Awarth Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Hey everyone, so my ex-gf just got dumped by the guy she left me for..i still wanna get back with her, so what should i do? a little background story..We are both 23..both of us together for 5.5 yrs, she left me 1 year ago for another guy..during this 1 yr, i am on NC with her..with her occasionally calling..i give simple one word answer to most of them.. then today, she called me and asked if i can meet her..i say why, and she tell me that she was dumped and she is v sad blah blah...since i was already outside i say ok..once we met, she just come towards and just hug me and cried on my shoulders..i just stroked her head and kept silent.. and so we talk for a while, she say she is sorry about the pain she had caused me..about how she still cannot forget about me..and small things like she still use my birthday as her phone password.. so everyone..what should i do now? honestly, i still wanna be back with her. ..so how should i proceed from here? should i just keep quiet and let her sort out her feelings first? Thanks everyone!
KatZee Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Oh please. Why don't you just cut your balls off right now wrap them in Christmas paper and stick it under the tree as her gift? She left you for someone else. IE: YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH. IE: She was looking for something better and knew she could do better than you. IE: She was not fully satisfied with you and went elsewhere. She left for a year. The only reason she's not with that guy anymore is because HE dumped her. And she is "very sad." This means she didn't want it to be over with him. She's not coming to you looking to get back with you, she's going to cry on your shoulder, like the good little man friend you are. Lets for a second say she DOES try to come back, there are a few reasons for this: 1. She would be rebounding and trying to ease the pain of a broken heart. 2. She would be trying to make the current ex jealous while using you as a pawn in her game. 3. She would be biding her time until the next best thing came along and she'd leave you AGAIN for someone else. You're not top choice. You're not her number 1. You're not her priority. I really can't even believe you sat on the back burner for a full year watching her through a new relationship. 4
Survivor12 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 The first thing you need to realize and accept is that SHE did not break up with her bf--HE broke up with her. In other words, the tears she is crying on your shoulder are for him, not you. I'm sorry to have to say this, but she is using your feelings for her as a way of soothing her feelings of rejection and her damaged ego. Despite the fact that you did not contact her after she left you does not mean that you have been NC. You haven't. Your "one word" answers have shown her that she still had you hooked...and have kept you from moving forward with your life. So, even though she dumped you, has strung you along for a year and is now using you to vent about her breakup (with the guy she dumped you for no less), you still want her back. Well, guess what, you can probably have her....at least until she recovers from her breakup, gets back with her bf or finds a new guy. Is that really what you want? To be a placeholder? C'mon, you deserve better than that, don't you? The best thing you could do is walk away and really go NC. It may not be easy but the self-respect you will gain will pay off in the long run.
Chi townD Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Hey everyone, so my ex-gf just got dumped by the guy she left me for..i still wanna get back with her, so what should i do? Point and laugh saying, "It sucks to be you!!!" On a serious note. KatZee said it all. You would be nothing but a rebound. Someone she would be biding her time with until the next douche rocket came along. I think you deserve to be treated better than what you have been. Believe me, your Ex isn't the only women in the world. And there are a ton of them out there that wouldn't treat you so poorly. So, let me ask YOU a question. When she was hugging you and crying. Do you think that theose tears were for you? Even if she DID want to come back, she would be the one doing ALL of the heavy lifting! Did she give you any indication that she was willing to do all of that? Or ANY of that?
itsmyfault Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 1 year still wanting the same girl? damn, thats why you should have gone complete NC.
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