StandOut Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 So here The thing, I tried the No contact thing wit my ex but it doesn't work cuz she always ends up eithe contacting me everyday or we end up having sex. I want to get back with her but she tells me that she is still hurt over the fact the I wanted to take a break when she begged and cried for me not to. The fact is the relationship was rocky and I feel like we needed it. The problem is she says she is not ready to date or be in relationship right now with me or anybody else because she is hurt and that when she is ready she will let me know. Yet she texts me everynight for a little while we exchange messages then she stops till the next night. And for the past 2 weekend we have been having sex. Now I don't want to be waiting around for when ever she decides to come back even tho I love her and want to be with her. My question is could she just be using me for conversation and sex or is she really need her time think if she wants to be with me and should I keep exchange messages with her everyday. I'm also thinking about adding her on Facebook again since we are keeping in touch everyday
veggirl Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 No! Don't add her on FB! You need to tell her "I want to be with you, I am so sorry for what happened, I want us to be in a relationship. I understand you need time to think, please take that time but don't contact me until you know what you want. The mixed signals and back & forth is not going to help either of us. Think about what you want and then contact me" and then go No Contact and start moving on. IF she contacts you again to say "I am ready, I want to be with you" then you can re-assess. But until that, don't talk to her.
Author StandOut Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 I tried that last week topd her that i cant do this anymore and she said ok but we ended up having sex 2 days later lol and she's been texting me every night since. I sent her flowers at her job yesterday and she text me twice saying she loved them and I found out she even put a picture of them on FB. I don't know but for some reason I feel like this is her way of slowly working things out. I could be wrong cuz she also take very long to respond to messages after she texts me. I'm confused, When I first tried to work things out she didn't even want to see me or talk to me she even said she was seeing other people. Now she tells me she is text me everyday, has gone to drinks and dinner with me and has sex with me but as of last week she is still not ready to go back to a relationship
veggirl Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I tried that last week topd her that i cant do this anymore and she said ok but we ended up having sex 2 days later lol and she's been texting me every night since. I sent her flowers at her job yesterday and she text me twice saying she loved them and I found out she even put a picture of them on FB. I don't know but for some reason I feel like this is her way of slowly working things out. I could be wrong cuz she also take very long to respond to messages after she texts me. I'm confused, When I first tried to work things out she didn't even want to see me or talk to me she even said she was seeing other people. Now she tells me she is text me everyday, has gone to drinks and dinner with me and has sex with me but as of last week she is still not ready to go back to a relationship What the fk!!?? You sent her flowers? When you are broken up and she has said she does not know what she wants? Don't be surprised when she meets someone else and suddenly knows what she wants -- him. How the heck did you go from "I cant do this" to having sex? Who initiated that? Why do you respond when she calls if you are "trying" to give her space? I'm not sure what advice you want? You aren't going to do anything suggested, I am sure of it. And she will keep you on a leash til she finds someone else and then you will be pissed off that you gave and gave during all this time. I mean she flat out said she will see other people. That also means she will have sex with them. So fine if you wanna have sex with her, do it, but quit with the flowers, the dinners and all that s.hit. She isn't your girlfriend so stop treating her like she is. Why would she get back together with you? She is literally getting EVERYTHING she could want from a relationship with you...but doesn't have to be committed! Girl has it made!!! Honestly why should she agree to being your girlfriend when she gets all the perks but can still go date and sleep with others if she wants? LOL seriously dude think about it. You have handed it all to her on a silver platter and she doesn't even have to committ. Not the way to go about this. She's gotta be LOVING this set up. 1
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