Awarth Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Hey everyone, so my ex-gf just got dumped by the guy she left me for..i still wanna get back with her, so what should i do? a little background story..We are both 23..both of us together for 5.5 yrs, she left me 1 year ago for another guy..during this 1 yr, i am on NC with her..with her occasionally calling..i give simple one word answer to most of them.. then today, she called me and asked if i can meet her..i say why, and she tell me that she was dumped and she is v sad blah blah...since i was already outside i say ok..once we met, she just come towards and just hug me and cried on my shoulders..i just stroked her head and kept silent.. and so we talk for a while, she say she is sorry about the pain she had caused me..about how she still cannot forget about me..and small things like she still use my birthday as her phone password.. so everyone..what should i do now? honestly, i still wanna be back with her. ..so how should i proceed from here? should i just keep quiet and let her sort out her feelings first? Thanks everyone!
spicolli Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Unfortunately, you have just exhibited the traits of a doormat. She got dumped by the guy she left you for, calls you up and you meet with her immediately. If i was a gambling man, id say you answered the phone in the first two rings right? When she calls you again to cry about her guy, tell her you have too much on your plate dealing with the problems of the two supermodels you're currently with. All kidding aside, youre a nice person. You have a big heart. You have a lot to offer women. Dont make it so easy on someone who disrespected you. Youre value will disappear in her eyes, and more importantly your own. Best of luck. 2
veggirl Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I can not believe you let your ex cry on your shoulders because a new guy dumped her. And you actually want to be her 2nd choice? Because unfortunately for that, that is what you are. IF THAT. She will likely happily use you for comfort right now but I bet once she is over her break up (if she doesn't get back together with him!) then you will be once again tossed aside for some other guy. Seriously she cries over a guy dumping her so you give her a hug and stroke her hair? I am baffled. Clearly she says jump and you say how high. Not a good dynamic, but one that you just cemented in her mind. This will never work. Girls like guys they can respect, guys who don't bend over backwards when it is undeserved. You need to learn boundaries. I would be sooo insulted if my ex called me to cry over some chick dumping him! Holy crap I can't even imagine it. I certainly wouldn't meet up with him to listen to that s.hit, def wouldn't be comforting him over it! lol omg. I'd tell him to suck it. 1
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