snoop, there is no trust, and without trust there is nothing. He has all the right to be pissed at you because that's a huge breach of privacy especially if he's never done anything to warrant your jealous and possessive and line crossing behavior.
movingon12 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I have to disagree with pp, I do think he asked her out. If was having a business conversation with a guy and he asked to go out, there is *no way* I would make a comment about it being romantic unless something had happened previously that made me *absolutely certain* he was interested in me in that way. How embarrassing would it be if he was just trying to arrange a meeting??! And the fact that he responded in the way that he did, rather than 'sorry I meant to discuss the xxx' or whatever, makes me think he was trying to persuade her he was 'old enough' to date her. So, yup, that's not right. If it was truly innocent who would be angry that you went through his phone, but also he would be equally concerned about persuading you that he wasn't asking her out. Finally: having BTDT I know if you're going through a partner's phone it's because you're looking for proof of what you already suspect. It's time to say goodbye.
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