Sox Man Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 So, I met this drop dead gorgeous woman on match.com. I winked and liked her pics, with no response. So last night I decided, WTH, I'll just email her. I did, and low and behold, she responded, and told me she was interested in knowing more about me. In her profile, she said she was old fashioned, wanted a gentleman and "a good guy", and likes for the guy to make the 1st move. I replied,telling her about myself. My reply was about 3 short paragraphs long. I'm wondering if I said too much, because she hasn't replied, even though I know she read my last email. Should I try emailing her again in a few days, or just leave the ball in her court?
Under The Radar Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Op, you have already sent her a nice e-mail. Contacting her again, without her replying to your message first, will decrease your value. You don't want to come off as desperate and lacking other options. She knows you are interested and if she wants to meet you she'll reply to your e-mail.
Author Sox Man Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 yeah, she just replied. how long should we chat before i ask her out
Under The Radar Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 You should ask for her phone number within a few e-mail exchanges. She's no doubt talking to other men so trying to "court" her online is not going to work. You need to meet up with her in person for anything to progress. E-mail exchanges beyond 3 or 4, in my experience, will be counter productive. If she likes your messages she should be comfortable giving you her contact information. Whether you decide to call or text make sure you do not reach out to her again without a legitimate response first.
Author Sox Man Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 She was telling me about her job, and wanted to know more about me. My reply was "I'd like to tell you more about myself, but I'd love to do it in person." Keeping my fingers crossed!
It's Just Me Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I'm an online dating veteran, and I can corroborate the advice you've received. Keep moving the conversation toward meeting in person, ASAP. Do not invest any emotional energy just yet, but stay positive and open. Good luck! 1
FitChick Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 You will find much more advice in the Consolidated Online Dating thread at the top of the first page of this forum.
yongyong Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS PART. The art of asking a girl out is acting like you don't care to meet her but you might care. Most guys will go for # asap and try to see her asap. don't do that. I'm an online dating veteran' date=' and I can corroborate the advice you've received. [b']Keep moving the conversation toward meeting in person, ASAP. [/b] Do not invest any emotional energy just yet, but stay positive and open. Good luck!
yongyong Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 To be honest, that was too soon. you might have blew it. Why a woman would come out to meet a stranger man whom she doesn't know about? you should've gave her just basic info and kept conversation going.... She was telling me about her job, and wanted to know more about me. My reply was "I'd like to tell you more about myself, but I'd love to do it in person." Keeping my fingers crossed!
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