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Inviv_girl Established Member

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Im not sure what to post, I woke up in the middle of the night eyes wide awake and my I feel extreme heartache.. he is in my heart-ache, yes he is, and it hurts!

 

I just want to let it flow.. write this down and let people know what I feel and to know if Im alone or not. If there's anyone out there willing to share story or feel the same as I am please feel free to write.

 

I feel like I want to contact him, to talk to him,, on the other side of my head tells me I shoudn't... he doesnt love me anymore, he left me....

 

The love I have for him is so strong that I could still love him even after being hurt. Its been almost 3 months of the break up and this extreme heartache is what I feel.

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YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE.

 

It's been 12 days since me and my ex broke up and i dream about him every single morning and want him back so bad, when he's the one who messed up. We haven't spoken in 11 days and it's SO hard, your definitely not the only one going through this so just know that we're all here together to support eachother during this horrible time :( you can message me if you wanna talk!

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Yup, you are not the only one;)

 

It's been 9 months post break up and we share a 2 year old. Talk about a tough situation to move on from. To top it off, she left because of me and not some douche bag. I feel hatred towards myself and not her. I'm dealing much better, but I can promise you it won't take you 9 months to feel better. That is, if you stop dwelling about the past and stop thinking what ifs.

 

Good luck. We feel your pain, but it gets better... I promise.

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TRY 5 MONTHS OF NC....it gets better i promise you. that's what everyone told me when i first joined LS 5 months ago and its true. yes for the moment it feels like you're going thought hell so geek going. there will be better days. stay strong. there are so many people going through the same pain at this exact moment. the dreams, the tears, the anxiety, anger, and all sort of emotions are part of the process. go through them all and with time it will all be a memory. STAY STRONG!

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Thank you so much for the kind responds, Im glad Im not alone dealing with this.

 

I did the NC, My mom told him that I was sick last week and he contact me, I guess he wants to know how am I. I ignored him but he keep on contacting me and after a few days he still contact me and finally I let him know that Im ok, so he would stop. I keep the conversation as short as possible and let him know that Im busy but Still.. he wants to know what had happened and want to speak to me the next time I have time.

 

I want him back and I really miss him but I hate him at the same time for all the heartache he caused me! he said his feeling for me has changed and its really hurt me because I love him so much. He even told me to stop contacting eachother, and now he wants to talk more?? just because I was sick?? he wanna talk because he pity me??

 

Ok, Im typing and crying now..

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yeah it does get better. Except for me things got worse, because everything else besides my relationship has gone against me.

 

I think maybe he is contacting you, because he does still care. Maybe it's not full love, but he probably still cares to know that your okay.

 

My ex told me the same as your ex did, but my ex still cared about me to ask how I was. I was mad at her too and said things out of anger.

 

But they do care.. they just don't love us or forget they love us. And like some people have said it takes time for them to realize they made a bad decision and were wrong. And sometimes they never see it...

 

But hang in there I'm at 3 months almost and it DOES get better bit by bit.

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People told me it gets better all the time, doesnt seems like it in my case, I cried every single day, he's the only person appear before and after my sleep.. and woke me up in the middle of the night from a dream of him..ALWAYS!

 

I know Im suffering right now, I cant help myself, I keep myself busy and no matter how tired I am I still will experience the same, the thought of him and the sadness never go away.

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It will get better. Honestly. But 3 months isn't really that long. I know it sounds like it is, but it's actually not - especially if it was a nasty/unexpected break up.

 

You didn't say how long you were together - I know some people say that it takes as long to get over someone as you were with them though I'm not sure if that's true or not. But it will get better. Promise.

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Hang in there..remember there is plenty of heartbreaks going on around the world every second. Be thankful we're still fully functioning and are just experiencing heartbreak and not disabilities or anything worse.

 

You will pass this stage and become stronger :) ultimately, you will find someone who truly loves you and accept you for who you are, be strong, because you are and everyone is :)

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It will get better. Honestly. But 3 months isn't really that long. I know it sounds like it is, but it's actually not - especially if it was a nasty/unexpected break up.

 

You didn't say how long you were together - I know some people say that it takes as long to get over someone as you were with them though I'm not sure if that's true or not. But it will get better. Promise.

 

He's my first real relationship, the first person I fell in love with and loved me. Im 33 (I know people will say Im so old!) we were together for 1,5 years (I know not that long). Many people say we are beautiful couple. Im so happy to be his girl and I guess he was happy that he's mine. He left a very deep impression and real feeling in my heart. I love him so much, to be with him is the only thing I want in the world. I've never love someone the way I love him (Ok, enough of lovey dovey..)

 

We talked alot about married and children, he brought the talk first and I was so happy to know he's serious with me. He told me he loves me everyday, even before we broke up, was it real.. or was it just a lie.. God knows! everytime I conform him he said it was real. And now he lost his feeling for me, Im shocked with this break up. Due to long distance we having, its killing but my love for him is too strong to let go. I know relationship needs both wings and I guess I just have mine, I never know if he will give me back his wings for us to fly to the future together. Now he wanna talk, could it he want us to get back together? could it he just wanna "talk" 'bout something else? my mine playing trick on me.

 

I cry on my sleep, pray he will come back, Im indeed in so much suffering right now.

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