Its my birthday tomorrow....

[tipsyleprachauns]

And after 11 months I find myself wondering if she'll call. It doesn't really hurt anymore, but it's still there on my mind every day.

 

I don't think I care. I think I'm just curious. I think despite trying to forget it, my mind is still trying to make sense of her behavior this last year.

 

[PYTpisces]

I think no matter what happens it will provoke curiousity. If she calls, what does it mean? If she doesn't, what does it mean? Unless she's banging down your door begging to get back with you, usually birthdays and holidays are just a convenient way for exes to see if the proverbial door is still open for business of even the smallest of matters. It's usually very selfish, to have his/her way by provoking response from you to get attention, it's a way to feel in control... of you, and of the situation. It's difficult to keep this "door" shut, because we hold on to hope, even unwillingly. It's normal and human. Does it help to know that she hasnt banished you from memory? There is probably a 100% chance that she knows it's your birthday. It wouldnt be deluded to know that you will be on her mind, at least at some point during the day. We don't know what she will be thinking, or if her thoughts will move her into action to contact you. It's best to assume the best of the ones we love(d). She'll prbably be thinking good thoughts of you. If she contacts you, she probably means well. If she doesn't, she's probably trying to respect you. Assume the best, expect nothing, and enjoy YOUR day!

[Regrets58]

Got a happy birthday text from ex,felt good to be honest.

Also checked in to see how I was coping on anniversary

of losing my Wife.

Doesn't mean there is any chance of us getting back together.

She says she still cares about me,seems to want to stay in touch.

It is good to know she still thinks about me now and again.

At the end of the day though she chose not to be with me.